I have had a row with my boyfriend about this

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He thinks it's funny.

I can't formulate an argument beyond "it's vile and horrid and not nice at all"

What do you all think?

www.rdfoodproduce.co.uk/400377721

You need to read the bit about "The Girls"

I sent him a version of Zazzles post last night. I know he has read it. He hasn't replied.

OP, your "I am a feminist, actually" badge is in the post.

Smashbox why do you think he hasn't replied?

Do you want to carry on seeing him?

One of the regular bits of advice is "when a man tells you who he is, believe him"

He's told you who he is. A man who doesn't value women and ultimately will never really value you.

I have no interest in seeing him. None at all. Don't even want to find out why he hasn't replied.

And yes, if he thinks shit like that is funny, then that's what he thinks of women and he's not fit to lick my boots.

Good for you. I'd remove his number and move on.

I've blocked his number and blocked him on facebook. He could still email me. But he hasn't.

I am no way going to be around someone who disrespects me and doesn't value me as an equal - and by what he did I know he doesn't see women as equals. And that being the case, I have absolutely no interest in him.

Good for you Smashbox. He may not have valued you, but you are showing you value yourself highly by kicking his arse to the kerb. More women should be doing this with men who are not respectful of women.

It's funny, since that the other night, I've been thinking about other small things that were sexist that he did, but not massive, just small and I'm cross with myself that I didn't call him on them at the time.

Stuff he said, and even after I'd said clearly "I don't like that please don't say it again" he kept doing it and making out it was a joke and funny - he clearly didn't respect my opinion that it wasn't.

Sometimes it takes something like this, to crystalise what you already feel uneasy about but seems too trivial to end a relationship over.

AskBasil - I think you're right.

I have shown three other male friends the site. Not one has reacted like he did. One way or another it shows that he didn't really know or understand me at all.

None of the other things were big things - they just felt a bit "off".

FWIW he hasn't contacted me.

You know that site, even if it is fake, reminded me of two places I used to work.

One had the same kind of 'just joking' thing going on, but actually was deeply sexist. Some of things that were said I can't repeat. They would out me for one thing because I've complained a lot about them. It was horrendous. I wish I'd been on MN then.

The other was actually a nice female dominated workplace, but there was one man who worked there about a day a week who referred to all the female employees collectively as 'the secretaries'. He didn't even do that as a joke, he just thought that was how it was.