you're not "allowed" to say you feel like a woman.
You get dismissed. Not the right answer. Apparently.
Of course you can say you 'feel like' a woman. However it must also be acknowledged that many many other women do not 'feel like' women, they just feel like them and they ARE women, by being adult human females. Woman is not a feeling, its a reality. You are free to feel like whatever you want, but feeling like something doesn't make you it. I wish feeling like something made you it. I would feel like Angelina Jolie tbh. If we just go on which sex people 'feel like', then people like me do not exist at all!
I don't find the feminist boards aggressive at all. It was a bit of a shock when I first came here to see women stating their views so forcefully mind, but this was because I am used to women..toning themselves down as to appear 'nice'. The time for nice is over, to be quite honest. Being nice led us to the shitshow we have today, where thousands upon thousands of people with penises are declaring themselves to be women and demanding access to women only areas. Meanwhile, something like 5000 genuine transsexual people exist, but we are being asked to extend the courtesy we give to transsexual people to 500k other 'trans' people, some of whom change nothing at all about themselves, are proud of their penises and pressure lesbians to shag them because 'transphobia'.
Transphobia is such a useless word these days, because of TRAs, and many libfems, who seem to think that discussing the biological reality of women is transphobic, as is criticizing any aspect of the transactivist narrative.
From reading this thread, it appears some users have been called men and find this to be an insult. Don't worry, I would find being called a man an insult myself, as speaking broadly, men have absolutely no clue about feminism and give not a shit about women, and a whole bunch of them actively abuse women. With NAMALT disclaimer obviously. Transactivists are no different. They are generally males who simply hate women, while claiming to be us. Transactivists are extremely similar to MRAs, I think there is huge crossover between the two, and many of those calling themselves transactivists today are simply MRAs who have found another way to attack women. Except this time they get to appear 'woke' while abusing women and telling them to shut the fuck up, and they have thousands of lefty dudebros lined up who are willing to agree with them and also abuse women and dehumanize them with 'terf' and such, generally followed by various threats of violence. How progressive!
Meanwhile these very same transactivists declare people who actually have dysphoria as 'truscum' and abuse them also. Yet they claim to be fighting for them.
Sorry for the large post about trans stuff. However I get that this thread started off being about how 'aggressive' FWR is but its clear from the main complainants that the real issue is the trans thing, as per usual.
So I don't find FWR aggressive at all. And I have massive massive differences of opinion with many members on here. I have had disagreements about abortion (in short, pro-choice but I don't think abortion should be available up to term..and it seems many members do and think my opinion means I am not actually pro-choice), I have had disagreements about various aspects of the trans debate, I have had disagreements about male violence, and pretty much any feminist topic you can think of. But disagreements are part of a discussion forum. I find it utterly hilarious that some claim that everyone agrees on here, that its an echo chamber and so on. We are not a hive mind. Which is something that should definitely be remembered when the whole of FWR is being blamed for a few members doing something some members disagree with. FWR is on the whole respectful, and certainly not transphobic. I have seen some dreadful transphobic threads posted before, really horrible stuff. It was deleted really quickly, which proves FWR members actually reported it. Some of such threads were deleted within seconds of being posted, however oddly enough, those who screenshot for twitter manage to catch EVERY single one of these threads before their fast deletion. Oh, and the members who posted the transphobic threads have absolutely 0 posting history. Which says to me, that those screenshoting each of these threads, were the very same people who posted them.
FWR is a robust place, of course it is given the topics we discuss. But many people disagreeing with you is not a 'pile on', its just something that happens sometimes.
As someone pointed out too, not too long ago, GC voices were rare in this section, and near everyone would disagree with posters who posted GC stuff. The GC posters did not declare that it was an echo chamber, and that everyone piled on them and them refuse to even discuss stuff and moan in other areas of the forum about how horrible the FWR posters were and how their views are shouted down, then hide FWR. They stuck with it, kept arguing their point (as it was important to them), and then slowly, others started coming round to the view too. Yes now FWR is mainly GC, but it was not always that way. And I understand that there are a lot of trans threads here, however self ID is an imminent threat to womens rights, possibly the largest there has ever been as if we lose the ability to describe ourselves, if the word woman is meaningless, womens rights are gone. Those who disagree, well, they never even seem to be able to come up with a definition of woman. Women are women, and transwomen are transwomen. Cis is sexist bollocks, and FWR is welcoming, on the whole. We have some passionate women, who have overcame their female socialization and will argue their case just as forcefully as a man would, this is an amazing thing IMO! I am still attempting to get to that stage myself, to overcome the need to preface everything I say with 'I am sorry if this comes across forceful' and stuff. Just don't expect anti-woman views to get much traction, and if you disagree with the majority, then yes, a few people may reply to you at once. This is not a pile on or anyone trying to shout you down, this is a utterly normal thing on a forum with so many members. Just..pick a few of the replies to reply to? Rather than running away saying that people all piled on. Its not hard. As I say, I disagree with large amounts of people and have had like 20/30 replies disagreeing with me in a short space of time, obviously you cannot reply to every one of those people so I just like, pick one or two and reply directly to them, then address kind of the whole thread too.
As for the complaints about people being called TRAs/MRAs..I am sorry it has happened to people who are not TRA/MRAs, but for you to be called that you must have came across that way, using TRA/MRA talking points. Maybe we should stop calling out MRAs. However the likes of our constant midnight visitors are clearly MRAs. As are a fair few other posters, like the ones who will join and make a thread about how nasty feminists are, and not all men...women do it too, people commit violence, loads of false rape claims, men suffer more domestic abuse than women do, why are you scared of penises, etc etc...well those people I will continue to call out as obvious MRAs. I don't personally use MRA/TRA to anyone unless I am sure thats what they are. But I am not here to tone police other women like some seem to want to do.
This post was WAY longer that I meant it to be. But TL;DR, despite disagreeing on many topics, I don't find FWR aggressive at all. I would say that the majority of people who feel that way have expressed anti woman views on here at one stage or another and had their arse handed to them. Not ALL people who feel that way of course. But the likes of the TRAs who claim we are all vipers and unwelcoming, fuck yeah we are unwelcoming to those who don't give a shit about womens rights and actively want to erode them. As for the echo chamber accusations, IMO those are also bollocks as we disagree with each other all the time. The only thing we seem to actually agree on is that self ID poses huge risks to women and girls. Something TRAs keep claiming is not the case and it won't affect us, and it will not affect anything much really at all. if that was the case, then why are you fighting so aggressively for it? Why the need to lie to schools and the likes about how self ID is already law, and get them to think single sex areas are already illegal? Hmm.