can you elaborate? If it's not a tangent.. is it like a subconscious survival instinct that makes women choose to be sexist and perpetuate patriarchy?
Some of it is ingrained. In the way gender stereotypes are. We may know logically that men and women are equal, but socially we react as we’ve been “trained”. There is no reason I shouldn’t buy my nephew a doll for his birthday if that’s what he’d like, but in reality would even the most feminist of us actually do it?
My grandmother and mother were of those strange generations where they knew women could do anything a man could. Granny lived through two world wars where women had to step up and do mens jobs. My mum was born in the 40’s but had children in the 70’s, and thinking at that time was that the sexes should be raised equally- you should buy boys dolls and girls cars. But also women should stay at home and look after the house and children.
So she inadvertantly raised me as a feminist, knowing i can do anything a man can. She thought i should give up work to have children, but also constantly tells me i’ll be bored at home and should keep my career going. The thing that stands out though is the automatic deference to men- serving first at meals, bigger, choice portions. Always asking what the men want, saying they need to sit down after a day at work with dinner ready. It isn’t conscious, but she wouldn’t offer me a drink first in the same way so many people wouldn’t buy a pink t- shirt with a “girly” slogan on it for a boy.