teenage girls under massive pressure to do anal :(

[GinAndSonic]

Article may upset some people. Saw this www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/11554595/Pornography-has-changed-the-landscape-of-adolescence-beyond-all-recognition.html in chat and thought it was something important to discuss, in particular this about teenages and anal Sex - "Moreover, both genders expected males to find pleasure in the act whereas females were mostly expected to “endure the negative aspects such as pain or a damaged reputation”."

Im not surprised by this sadly, as i was anally raped by my boyfriend as a teen over 10 years ago and pornification is only getting worse. What can we do, other thab talk to our kids? Can we do anything on a bigger scale to fix the problem, not just try to help our kids survive the shit storm?

"I was thinking along the lines that anal sex is fun whereas pregnancy isn't."

Not sure thinking actually came into it...........

I was thinking along the lines that anal sex is fun whereas pregnancy isn't.

Sure you were

I was thinking along the lines that anal sex is fun whereas pregnancy isn't.

My parents have no idea I was raped either.

I don't know what to do or say about any of this, except that I (pregnancy hormones, most likely) just want to lie down and cry.

I've got a seven year old boy and am due in five weeks with another boy, and I worry about them. And I've got a little girl who is almost two and I worry about her most of all.

I don't know what to say. I don't know where to start with any of it.

loop anal sex might be fun for two willing adults who know the risks and understand how to minimise the risks as well as understanding the need for lubrication and foreplay.
Anal sex isn't fun for a teenage girl who is having anal sex with a boy who thinks he can just ram his penis up her arse causing pain and possibly irreversible damage.
Do you really think all those girls who end up in A&E each year with anal damage find the experience fun?

cheerful I'm so sorry you were raped. Fwiw I think it's natural to feel how you do, pregnancy hormones or not.

loop have you actually read the article that this thread is about? If not, I think you should, and if you have, I'm genuinely shocked that you feel the examples and the injuries those girls have are preferable to getting pregnant. It doesn't sound like fun at all.