Feminist pub XIX: The Bluestocking meanders into May

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You're braver than I am, NoTech. I didn't dare read below the line on that one.

Just been to collect my new glasses from the optician's. According to their computer the frames I've chosen are for men. They are far more comfortable than the previous frames, which as I recall came from the women's side of the display. So now I feel like I have an abnormally masculine head. Could we not just redivide them into frames for tiny headed people, frames for medium head size people, and frames for people with massive heads like me? Then everyone gets better fitting glasses and no one has to feel inadequate.

I feel your pain Stormy. I have a big 'man head'. I can't find any hats that fit from women's clothes shops. And the men's don't tend to have nice big floppy sun hats. It's look like a fisherman or nothing.

You could try a flatcap - my dad caught me with a tape measure before getting me one and it's a lovely fit. I've known my head is huge since year nine maths. Various body measurements of the entire class were used to teach something - averages? statistics? I forget - and my head was the biggest in the class. A piece of information I could have happily lived without the bullies finding out.

Well i live in yorkshire. I wonder if there are any nearby flatcap emporiums...?

I'm the opposite to you Stormy - my head was the smallest in my class. DS already has a bigger head than me, and he's only 9. In fact, I've been sharing his caps for the past couple of years - probably since he was 6.

I can't get hats to fit. It's not that my head is too big or too small, it's that it has a strange shape and something like a Trilby just doesn't work.

I have a fisherman's hat. It's reversible and pink. It's the only hat I feel comfortable in.

and I always end up with glasses from the teen section - the adult ones are too wide.

Oh I have a man head too! And man feet. Women's shoes are always too narrow but it's very hard to find men's shoes in a size 6. Or with heels for that matter.

It would just be nice if the world admitted that women come in lots of sizes not just the delicate "ideal".

My feet got wider after I had DD, I found that German brands (eg Gabor) are more likely to fit.
DD has puzzled over the feminist implications of her favourite docs which are 'unisex' or 'women's fit' - is this good because she gets more choice or is it bad because women are 'other' not default?

See, Chunky Fit, Pretty Average, and Titchy Fit as new categories of boot would solve that problem nicely.

Hmm. Errol that's interesting. I have the same feet as my dad and he's almost entirely of Polish/German heritage...

I have narrow feet and slim ankles. And a big man head. I'm basically an upside down weeble.

So long as you don't fall down.

What's a weeble?

I think if women are ever set out as "other" than the default then Something Dodgy Is Going On.

Weebles wobble, but they don't fall down. They're egg-shaped toys, with weights in the bottom, so they don't fall down. Friends had them, but we didn't (suspect my mother veto'ed them - she had a thing against plastic toys, although inherited lead-painted toys were fine...)

Oh I'm a weeble
Nothing upside down about me. All pear shaped here!

I've just decided that men's clothes are the way forward for me. I've been buying men's trousers for a while now, in order to bypass the pockets of patriarchy bullshit.

I have an enormous moon head, huge man hands and big wide feet I know, sounds super attractive I also have long legs and a short body. Men's clothes all the way....

I am considering wearing men's swimming shorts. One piece swim suits are unpractical and uncomfortable. Once they're wet it's impossible to go to the toilet and get them back on again, they mean I get chub rub as I walk, and they just highlight every bit of fat.

What I really want is a Victorian style bathing dress, with skort underneath and a vest top style top. All in the right kind of material.

You can get vest top and skort-type swimming combos from Lands End ( though maybe not in the 'right' material). Or boardies and whatever sort of top you want.

I've got a two-piece swimming costume, like this: www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_064020410645_-1 It covers my whole stomach is a bit loose on me. I will not go back to one-piece again!

Optician's appointment tomorrow. Will look at kids' and mens' glasses options, inspired by this thread.

Not quite the right link. Mine are shorts.

I haven't done one pieces for years. Silly boob mashing things that do not work at all on the ample of bottom. I used to wear bikinis now I have these and a tankini top. Far more comfortable.

I have a tankini for taking kids swimming (wear under clothes so quick change while preventing escape) but a regular Speedo for solo swimming (too much drag in the tankini).
Now, if only they did Batman rash guard suits with a 32F support I could look as cool as my Guide who has one.

Ooh, DrSpouse can I use your post for a stealth (well, actually totally in your face) boast? Finally had DS doing swimming lessons which means I can do lengths, and 8 weeks in I have got my front crawl to the point where I may have to purchase a speedo in place of my lovely tankini (with shorts!) because for the first time ever, I am experiencing drag!