History has proven time and time again that the middle ground if often the way forward. There is surely some common ground to be found in the venn diagram of womanhood?
Can you describe this diagram? Tell me what attributes belong in each of the little circles such that I (traditionally thought of as a woman) am in one which intersects with transwomen, but my sons and male partner aren't in that intersection?
Basically, I'm a programmer. My world is consists of me defining things for a living. I know, that if someone asks me to write a report, I need to be able to define exactly what they want in that report, because 'fuzzy' just doesn't exist. I am looking for a definition of woman that makes transwomen are women == true, with some justification other than 'because I say so'
I can define female and woman as I see them if it helps.
Personally, I'd be happy to hand femininity over to the transwomen if they want it so much, but I know that most women are more feminine than me, and quite like wearing dresses and lipstick occasionally, so since I don't feel strongly either way myself, I say lets share that. Anyone can be feminine. Woman is a matter of biology though. If DP and I bump uglies, only one of us could ever get pregnant, and it will always be me. That's why I'm a woman, and he's a man.