a lot of this may be more about saving male's discomfort about being around someone who's not demonstrating full 'masculinity'
I wholly support male born people who have chosen a different identity, whether trans, NB, whatever, being able to opt out of toxic masculinity and the reactions of men. No one should have to go into a situation and undress/be vulnerable where they feel unsafe, where their dignity and privacy is at risk.
I just believe this applies equally to female born people too.
This is a generous interpretation but if this was the case, third spaces would be gladly accepted. Third spaces are rejected out of hand. Why? Because there are no women in them. Women being present is an intrinsic, necessary part of using women's spaces. This is using women. In fact, as I've just said on another thread, it's using the bodies of those women.
The expectation is that women should not expect to be consulted in this, and that good women will allow their body/physical presence to be used for the betterment and wellbeing of a male, which we know will include males for whom sexual thrill is a part of this.
I don't wholly blame Victoria. Victoria is seeking the entitlement Victoria has been led to believe is their legal due and social due from women, by the rhetoric and ideology and misquoting of the law that is rife from the TRA community. And that women getting stroppy about providing their bodies for use are unkind, uninclusive and wrong. By refusing to put Victoria's needs first and to allow themselves to be used for Victoria's purposes.