Caroline farrow support thread 2

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Hi I'm a long time lurker, who read with disgust the last thread and wants to send , to caro. I've scanned since last thread finished for new one but no luck! Hope no one minds if I start one!

Still in solidarity Caro

You are not the abuser, Caro - you are shining a spotlight on a very dubious ideology that impacts on women's rights and children. You are raising awareness of some of the very questionable medical treatment being pushed on children who may be gender non-conforming, or just a bit confused about their identity.

Keep going.

Caro I’m sorry I know this is getting to you but I’d urge you to read Grey rock and follow it. I understand the frustrations but you’re going to play into their hands if you react the way they want you to. Sending a hug

( most ) women have empathy, men do not.

The gaslighting by TRAs I've witnessed on here, over the past couple of days, has been truly breathtaking.

We can all see it.

What was the dancing monkey? I missed something there. I quite like monkeys but they can be pretty filthy.

For those who missed it

donawheeler.wordpress.com/2015/09/17/ignoring-the-narcissist-how-to-spot-the-monkey-dance/

They targeted the kids before. Posted identifying information about them NOT linked to my social media. And told the world how they had worked this information out, leading other unstable people to it.

So those people banging on about my Insta, demonstrate that they have not only been stalking me, because they know the brief window it was open & when it shut, and why on Earth would someone who has threatened to come to my DH’s church with a golf club, have any kind of benign intent in looking at my Insta?

Anyhoo, the police admit that what was happening was wrong, though they said it was malicious comms not harassment and they interviewed the suspect under caution. He claimed that there was a team of 8-15 of them doing it and they said it wasn’t worth their while grabbing the IT.

He then reported me for harassment because desperate for him to stop, I contacted his listed employer on LinkedIn because he was churning out over 50 blogs a day which had to be in work time.

I also contacted a family member whose business details he had advertised on his website, to ask if they could perhaps intervene or help, because this was causing us such distress. I mean it was up to 50 posts a day saying the most terrifying things.

So he reported me for harassment and the police dismissed the whole thing. So he carries on, making violent threats and ordering me pizzas etc, his best friend who called me a pedophile on 4 different occasions reports me to the police for naming her and basically I get clobbered as the abuser. And the whole Susie Green thing just escalated it.

Hope this isn’t deleted.

Have you thought about a private prosecution?

I’ve got a legal plan of action.

But basically what’s happened is that I’ve had a gang of trolls on my case for about 7-8 years. Always the same names.

Along have come the TRAs to make common cause with them & defend them, but I don’t think they realise how bad the history is. One of their newbie friends has been friends for over 20 years with the man discussing disfiguring our faces with acid and was deeply involved with his abusive sock puppeting when it began.

But they have to double down, deny, minimise and blame me for everything.

All I can do is carry on and while it’s vile and I am no shero, i see myself as a lightening conductor allowing everyone else to do their important work. While they target me, it keeps them away from others.

I don't understand the police , targeting you children is surely child abuse or endangering, that is serious.
They need to do something, if something was to happen and they did nothing how will this look?.
What will they say? . It's disgusting!
I'm so cross , I can't vocalise just how much this brings it home how real women's concerns are treated.

if something was to happen and they did nothing how will this look?

That literally happens all the time to women. The police have been getting away with it a long time

Caro I hope your legal plan includes a formal complaint to the Police and keep escalating it through the system if need be. This part of your post:

Anyhoo, the police admit that what was happening was wrong, though they said it was malicious comms not harassment and they interviewed the suspect under caution. He claimed that there was a team of 8-15 of them doing it and they said it wasn’t worth their while grabbing the IT.

Smacks of dereliction of duty and if they had done their job properly things would not have escalated in the way they have.

You couldn't make it up.

Where do these sad people get the time to do this? Don't they have jobs/ family/ hobbies/ friends?

We should them pity them really.

Happy to go on record to say how appalling Surrey police have been.

Imagine, you have a deranged man phoning you up at all hours, making threats to come here, identifying your address (which wasn’t obvious), phone numbers, ex partner & his employers, sexually humiliating you, signing you up to porn & dating sites, ordering you sex toys, identifying your kids schools,you tell the police how upset you are and they call SS on you?

Then drop the whole thing because it’s ‘2 middle aged people having a spat.’ Ring you up for misgendering, the stalking and harassment continues and you are too scared to go to the police?

This is why I am being ‘undignified’. Because while I am not going to allow myself to be a victim, something needs to be done.

Thanks for this thread OP. Still here supporting you, Caro

Inspired by your bravery and that of the OP in the genderfree thread, I have this morning declared myself to be agender or genderfree on a forum that can be seen by all of my colleagues. At the same time, I’ve made very clear that there are only 2 sexes (intersex accepted), my sex is female and that sex and gender are separate issues. It was part of a discussion about gender and one man was getting a pasting for pointing out there are two sexes. It’s only a small thing compared to what you are doing but I have to be extremely careful where I work. Thank you for making me feel brave

My pity is reserved for non aggressive individuals who deserve it!
( sorry I know you're joking! )

This whole thing fills me with impotent rage, I thought the world I was bringing my children into was supposed to be getting better , not worse , the fight never ends , its like walking uphill .
( sorry 😐 it just makes me so tired! )

Also, to be clear, as a result of their being doxed, my family got a safeguarding referral from a professional before Christmas, which had nothing to do with my Instagram account.

We are now in the situation of having to seriously think about finding a new school, which is no mean feat with 5 children, 1 midway through Year 10 and the others in primary schools.

Protecting other vulnerable children from a lifetime of unnecessary medical intervention seems to have come at a great cost to my own.

PS as I type DH has announced that another pizza 🍕 has turned up. You just have to laugh!!! Worra bunch of losers.

Ugh. massive solidarity with Caroline.
The misogyny and bullying of her is a horror show and sickening to watch. As is the DARVO.

I didn’t RTFT before posting, I can’t believe the stalking was still going on yesterday. Wow, just unbelievable that nothing is being done by the police. I’m pleased to hear you have a legal plan, this is just appalling.

PS as I type DH has announced that another pizza 🍕 has turned up.

What! Are they paying for these?? I mean turning away a pizza is no real hassle - but it is definitely an "I know where you live" thing, which is a threat.

Where do these sad people get the time to do this? Don't they have jobs/ family/ hobbies/ friends?

I'm not sure they do tbh. Well, they have one hobby of course - harassing women.

Maybe if your husband complains there will be some action. Doesn’t the Church have good lawyers?

caro

Silly thing to say as you've probably already done it but maybe you should contact all the takeaways that deliver to your area and tell them not to deliver to you

It'll make ordering a takeaway for yourself a pain in the arse

I think I said this yesterday Caro, but please remember to mention the escalation in intensity and pattern of behaviour if/when you speak to the police. This is an important red flag and one they should know not to ignore, especially when it comes to malicious comms and male harassment of women.

Your strength and resilience are astonishing, by the way. I am in awe. Please take care of yourself.