I like buffy's atheist/theist analogy, that works well for me. Being a gender-critical atheist, I immediately aligned the gender-critical "side" (not the right word, but it'll have to do) to atheism, and cast the vocal trans-activism of "a woman is whoever says they are a woman" in the role of the church, more particularly the church in a place and time where dissent wasn't permitted. It's the lack of ability to tolerate disagreement that I find so hard to get over. We can disagree without being hateful, but a minority of people won't accept that. Interesting that you had it the other way round ego? The gender-critical being the (unthinking?) believers and the transactivists being the progressive free-thinkers.
I have to say I think it's unlikely that science will definitively deliver a verdict on sex differences in the brain. For starters, I don't think things are ever that definitive, it's not how science works. It's like the "gay gene" - it's only an element among many factors. OK, you might be able to identify it, and OK, it makes certain outcomes more or less likely, but in the end, so what? We're complex organisms, living in complex societies, and as the science currently stands, in brain terms there are more differences within the sexes than between them, so any new findings would have to completely overturn all the science to date, which is again not impossible, but unlikely. Next up is the ethics of the research, which make it all but impossible to factor out upbringing, without doing some really awful things to babies, so it'll never happen.
It's disingenuous to label this thought process as "fear" of anything. If anything, I fear a future where we're all mapped and measured at birth, popped in our categories according to our DNA/genes/brain scans and end up in a totalitarian society with no free will at all! Now that's scary.
Much like Owen Jones. (to get back to the point
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