It's pretty offensive and exclusionary to suggest that the reality of being a woman can be reduced to a feeling in a man's head.
Too bloody right.
Tell me: if subjective internal feelings are prioritised over material reality, what challenge does this provide to extant power structures? No challenge. Because the subjective feelings of anyone who already has control of power structures will be privileged. And so it came to pass: the subjective inner feelings of heterosexual, mostly white, mostly class-privileged males are taking precedence over the hundred year struggle for women's rights.
Genderism is a regressive, power-protecting, sexist, libertarian ideology.
Maya's case illustrates this perfectly.