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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Sacked by the NSPCC on 12th August,

157 replies

mimivanne · 11/10/2019 13:01

I've not seen this reported anywhere till today but good news.
The rubber fetish wanker who filmed himself in the NSPCC loo at work was dismissed on 12th August ,I hope he isn't employed by another charity.

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Doyoumind · 12/06/2021 14:29

I don't feel sorry for him. I don't care what he does in private but posting ferish images and videos is not compatible with working at a children's charity. If he doesn't understand that, he doesn't belong in that kind of role, even if he has no contact with children. I didn't see people claiming either MB or he were paedophiles. There were simply very sensible concerns about what had been said and done by both and how that reflected on the NSPCC.

nauticant · 12/06/2021 14:29

I captioned one of my videos to say it was filmed ‘in the toilets at work’, and that another in a hotel was filmed on a work trip. For the record; they weren’t. I put that because people find that kind of exhibitionism sexy and dangerous. It only takes one quick search to find the millions of videos that do the same thing, and let’s face it, we all know that most porn isn’t real anyway. I can categorically say that putting that in the captions of those videos will go down in my personal history as the dumbest idea I’ve ever had.

Oh. OK. I was also persuaded by his statements that linking the videos to his real world identity was something involving NSA levels of cyber expertise. I must therefore be mistaken in my recollection at the time that it was linking together a few pieces of apparently already associated data that were in the public domain.

At the end of a long article he wraps up by saying that people should support Mermaids.

MattDamon · 12/06/2021 14:35

"Friends, family, and colleagues knew about my involvement in the fetish scene as it is something I take huge pride in"

What kind of fucked up, banjo-playing family did he grow up in?

TheFnozwhowasmirage · 12/06/2021 14:38

He's not sorry it happened. He's just sorry that he's had to suffer the consequences.

Datun · 12/06/2021 14:39

I don't know about Twitter, but I don't remember anyone here calling him a paedophile. They pointed out the issue of safeguarding, which right through that blog he still doesn't get.

He doesn't appear to understand that a celebrity encouraging children to contact them privately, doesn't have to be motivated by anything sinister, for it to be a safeguarding hazard. Especially when that person is representing the NSPCC.

I mean, where was the training at the NSPCC? Surely its bog standard. Don't do anything that confuses children about the acceptability of eroding boundaries between adults and children.

PearPickingPorky · 12/06/2021 14:42

It’s also totally hypocritical, since none of these TERFs have an issue with the charity working with various cis-gender celebrities that have engaged in public sex, have had sex scandals, or have fully frontal nude imagery freely available, but when its a trans woman who is not ashamed of her sexuality, its suddenly an issue.

WTF?

What bullshit. If the NSPCC was EVER using celebs from the porn industry or celebs who have public sex then I most certainly would have a problem with it. Male or female. In fact, probably more so if female, because of the message that would send to young children who are already at very high risk of sexual exploitation and grooming.

And as for all the rest of that piece. It seems what happened has had a huge effect on him. That's a shame for him. But quite frankly, this is a Children's Protection Charity, and anyone who thought that it was alright to post the sort of things online that he did should not be working in one, even if he did erroneously think that he was doing it anonymously (I don't believe that, however, as there was a link on his LinkedIn bio to his fetish stuff, I saw it. Not sure why he's denying it now).

The only people who should be working with vulnerable children are those who understand the enormous burden of safeguarding, and would therefore never make that mistake. We, as a society, and the NSPCC as a charity, have dropped the ball on safeguarding massively in the last 10-15 years. It needs to be its first and foremost principle. The protection of children is more important than the feelings of their staff and volunteers.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 12/06/2021 14:42

‘Bog standard’ (made me laugh).

aliasundercover · 12/06/2021 14:42

I mean, where was the training at the NSPCC? Surely its bog standard

I think people probably avoid the bogs where he works - I know I would.

TedImgoingmad · 12/06/2021 14:42

That was very boring.

WinterTrees · 12/06/2021 14:53

Full of inconsistencies, excuses, half-truths and actual lies. Also spelling and grammatical errors. If could be bothered, I'd go through with colour-coded highlighter to distinguish each of the above, but it's a sunny Saturday afternoon and frankly, what's the point? He uploaded rubber fetish wank videos supposedly filmed at work in a children's protection charity and lost his job. For which 'error of judgement' he is now, quite rightly, unemployable. It'll take more than slinging around a few misogynist slurs and pointing the finger at nasty busybody feminists to change any of that.

Now, who's for a Magnum?

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 12/06/2021 14:59

He doesn't appear to understand that a celebrity encouraging children to contact them privately, doesn't have to be motivated by anything sinister, for it to be a safeguarding hazard. Especially when that person is representing the NSPCC.

I'm sure I remember another public figure who encouraged children to contact them privately for support. One may well imagine that they intended only the very best. However the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and their housemate has since been charged with offences involving children.

