I do think it is true that there is some blame on all three sides here.
But what for years has been a well recognised and studied medical problem involving 0.01% (one in ten thousand) people around the world has somehow been hijacked over the past five years or so by several factions.
This seems to be because of the chinks of access they have seen with both the GRA - though that was law for a decade before this took off so less important than most think here I believe - and, more importantly, the Equality Act, as it was passed just before this really all got serious and actually is where the key issues of access and denial of access are defined.
So, yes, those involved in gender politics on both sides of the debate have realised there is a battle that could define the future of modern civilisation. And I agree that there is because self defining gender would have implications well beyond transgender activists. It would recast all of how everybody thinks.
Some of that may prove to be good for women, but some will definitely not. And, of course, it is true that some powerful forces out there - such as news barons - have sensed that and joined the debate in a desire to influence it and get sales off the back of it.
So there is a lot going on here and I am not diminishing its significance at all because it is obvious to see how fundamentally it will effect women - even those not aware of that fact yet.
However, oddly, very little of this really has anything to do with that core transsexual population - the 0.01% - although we are caught very firmly in almost everybody's cross hairs as a result of it.
A few of us are slowly waking up to that because as a small, unstructured group of people usually living quietly and without any leaders or community, we have generally not seen this bubbling antipathy as being framed around us. But as some odd people out there that are seemingly as baffling to us as they are to you.
One huge problem is the creation in America of the term transgender to cover such a vast swathe of gender non conformity that the very different and physically transitioned basis of the small transsexual community has become swallowed up and lost inside.
As you can see from the figures above - we are maybe 5000 or so in the UK in a population of 65 million. Or a bit more if you add the ones not legally registered (though most who are transsexual will if they can for obvious reasons of protection).
And the transgender community - many of whom just want to self identify, express themselves in a rag tag list of gender identities - from pangender to gender fluid to agender (I don't know or understand what most of the 22 gender terms they have 'identified' mean any more than you either) - well they are seemingly 120 times bigger as a group and extremely active and litigious!
So we have disappeared to the point of irrelevance and because of our desire just to get on with life and make no demands as has been the case for half a century did not even notice what was going on until recently like many of you did.
We had been brought up being told that our medical diagnosis was transsexual - because we knew we had a physical body of one sex but believed innately for some reason that this mismatched with our inner sense of what it should be. It was not about expression or toys or clothes and just a kind of split personality.
As such we knew it was obviously something wrong somewhere inside of us because we understand reality and were not seeking to redefine it.
We went to doctors for help and the only successful cure they had - or still have - was physical transition to the maximum science could achieve, never enough, never actual biological transition, but which is improving all the time.
Indeed the first transsexual woman is expected to give birth before 2030 according to experts in this area. And breast feeding by trans women has been possible to increasing degrees for a while but is not practised yet by us voluntarily out of concern it might harm the baby until an ongoing study is completed into the potential risks.
We awoke to the row exploding all around us slowly over the last 2 - 3 years and have discovered the term transsexual has been replaced by transgender as it has to cover all those who just want to express themselves differently and dress and act as they choose. Because 'they are trans too and deserve the same recognition'.
This year the term transsexual was even officially removed.
Well, those of us so diagnosed over the past 50 years have started to reclaim it because we think the distinction is important. So you will see it used over and over on here and when you do this is why.
I think the difference will be quite easy for you to spot.
If a person has taken major steps to modify their body as far as science allows, or their own state of health allows, whilst recognising that this has not changed our biological sex (indeed we had to sign medical waivers confirming we understood that before surgery was allowed), and then has just got on with life happily and does not make demands of anyone about what words mean what or how it is possible to be a woman in possession of a functioning penis (a dangerously ludicrous statement) and is willing to work with you to enforce intimate same sex spaces because we do understand the reasons they have been protected within the laws - then they are almost certainly transsexual. Not 'transgender'.
And if they believe it is not necessary to look, act,or have any features of a woman and only need fill out a form and declare that and have the right to flip flop back as they choose and the rest of you should call them what they tell you and you should call yourself cis (insulting and pointless when the difference is already clear as you are trans or not trans) and that access to all spaces should be automatic on demand without having to have any kind of assessment or medical investigation or need to provide any evidence of long term persistence or permanence or ability to integrate successfully and usefully into society for two years without any residual negative effects on their mental health - and if they bypass all those existing rules to get recognised because they 'choose not to on principle' and just say 'I am a woman' and if you disagree then you are a bigot and they will run to the police.....well they are probably transgender.