Maryz I am an ordinary woman with school going daughters.
I have one daughter in Brownies and one in Guides. In all honesty, if there was a child who had been born male but identified as female, who had the courage to want to join Brownies/Guides I would encourage my daughters to accept them and would have no problem with them going on residentials with them.
I think cases of prisoners should be dealt with on an individual basis.
I do have an issue with sports, due to the obvious differences in physical strength. I think it needs to be monitored closely and I don’t claim to know what the answer is.
Have there actually been any cases of trans people causing issues in women’s refuges? I believe that vulnerable women have the right to be cared for appropriately in women only spaces of course. However, trans women may also be abused by partners and also may need the help of a refuge. So where should they go? Again, it surely should be dealt with on a case by case basis.
I am a teacher and have seen the increase in students struggling with gender issues, particularly identifying as non-binary. This worries me as I don’t like the idea of ‘female traits’ and ‘male traits’ and worry about girls thinking that just because they are not ‘typically girly’ (as they see it) they must not be a girl. That said, if they choose to be called by a different name or a different pronoun I respect that is their right and would never dream of being so insulting as calling them by their original name/ gender pronoun deliberately. For them that would be devastating and cruel, and it annoys me to see that happening on these boards.
I do continually tell my daughters that there are not ‘boys things’ and ‘girls things’ , that they can be anything they want to be.
More pressing feminist issues to me: the gender pay gap, abortion rights in Ireland, the low conviction rates for rape and media coverage of recent cases, womens’ rights to education around the world, period poverty around the world, the fact that our prime minister met with the crown prince of Saudi Arabia despite their appalling women’s rights record.
Why don’t I start a thread on these issues? Because I think there are more effective ways of bringing about change, such as being a role model to my daughters, trying my best to educate students in school about these issues when I get the chance, signing petitions... and because I’m pretty busy as a full time working single parent and usually come on mumsnet for some light relief! But somehow tonight this thread pushed my buttons.