37 year old man here

[BlueStahli]

Hello,

I'm a 37 year old male, married, with two children--a boy and a girl.

I've always had an issue with sexism. But only recently have I been delving headlong into it. I've been researching facts and studies, talking to people, getting opinions, and voicing my own views. In the process, I stumbled across this site. So I joined. I hope to learn much here. Needless to say, I'll be spending most of my time hanging out in the feminism forum.

My reasons for being here are three-fold:

1. I want facts! I want to know how sexism and discrimination have been measured/studied scientifically and what results have been found. I want to know what kinds of government policies and human rights have been instated (or removed) and where in the world this has happened. I'm tired of anecdotal stories and questioning how biased people's claims are and I feel I'm ready to take a position on more secure grounds--but I need to build those grounds first.

2. I feel I can contribute much to feminism by offering a man's perspective. I wear my heart of my sleeve and I'm not afraid to reveal personal information. But I also feel that if I'm going to give my perspective on certain issues, I'm going to have to earn the right to do it first (so you won't get it in my first post :)). I'm confident that I can do this in a constructive/non-offensive way, and if I ever do step out of line (never advertently), I'm open to being corrected. Ultimately, I feel that if two groups are trying to settle their differences, there's no better way than to hear the perspectives on both sides.

3. I've got issues! :) I really do! Like I said, I've always had issues with sexism, and lately I've been on a self-induced "therapy kick". I've been forcing myself to "get over it". Diving into the issue with other peopleother womenis how I'm doing it. I don't think I'll ever be "cured" of my issues, but if I'm going to be stuck with them, I figure I might as well have them for the right reasons (i.e. educating myself--as in #1 above).

So that's my spiel.

So first order of business: I'd like to ask if there are any males on this forum--particularly ones that frequent the feminism forum. I'd like to ask their advice on how a man conducts himself on a forum devote to moms and feminism.

Thanks :)

Pan

Yes, I agree, they do like their jargon to get their little digs in about men - I think it helps them bond - but it's all really just water off a duck's back. There was a post on here recently about the lack of men engaging with feminism. The OP said she was perplexed by it. It ran to 7 pages. laugh ? - I almost started.

I don't really expect you to care what I think. I'm rather surprised you responded to me at all

Cadno, did you bother to advanced search vree before getting your little dig in?

Oh, and cadno, I think you might've misread where Pan was coming from.

Quite Yonic - cadno, you are entirely on your own there.

Did I misread your post pan? My apologies if so. I assumed you were making digs about the "jargon" too but if that's not the case then I'm sorry

bit of a mix up there PG. Cadno seemed to project onto my words (which were nothing more than a bit of playfulness, and certainly no 'offence intended' as I think Yonic detected) and he was off with himself. I did think your comment about me was silly.

Well I won't deny I have had issues with your posting style in the past, and clearly I let that cloud my reading of your posts here. So I apologise for that, it was unfair.

And I'll happily withdraw the rebuke to you, and apol. for it.

Phew !

Phew that you are on your own, cadno?

Cadno's a man? Explains some things if so.

Well cadno posts elsewhere (suspect it's rude tho' to talk about someone when they are on a thread) that they are the possessors of a Y chrome, so I put 2 and 2 together..or alternatively X and Y together. Unless the Y is stored in a shed and is only taken out for special occasions.

My most sincere apologies for not rooting about in some random's posting history, Pan. I assure you that next time I shall have a good stalk of someone before commenting. Not entirely sure why you couldn't simply have put, 'Yes, Cadno is a man' instead of trying to make me look stupid, but maybe you just enjoy making me look stupid.

Just WHAT? Puffins! etc... I was describing how I came to the conclusion. Utterly nothing to do with you. At all.

In this particular issue I don't have to make you look stupid. Though I am sorry you took my post the way you did.

Of course....

of course..what Puffins? You still think I was being unpleasant and personal, rather than just honest-heartedly offering an explanation?

so an apology might be good to see?

It's a misunderstanding. Easily achieved when speaking via a keyboard.
Neither of you is wrong :)

Cadno is fox in Welsh.

(I used to get comments back on essays like, "Interesting - but irrelevant." I haven't changed.)

I didn't know that, EVear.

Only in the South Wales dialect.

South Wales is fine by me.

no apols yet Puffins? Oh well, it could take time.

Panthingies, did none of the peace dust Garlicoctopus sprinkled land on you then?