Such risks are exactly why it was inappropriate behaviour.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 12/06/2021 15:02

Wasn’t he responsible for getting someone onboard as an ambassador who has been online saying for young people to contact them (among other faux pas which had cost them jobs/positions) - safeguarding 101 - and genuinely didn’t see an issue ?

Didn’t the NSPCC call everyone hateful meanies and bullies for saying ‘errrr there’s a person online posting videos of themselves masturbating in what they are saying is your offices... not good!’ (also I knew you can have a cigarette/lunch/loo break but this is taking the Mickey)

PearPickingPorky · 12/06/2021 15:04

I think his LinkedIn bio referenced and linked to something which talked about his fetish and his online pseudonym for his fetish stuff, IIRC, and from there the "here's me wanking at work in my rubber fetish suit I wear under my office clothes" video was easily found.

That's my memory of how it went.

TrainedByCats · 12/06/2021 15:04

I found it telling that he said in that lengthy blog post he’d had no interest in working for a children’s charity when he got the job. Wtf did they employ him? There’s lots of people who want to work for charities and it’s not easy getting a job with high profile charity like that.

I see he’s currently employed by Hearst publishers as some sort of influencer, frankly I’m bewildered but the magazines seems to like promoting kinks so maybe he fits right in. The whole Teen Elle dodgy attitude to teen girls stopped me buying any Hearst magazines anyway

WotgunShedding · 12/06/2021 15:10

Wasn't it Munroe bergdorf? Apologies if I've misremembered

toffeebutterpopcorn · 12/06/2021 15:22

It was

allmywhat · 12/06/2021 15:26

(there are false claims that it was linked to my LinkedIn – it wasn’t

Doubt.

He even says below that he doesn’t know how the “TERF trolls” found his videos. Maybe they found his videos because they were on his LinkedIn?

And given his misrepresentation of the Bergdorf situation it’s difficult to believe a single word this person says.

I also appreciated the part where he says he didn’t care about preventing cruelty to children when he started working there and for several years afterwards. I know it’s true that a lot of people working in charity head offices don’t give a fuck about the cause but I mean... it’s preventing cruelty to children.

Oh and the bit drumming up sympathy for the gay men “leading closeted heterosexual lives” needing to have sex clubs. Excuse me if there are other people in that scenario I feel much more sympathy for.

What an awful person, who has no idea how awful he is.

RoyalCorgi · 12/06/2021 15:30

I think his LinkedIn bio referenced and linked to something which talked about his fetish and his online pseudonym for his fetish stuff, IIRC, and from there the "here's me wanking at work in my rubber fetish suit I wear under my office clothes" video was easily found.

Yes. I saw it myself. It was really easy to find.

He seems surprised that the caption "me wanking at work" led people to the conclusion that he was wanking at work.

RoyalCorgi · 12/06/2021 15:31

Wtf did they employ him?

This is another mystery. I remember reading his LinkedIn profile and being astonished that he didn't have relevant experience or qualifications for such an important role.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 12/06/2021 15:34

He seems surprised that the caption "me wanking at work" led people to the conclusion that he was wanking at work.

I remember a really disturbing discussion around this where some people were arguing that it was unfair, and that everyone wanks at work Hmm

Wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 12/06/2021 15:35

He'ss proud feminist for ALL women, apparently.

Thanks mate, we'll manage without you.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 12/06/2021 15:36

No he’s not. I don’t believe he is anyway. I guess if he says he is, then...

EsmaCannonball · 12/06/2021 15:55

He fails to acknowledge that for many of his followers what was 'sexy and dangerous' was someone making porn while supposedly at work for a charity that deals with vulnerable children. That was the boundary violation that gave them the thrill. He also doesn't connect the dots between porn culture, child sex abuse and the environment in which children, especially girls, are being raised. He also admits to exhibitionism as a thrill but fails to acknowledge that violating boundaries of non-consenting people is a risk (perhaps an aim) of exhibitionism. Anyone who seeks to present perpetrators of inappropriate sexual behaviour as marginalised victims immediately sets my alarm bells going. He'd fit right in at Oxfam, poor dear.

StellaAndCrow · 12/06/2021 16:08

This just seems like another form of exhibitionism, telling everyone more and more details about your fetish.

Datun · 12/06/2021 16:14

@EsmaCannonball

He fails to acknowledge that for many of his followers what was 'sexy and dangerous' was someone making porn while supposedly at work for a charity that deals with vulnerable children. That was the boundary violation that gave them the thrill. He also doesn't connect the dots between porn culture, child sex abuse and the environment in which children, especially girls, are being raised. He also admits to exhibitionism as a thrill but fails to acknowledge that violating boundaries of non-consenting people is a risk (perhaps an aim) of exhibitionism. Anyone who seeks to present perpetrators of inappropriate sexual behaviour as marginalised victims immediately sets my alarm bells going. He'd fit right in at Oxfam, poor dear.
Very well explained. Thank you.