When I came back to see if anyone had responded to my post I was in such a state of shock by the end of page 1 and didn't read any more.
Have now read through and am so sad by the comments.
Yes there are, and they are a tiny minority, of families who have probably without planning to do so made a life style choice to "liveoff the state". But for many many families, whether 2 parent or single parent, what they are counting on is the life line that the welfare state is meant to provide.
And it is clear, whether in housing, home care, school or hospital, the UK is failing to do this.
And the one bad choice you might say any of us made was electing Thatcher as so many of her politicies are what has created the cruel culture we now live in. And Labour when it had the chance did not reverse it.
There is a shortage of affordable housing because of the right to buy, made worse by the regulation that any money from those sales cannot go back into building replacement housing. Had that been allowed we would not have the shortage we now have. And Blair's Labour did not reverse this.
The artificial shortage of housing, plus the buy to rent market thriving on the social housing shortage, has created an artificially high price for housing. Added to which this situation creates an opportunity for investors from all over the world to invest in "housing" (really just builidng ot no purpose) which they will never live in, is kept empty, and is traded in much the same way as stocks and shares.
As a country we could have taken all sorts of decisions to ensure a fairer system, but Thatcher and her son, Blair, decided the "market" would decide our housing policy. This attitude is the one that has lead to many parts of the countryside having houses that are empty 5 days out of 7, so that city dwellers can have a nice weekend. Whilst local people are living in insecure, rundown properties.
And this was supported by an increasing consumer led media that focused on home ownership as an absolute necessity, even though the false concept of owning is the one that led to the sub prime martgauge scandal in the US, pushing us all into recession and austerity. Most European countries have a a majoirty or at least 50% living in rented accommodation.
And as someone said up thread HB has been so curtailed it bears no relation to actual rents. And the real scandal is that this HB, which comes from everyones taxes goes into the pocket of private individuals who are milking they system to create a personal fortune. At least if most of HB was going on LA social housing, that HB money would effectively be going back into the system.
Even so called socialist Corbyn wouldn't have the guts to change the system to go back to one that actually worked in the interest of society, because we have all been brainwashed into thinking it is some how shameful to be in social housing.
Social housing was intended to honour those who did essential jobs that we all benefit from (eg nurses) but dont have high salaries.
The inspiration for social housing came from acknowledging the dreadful damage to individuals and families by 2 world wars, and that helping people to become useful members of society was started by giving them the security of their own home.
And early estates did think about how did they connect to bus routes and shopping centres. Or set this up. (Many early estates nearly always had a pub or two!)
Somewhere in the 80s, the loads of money culture, and the sneering at people who didn't aspire to that life style, fed by a complacent white middle class media, what had been a huge achievement for a bankrupt country (the price of winning wars) was turned into a social pariah.
I'm not going to bother googling it, but one European country has done a trial that showed in the end it was cheaper to house people claiming benefits in a proper home and provide them with opportunities to become independent.
Kids living in containers, and being moved on, never have the chance to get a stable education, and are often isolated not just by poverty but distance from any sort of amneties that might make there life a bit more bearable. eg a local library with internet connection. As well as moving them away from the emontional support of family and friends.
When the chickens come home to roost, and society pays the price for treating people who need care not a kick in gut, all the people who let this happen can have it on their conscience that it is there poor life choices that got us here.
focuse15.org/2019/07/26/stranded-in-southend-expectant-mother-told-by-newham-council-that-she-hasnt-been-moved-far-enough-away-yet/
www.hackneycitizen.co.uk/2019/08/22/another-single-mum-days-choose-stoke-trent-homelessness/
Instead of demonising single mothers society should be bloody grateful that so many women have sacrified their life to continue to care for children, when if they had the attitude of some of the posters here, they could have just dumped at the nearest orphanage.
Are the views expressed here the values of mumsnet?

(Agree the article link was not the best but the first one I found after seeing a tv report.)