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"If I could I would slap her"

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FrustratedFeminist · 16/05/2015 18:44

Title says it all really, comment said by a young guy to me (relayed by my sister).

For context, I made an ill-advised trip to visit my sister recently who's in her final year at a very academic uni. They start final exams late next week and everyone is naturally very stressed. I came over to deliver a food/treats parcel to her and then was going to head home straightaway (only 40 min train journey). Unfortunately she flipped when she saw me and got very angry that I was distracting her (can see how it came across that way but not my intention).

Anyway, to cut a long story short I went back to her room in college accommodation (walls paper thin) and we had a small argument about this. It was late at night (think 12-1) and she was a bit physically aggressive and I shouted at her and called her names. Unfortuantely, people heard me shout which I truly regret and someone knocked on her door to complain. Again I really regret this.

She has forgiven me, and I ended up moving to a hotel for the night. Unfortunately the male "friend" of hers who knocked on the door (also a finalist) told her this morning that he was very angry about the incident. He would have heard some shouting and me howling (awkward) which I am really sorry for. I did leave before 2 in the morn though so it would have been a few mins of disruption between say 1-2am. He told her that if he could meet me/see me now (i.e. Sat morning) he would slap me!

This is a pretty misogynistic insult no?? He had time to cool off about things this morn and to threaten physical violence (slapping) anyone is pretty disgusting. I find it intersting that his specific choice of dealing with the incident would be "slapping" too... Ironically, he is in his final year doing Law...

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pejecod · 27/05/2015 17:13

There should be stars after the word complete in my last post btw, but it looks like censored swearing isn't even allowed.

HarveySpectre · 27/05/2015 18:20

I think your sister sounds awful OP

You took her a goody parcel, she got cross with you, made you stay, got crosser over your phone light and confiscated your phone??

I would have lamped my sister, if she treated me like this!!

Is she a bit disturbed/highly strung/aggressive??

AskBasil · 28/05/2015 08:55

Could you clarify what the "sexism and misogyny card" is please pejecod?

Anniegetyourgun · 28/05/2015 13:01

No, censored swearing isn't allowed, you must use the whole rude word. Them's the rules.

The real reason why your stars didn't appear is that the rather basic formatting on this site uses them to indicate bold text. If there's nothing between them there's nothing to embolden, hence why nothing appeared. You'd need to use a different symbol, one that isn't used for formatting. # might do it, or @.

Italiangreyhound · 30/05/2015 20:15

FrustratedFeminist I have not read all the comments, you seemed to be getting some nasty and unnecessary ones. I think you sound very kind to make a journey of several miles and two train journeys at night (not something I would do as I am a scardy traveller!). I am not sure why the whole thing escalated and it is a shame and I hope you and your sister have made up. Next time, in your shoes, I would post the parcel.

For what it is worth I think the man's comments were sexist and to be honest what is a few minutes disturbance at night in halls. When I was in halls people were fridge raiding and running about at all hours!

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PuffinsAreFictitious · 02/06/2015 06:36

Jann.... do try RTFT before you comment. That's not what the OP thinks at all. Nice try though

PuffinsAreFictitious · 02/06/2015 06:36

Oh, and feminism is about women's liberation from patriarchy.

HTH

hesterton · 02/06/2015 08:44

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BarbarianMum · 02/06/2015 10:30

What a strange thread. Of course the "wanting to slap" comment was sexist. If OP'd been male, he'd probably have used the phrase "punched his lights out". Unless he's from round here in which case the phrase "giving someone a slap" means punching someone.

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