Can I still be a feminist....confused

[genehuntswife]

Trying to cut a long story short.
I was a SAHM for a long time, loved it and have a fab husband who has always treated me as an equal , finances totally shared etc. When eldest became a teen we moved to a big 4 bed house and I started work as a childminder ( still love it) to help pay for the extra costs.
Eldest has now left home, youngest about to go to uni next year...and I’ve started to get a lot of joint pain , my mum had quite bad arthritis and I think that’s the way I’m heading. So lots of talking with hubby and we’ve decide that next year we’ll sell the house, move to a nice two bedder and I’ll stop working and take on the bulk of the home making and he’ll keep bringing in the money.
I’m happy staying at home, trust him completely financially and it will help a lot not having young children to lift etc.
But..I’m only 47 , just got into feminism and I just have a feeling I’m letting the side down.
I’d like your thoughts please

[DeleteOrDecay]

I am a sahm and consider myself to be a radical feminist. It may not be a 100% feminist choice but ultimately it’s what works best for our family at this point in time.

You can still be a feminist whilst also understanding and being aware that some of the choices you make don’t happen in a vacuum and they may not be a completely feminist choice.

Also what pratchett said.

[Ineedacupofteadesperately]

MrsTerryPratchett - spot on! That's my feminism too. I wish we lived in a world where unpaid caring work was valued as much as paid work (especially given that a lot of paid work is actually less essential than unpaid caring). Sadly, we don't yet.

[Rhynswynd]

I see feminism as having the choice to do what you want and what suits you. If staying home suits you tgen that us perfect. If you desperately wanted to be out working and your dh wouldn't let you that would obviously be a problem.
Feminism is about that choice (as well as loads of other stuff)

[IfyouseeRitaMoreno]

feminism is also about recognising women's historic contribution to daily life quality through domestic work and child care.

Amen to that

[Saz432]

Oh I totally get this! I had to stop working years ago due to illness and spent a few years in complete mental crisis over losing my financial independence etc. It was only when I accepted that if the tables were turned I would do the same for my husband without a second thought that I was able to get past it.

If you can afford to not work, you can not work - it's okay! Nothing wrong with it if that's your choice, health issues or not.