Sharing too much?

[Hopeibra]

So I am with a man who loves me so much but ever since I started seeing and hearing things about woman being raped and sometimes there was no justice for them I would get so angry and over time I started hating men and vowing that I would never be with one for long. All I wanted was a baby girl and nothing to do with men and I shared all this with my boyfriend and he just gets more angry with me and wants me to change. Bs I am raised a muslim and it frustrates me on how they treat their woman. Anyway I hate ranting my hate towards men to him and would like to talk to people like me. I have no friends because I don't think anyone could understand me. I was just wondering if anyone here wants to just talk sometimes? Thank you for taking the time to read. Have a good day.

I take your point - and I assume you don't mean halves as I'm obviously not suggesting the form equal shares of a whole. However, I think the evolution of misandry as a concept could be useful. If we could acknowledge that the cause of that cultural phenomenon is rooted in a great many norms and values that include the systematic modeling of masculinity around characteristics that, in extremes, form most of the troubles of the world - troubles that disproportionately effect women.

I'm sort of repeating myself now and I guess it's clear where I'm from even if not everyone agrees.

But misogyny's teeth won't be dulled until we've dismantled the traditional social construct of both genders. I think patriarchy hurts men too doesn't work as it is understood to refer to male privilege when compared to women. Misandry would include many other aspects that don't really have a relevance there.

In googling the issue, I read about disposability: male only conscription to the front line for example. Not much of a privilege. But, as I said, this isn't about men per se. This is about including these dynamics as they go on to affect women.

No, I don't think that's a helpful analogy; it suggests that within an oligarchy, the privileged few are constrained by their positions and don't, on an individual basis, have a great deal of power to affect their environment. It also fails to acknowledge the large overlap in individual privilege via other dynamics. There aren't lots of poor people that are actually rich - you could get into mentality here, but I don't think that would be helpful either

Have started a new thread to discuss this here

Might be better, rather than continuing on someone's unrelated thread?

I take your point Buffy, but there are fluid borders between those classes. The absence of a word for 'the squeezed middle' (?) doesn't really detract from what I think could be useful about identifying misandry as an enabler of misogyny.

Oh, we're moving. Ok. Fair enough. Thanks Puffins. No further time now though. Apologies.

All together now "sorry for hijacking your thread OP "!

OP happy to have a chat sometime will message you later (off to fix dinner) / feel free to message me

I thought I posted to the feminist group anyway thanks for the suggestions but honestly I don't care what you know it all think of me. As far as my problems I chose to like the way I am and accept it. Now anyone here want to volunteer to drag me to a therapist? Hmm? No? yeah I didn't think so. Now deal with your own issues and unless you have something good to say say nothing at all. Good day!

I wasn't aware anyone had been derogatory toward you OP, I'm sorry if that's the view you got. The discussion got a bit sidetracked, and, in hope you would get some replies to your question, I made a new thread. Hope you're ok?

Anyone else think this thread may have been a wind up?

Damsili Yep. I reported it to MNHQ and they appeared to think it wasn't a wind up.