like the restaurant recently mentioned on FWR where a teen girl was protected from rape by the staff enforcing toilet sex segregation against her attacker who had followed her into the loos)
That was a man, presenting as a man. Not a TW and nothing to do with trans people. I think it’s pretty unpleasant to conflate.
Alex Drummond is a bearded trans lesbian who wears typical male clothing. How are we to tell the difference between Drummond and a would-be rapist? We can't. So yes, it is relevant to how bystanders see trans people.
I will go through the likely thought process of the bystander and staff in the restaurant case.
NOW, IN RESTAURANT:
- Clearly male-bodied person making no attempt to pass follows teen girl into ladies' loos
- Bystander sees this and thinks "that's not right" and gets staff
- Staff intervene
- Male-bodied person is interrupted by staff mid-grope before he rapes the girl
NOW, IN UNIVERSITIES:
- Clearly male-bodied person making no attempt to pass follows teen girl into ladies' loos
- Bystander sees this and thinks "that's not right" and gets staff
- Staff say "sorry, we can't stop males from entering the women's loos, it's against policy and we like not being fired"
- Male-bodied person is not interrupted and rapes teen girl
IN FIVE YEARS TIME OR LESS, EVERYWHERE, UNLESS WE STOP THIS NONSENSE NOW:
- Clearly male-bodied person making no attempt to pass follows teen girl into ladies' loos
- Bystander sees this and thinks "that's not right"
- Bystander then thinks "hang on, that might be one of those bearded trans lesbians I've read about in the paper, I'd bettee stay quiet because being accused of transphobia could cost me my job and get me doxxed"
- Bystander does nothing
- Male-bodied person is not interrupted and rapes teen girl
This is why women are scared, we can see how this works. Entitled selfish males like Alex Drummond, who are in appearance and attitude are identical to all other entitled males, have caused this fear by creating an environment where we cannot tell a transwoman from a man and will be censured for trying to, even as part of a good-faith attempt to make protect women and girls
This is why I, a university employee, am seriously looking to quit the sector even though I love my job and am proud of my work in STEM education. I one day may have to choose between safeguarding women and girls and having a job, because I am not supposed to challenge a male in the loos even if I see one of our primary aged outreach girls walk into the loo followed by a male making no attempt to pass as a transwoman. It hasn't happened yet but I think it's only a matter of time. I hope that when it does happen, I will have the courage to do the right thing.