Who is the main driver in your relationship? You or DP?

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Just curious, if you and DP/DH are both in the car at the same time, who drives?

For us it's DH 99% of the time as he 'can't relax' when I'm driving, and to the honest, it's just easier for me to leave him to it and then I get a chance to relax/day dream/look at phone myself. When I do drive he is constantly on edge and comments, grrrr! He clearly thinks he is a much better driver.

With my parents, it's the same. Dad always drives. Even if they are in Mum's car.

H usually drives if it's a longer journey as I'm more comfy as a passenger than he is. If he's not 100% I'll do the driving though.

Otherwise it depends who's car we're in. I drive mine, he drives his.

Me. Always me. DH is very happy to relax and be driven although he's the more competent driver. The only exception is when we're going a long way when he'll drive because he's faster.

50/50 - I drive the kids to and from school and then I'm at work, DH drives all day as part of his work.

Weekends we take in turns to drive somewhere and the other drive back depending on which of us has won the toss as to who's getting pissed.

I prefer to do the driving, I love it and thanks to living in sweden for 4 years and a ex who was a racing driver I aint bad at pedalling and even better in the snow.

I have noticed quite a lot of men get intimidated by my driving and the current BF won't drive my car as it scares him.

Depends if we have the kids with us. If we do, we go in my wav as DS needs the wheelchair. I always drive my car as he makes me twitch with his late braking. If it's just the two of us we'll go on his and he'll drive. Generally because if we go out on our own it's to socialise where I'll drink and he prefers not too.

It depends on which car we take.

He drives his, I drive mine.

DH does drink less than me usually - so if it's a night out he will be the driver.

It's all me, DH doesn't have a licence - we grew up in London where you really don't need one, and the car we currently have is my company car so there's no benefit to him learning.

When he does pass his test I suspect it'll be me doing the smaller local trips and then navigating for him on longer ones - because his sense of direction is so bad he couldn't navigate his way out of a paper bag. I like driving so it doesn't bother me but it would be nice for him to do some of it when I'm tired.

My DDad is one of the least sexist or 'entrenched' people I know and he drives my stepmum everywhere - because she is an utterly, utterly useless driver. I'm genuinely not sure how she passed her test.

One of my driving heroes is Doris Craven, the lady who drove the wall of death in the 1930s with a adult female lion!!!!

I have this picture framed. Whenever I see the picture it always gives me a confidence boost and quietens any anxieties.

Mostly him when we're both in the car. Say, 70/30. But generally I do more driving overall - ferrying kids about and whatnot.

He always drives in countries where they drive in the right, though. I just can't.

50-50 here. We also have a huge motorhome that we use for long European trips so we drive in shifts, usually with the non driver asleep in the passenger seat!

DH drives.

I can't be arsed with it.

Brilliant pic howmanyairmiles!

50:50 for us.

Previous relationship, XP did the whole can't relax or even switched off stick. To be fair, I was learning to drive in the early days, so there was a time when he was 'responsible' for my driving. Also an all round twonk

In the early days with now DH, was was on the look out for any such #~€^%

Turns out I'm a way better navigator than he is, so if we are away from home and familiar places, even with a Satnav, i navigate and he drives. Except when i lost my licence (54day ban, speeding) when he did it all without even complaining. Sigh.

I'd say it's me 90% of the time. I enjoy driving and am a much more confident driver than dh even though objectively he is a much better driver than me.

Dh's dad doesn't drive and my sil (dh's brother's wife) is the main driver in their relationship too.

We both drive the same amount alone in our cars, but 99% of the time if we are in the same car, Dh is driving. I loathe driving - it just doesn't interest me at all, and he is the world's worst passenger (has to constantly fiddle with every knob, handle, radio, glove box, sunshade, mirror, heating, air con, investigate the contents of the door pockets etc etc. It drives me crazy.) I am also much better at navigating and can actually direct us from a to b. He uses 'The Force' for direction finding. Or his memory because he thinks he went there once 7 years ago on the way back from Florence's wedding. Possibly.

60/40 in my favour id say. DHs driving makes me sick,
As does navigating, and that makes me angry. Maybe more 70/30 actually.

100% him if we are both in the car. I hate driving.

Depends who can be arsed.

We have done some serious mileage driving about the continent and we're both equally good drivers. I don't drink so if we go out anywhere, I'll always drive.

Depends which car we're using.
DW has the bigger car which can fit the dog/family in, so at weekends we often use that and she drives.
I'm happy for the break as I have a long commute during the week.
If we're not taking the dog, we'll generally use my car and I'll drive.
Probably ends up 50/50.

Him. Especially if going somewhere new as I'm far better at navigating than he is. But mostly because I prefer not to (drive plenty in week) and he doesn't mind. We do share long journeys though - 2 hours each.

It's always me, I can't stand DH's, or most people's TBH, driving. Only downside is I'm a better map reader than DH so arguments abound (then again when he's driving he goes too fast when I trying to spot road names etc.)