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Banned from women-only FB group

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maet · 14/07/2019 00:47

A trans woman edited by MNHQ because OP is using second language posted in a women's only FB group wanting free emotional labour and "validation" from untrained women to help them with getting over their abusive ex boyfriend.

I stated it wasn't appropriate to ask untrained women to take on their emotional labour, especially considering what had happened to them was so traumatic (according to them they ended up in hospital), and especially not for free and suggested they seek professional help instead.

Cue trans woman and women stating I was being transphobic, and "wouldn't understand the fear a marginalised group would go through."

I was told I hadn't been through a traumatic experience before so couldn't possibly understand what the OP was going through.

I've been banned from a group specifically designed for women. Nowhere in the post did I mention anything about the OP being trans.

I am so sick of this shit. The world has gone mad.

OP posts:
Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 00:55

Hahahah Roses it's not all about you. Read again.

Goodness. How... interesting.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:01

Transwomen are allowed in the group as they're seen as women though.
That's their rules.

That male trans people are allowed in this group as "women" doesn't remotely change anything about it being a problem for women's groups that they are deliberately targeted by TRAs to destabilise the groups, get rid of any dissenting voices and change the nature of them.

What choice would they have had about it? I've seen what happens to public closed women's groups which hold out as female only, and it isn't pretty.

OccasionalKite · 15/07/2019 01:02

OP is being brigaded for her heresy.

The OP's original community got disrupted by a community disruptor.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:03

So you can say "rules are rules" until the end of time. The problem is the dynamic. This woman was smeared as transphobic for no reason.

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:03

Occasional I really wish you could see how you come across.
Do you all think we can't read or something?
Utterly, utterly bizarre.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:04

LOL.

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:05

This woman was smeared as transphobic for no reason

You don't know it was for no reason. Unless you were there.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:06

I'm taking what she said on good faith. She said she didn't mention they were trans.

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:06

Lol indeed, I don't know why somebody wants to come across like they've been taken over by a bot Grin

GirlDownUnder · 15/07/2019 01:06

It wasn't really to you, it was more in response to Occasional and Datun 

Oh ok 👍 So, did you answer my question? I've read back and can't see it, so if you could tell me where to look, that would help Smile

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:06

And you weren't there either, were you?

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:07

And you weren't there either, were you?

No, i wasn't. Which is why I'm going by what's been said on the thread.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:07

Lol indeed, I don't know why somebody wants to come across like they've been taken over by a bot

LOL again. You crack me up.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:08

No, i wasn't. Which is why I'm going by what's been said on the thread.

What a load of people randomly made up, rather than the OP's account? Well, you do you.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:08

Only 110 left!

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:09

What a load of people randomly made up, rather than the OP's account? Well, you do you

As in the OP and what she's said on here.

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:10

Only 110 left!

Grin I might crack you up, but you don't half me as well lol

GirlDownUnder · 15/07/2019 01:10

Which is why I'm going by what's been said on the thread.

Or not said, or inferred, or said by someone other than the OP, while ignoring the OP

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:10

She quite clearly said she didn't mention that they were trans, before she was accused of "transphobia".

I've been banned from a group specifically designed for women. Nowhere in the post did I mention anything about the OP being trans.

OccasionalKite · 15/07/2019 01:10

OP is being brigaded for her heresy.

The OP's original community got disrupted by a community disruptor.
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RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:12

I stated it wasn't appropriate to ask untrained women to take on their emotional labour

I'm wondering if she'd say that to a biological woman asking for support in an abusive relationship?

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:12

As you've said, about 15 times. And you wonder why you get accused of disrupting.

Ereshkigal · 15/07/2019 01:13

Also please address the relevant point I made.

GirlDownUnder · 15/07/2019 01:13

Oh oh oh Roses we're running out of posts, so please help me out!

Oh ok 👍 So, did you answer my question? I've read back and can't see it, so if you could tell me where to look, that would help

Thanks

RosesAndRaindrops · 15/07/2019 01:14

It was relevant because you literally just said this
She quite clearly said she didn't mention that they were trans, before she was accused of "transphobia"

It does come across as what I quoted as would you say that to a biological woman?

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