I’ve always liked the following quote:
If you have more than you need, you’re not supposed to build a wall, you’re supposed to extend your dinner table, add some chairs and share what you don’t need.
I’m happy to help and support those who are less fortunate live in London. I’d sincerely hate for London to become a place solely for the elite and all working class removed.
When I was 16, after many years of living with a terribly violent racist father because my mother was told ‘you’ve made your bed now lie in it’ by her mother, she did as posters here would probably want and put up with abuse and suffering because it was her poor choices that led to it.... only that meant her 4 children suffered too.... Never mind we deserved it, poor choices...
So at 16, with not so much as a sleeping bag he kicked me out in a violent rage, I tried my best to keep attending school but didn’t last long. I had to go on benefits even though I found a little job. I got better jobs, working 6 days, met a nice man and got married and had a child. We both never had parental support so for a time did get child tax credit here in the uk, but now fully support ourselves.
I could be cocky and say, since everything is ok for me now, well despite a rough start I made some good choices so others can do the same and should stop expecting handouts. Except.... I know that if one of us died right now, the other would struggle to support themselves and our child. If I die, my DH is autistic and would struggle to cope and look after our autistic child. If my illnesses or mental health deteriorates again, he might be in a similar position. If he died, we would struggle financially. A lot. I’d probably come right eventually, but I might need help along the way.
It’s very easy to say less fortunate people made their choices, when you yourself have plenty of choices and things planned out ok. To not consider for one second the many many life experiences or unexpected things that can affect how someone manages life... including the system we live in that helps the privileged few maintain their power and hold onto their money, well you’d have to be incredibly heartless and incredibly ignorant. Really. And if you’re on FWR and don’t understand how family violence and Male violence affects poverty, you need to do better.
I’m going to continue to add chairs to my table.