"The current system may be providing checks and balances." Not really, those that get off on feeling "womanly" often seek boob jobs and hormones. One could argue they are even more disturbed, than those that don't. But obviously this "self identifying" lets in any men at all.
Agree with WinchesterWoman. Most males from the "late onset" group are highly manipulative. Many men in general are diagnosed as narcissists. Because narcissism comes from entitlement, and most males feel entitled, as the whole society tells them how great men are etc. When they start dressing up, and other men snigger at them or give them funny looks, because they think they are gay men. These men are shocked, as they are not used to such treatment. When women say no to them, they blow up into a rage, because they are so used to having women fawn all over them, and comply with their every desire. Simply put because they are men, they are used to being treated like kings, when they are not, they feel like their world is ending. There is no point trying to reason with narcissists, they are one of worse groups, most mental health workers do not want to work with them. Because they never want to change, just manipulate, they are like spoilt children, only often dangerous.
One of these men even went on a site, and tried to claim radical feminists are happy being called "terfs", and invented the term. Therefore it is ok for these men to use it like men used to use the word witch, to target women who would not submit to them. That is level of manipulation (narcissism) these men have, i'm talking about "late onset" group here. It is mostly these men who run the trans orgs, there are also homophobic parents who run some of the orgs for kids, and at least one prominent Ftt.
The motivations for a Ftt or a "early onset" mtt are different. They have to keep reassuring themselves what they have done to themselves is the right thing. Focusing on sex role non-conforming kids, and encouraging them to believe the are opposite sex, helps them achieve this. The motivations are different for the three different groups, but they are all equally harmful, when they are promoting it to others.
Ultimately if a woman sees gender as a role imposed on women to keep us in our place, then there is no compromise to be had. The whole ideology has to go, of course men will fight tooth and nail to keep it (especially those who can justify their fetishes through it). Just as men fought women at every turn, for every other right women achieved. This is why it is so important to support other women over men and their egos/feelings, and why we have feminism and sisterhood.