For what it's worth, here is my overall view.
Lily Madigan, on a personal level, seems to me to be a remarkably unpleasant person with an MRA agenda that LM attempts to conceal via a trans identity. There may, or may not, be underlying vulnerability there but, such is the harm LM is doing, this should take a back seat to analysis of LM's actions. As time goes on, the MRA agenda becomes more and more obvious as an emboldened LM becomes less and less cautious. This is my impression based on observing the furore around LM.
But more important is the way in which LM is emblematic of an aggressive faction within the Labour party, which comprises transactivists, sexist men, and pomo-brainwashed allies. The Labour leadership does not appear to recognise the damage this faction is doing. Or perhaps it does but believes it can be contained within a limited social media echo chamber, so won't affect its vote in any significant way.
These things seem to me to be considerably more significant than whether or not I rearrange my syntax to be somewhat awkward but to avoid what appears to be blasphemous use of pronouns to anyone following the gender identity religion.
MNHQ - I can see you are in difficulties. I don't wish to add to them but, as AngryAttackKittens said on another thread, I think most of us here have reached the point where any capitulation is tantamount to negotiating with terrorists. I hope you can see that many of us aren't prepared to do this.