"“assigned male at birth” because that is usually the polite way of talking on that subject in the transgender community. Saying “born a boy” upsets a large group of people"
A large part of the problem that women have with transwomen is your tendency to get "upset" by actual facts and physical reality.
Nobody "assigned" you a sex when you were born. It was just clear to everyone who was at your birth, be it the doctor, midwife, nurses, your own mother and father and whoever else changed your nappies that you actually were a boy.
"“Feeling female.” ... extreme feeling of aversion toward being perceived as a male."
Most older women have an extreme feeling of aversion toward being perceived as old & fat but they don't go around telling people "I feel like Victoria's Secret models, so I am one. You are exclusionary and _phobic if you don't accept that I am a supermodel with a gorgeous body". That would be crazy.
"Usually, I socially interact much more naturally with women then men."
I interact more naturally with men than women. So?
"I enjoy feminine, pretty things…"
I don't care for feminine, "pretty" things. Again, so? That doesn't mean I am a man or "feel like a man".
"and feel natural when wearing dresses or makeup"
I don't. It's a chore to doll up and teeter on heels for the few events I need to get dressed up for. Again... so what?
"I am kind and nurturing, and genuinely enjoy taking care of people"
Many women aren't and don't. Again, so what? That doesn't mean they are not women.
"I have an aversion toward fighting and violence"
So do many men. I don't mind it, myself.
None of the above makes me NOT a woman. None of it makes me a man, either. Similarly, none of your preferences re the above makes you a woman or not a man.
I get that you want to get doll up and you should do what makes you happy. I also get that you want to be a woman and not a man. But we sometimes desire what we are not and it's part of being an adult to see and accept reality.