anyone seen this blog about being a mum of boys?

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m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5755682?utm_hp_ref=tw

I know it Is only one blog but i am seeing it shared and liked on social media.

Not sure I know how to link properly but one of the comments - boys give better kisses ...... with no agenda??? Wtaf.

I wonder how people like that think. Do they believe that raising their child to act according to gender roles makes their child normal and successful and when their child act in a stereotypical way it is a proof of them being a successful mother?

I really don't know. Around my way it intersects with ethnicity too and the way in which gangs are seem as a bit cool by young teens. Young black boys are encouraged to be 'tough' 'little men'. I want to move!

Ah, I only saw page 1 and wrote that in response to the comments about the pissed off mums but it works as a reply to you too ocelot!

That article OP posted...full of bullshit but this was the worst:

When your little girl stomps her foot and tells you to leave her alone, your son simply loves you. When your tween daughter is sullen and sulky and hates you, your son simply loves you. When you teenage daughter gives you the silent treatment, your son simply loves you. Their love is solid. Their love is strong and consistent from the start. And it sticks around for the long haul.
Girls can't really love huh. What a hateful thing to write.

I agree.

I'm obviously a failed female as I loved a good stick and had an obsession with stones as a child and adult.

I think some people just feel the need to bollock on and like to pigeon hole stuff.

Boys are boys and girls are girls...nope we are all individuals.

Yes, no. 11 is utterly hateful.

And the one about guns is particular shite. Guns is innate? Yes, I bet before guns existed that 'innate' ability to turn everything into a gun existed. Sheesh.

The Amercians like their innate sexism confirmed. there are a lot of born again Christians there who want women to be in kitchens and half the country believes dinosaurs roamed the planet when Adam built his ark. So you do tend to find more sexism in US articles. They seem to have more sexist men over there too. I have non identical twin boys who are very different from each other and I find articles saying boys do this and girls that utterly wrong from my own experience.

What a hateful, bitchy snide blog. Hate it.

The implication that everything girls do is a manipulation. How effing dare she?

I have a boy and a girl and they are horse playing right now. Neither likes Star Wars. They both love cuddles. Dd (older) is messier than DS. Honestly this has made me so furious.

this made me laugh out loud from the geekmom response: "let’s get fallacied!"

i have been really quite damaged by my mother's assumption that my behaviour is designed to manipulate

"It's a penis, not a sprinkler system." That made me lol LordCopper .

I agree that paragraph is so unbelievably damaging Briar. I got told by a teacher that boys were 'uncomplicated' because they hit each other to sort out differences whereas girls remember things that happened 6 months later. So clearly violence is preferred to actually thinking about/discussing a problem because what? That might actually require some effort? And did they really believe boys just forget about a problem because their fists fly? I'm pretty certain my partner can remember the bullies he had at school and what they did to him 35yrs later.

That whole paragraph sounds like she is describing an abuser not a child. You know what maybe the girl is reticent in her love because it'll get thrown back at her or has been withdrawn in the past or she knows that she isn't loved quite as much as her brothers.

And point 3 is all about her perceptions, her inner misogyny and nothing about what actually happens.

Yeuch.

And I know she didn't use the word manipulative but that was what she meant. It is such a loaded word. Almost always directed at girls, never boys and has an adult (and again) abusive quality about it. Hate it.

Her first paragraph is the clue to all the rest of the blog. She is a woman soaked in the gender myth and all her perceptions are seen through this distorting lens.

She actually made me feel very angry with the uncomplicated love bit.
My DDs are middle aged now but I still remember with nostalgic longing how they used to rush to meet me with big hugs when they were little. What a horrible horrible woman.

God help any daughters she might have. She would be trying to turn them into mini Shirley Temples. On the other hand it would serve her bloody well right if she had DDs like mine, who seemed to spend half their lives in A and E after their latest escapades ended in disaster.

That really is dreadful. Point 11! What the fuck?

The counter blog was very funny.

mimipie has it... She's over compensating because she's telling the truth when she says she always wanted daughters. I had a colleague like that - quite a senior school teacher when she had her first child, had always been quite vocal about the preferability of girls - had a son and was very scathing about girls from then on... . For some people, what they have has to be best, rather than acknowledge there is no "best"...

Speaking as "mum of boy", just, URGH at that blog.

The comments about boys giving better hugs because girls are so manipulative is really nasty and misogyntic stuff, and all the worse for being dressed up as light hearted observation. Yeah, girls are all manipulative little bitches from childhood .

On the plus side, I enjoyed the counter blog.

*misogynistic

Also, my son doesn't pee all over the bathroom. He pees in the toilet and wipes up after hinself if it goes elsewhere.

I teach in girls' school scallops and that 'boys sort it with their fists; girls bear a grudge' thing is trotted out by teachers all the time, with the implication that the boys' way is preferable. Teachers even say it to the students. I despair.

As my great grandmother used to say, "people will live down to your expectations"

Someone posted this on facebook the other day and it was annoying.

But I liked this which facebook suggested to me straight afterwards. A nice refreshing counter to these kinds of toilet paper worthy "articles".

www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-reynolds/the-great-list-of-things-i-cant-do-because-i-only-have-daughters_b_5125151.html

I have a ds and a dd, that blog made me so angry! All the stuff about girls having an agenda.

The author calls herself a feminist but is completely anti girl

I loved the response. I don't think I could hear to read the original article because of the sheer rage that would engulf me.

I am absolutely fed up of all these gender stereotypes. They come from everywhere. Educated professional couples to the waiter who told my 3 yr old last week that his meal would come later because he would have to learn that it was ladies first. He's 3 and hungry!

I absolutely despair of it. I thought I'd have a battle on my hands with the grandparents but never realised that would be so ingrained and so widespread.

I try my hardest not to be prejudiced, to respond to the individual child's likes and dislikes but it really does feel like I'm this one weird individual sticking out like a sore thumb and fighting a losing battle!

What a load of sad sexist shit. Even worse are some of the comments, 'just chuckle and move on'. Really?

Nice one to the dad though, managed to celebrate his daughters without denigrating the boys he didn't have. And the pictures underneath are lovely (Love in One Photo).

My 1 year old nephew yanked at my top once and mil straight away said "going for the boobs - typical boy" .

No mil. No.

Argh. Fil is a sexist fool too. He's already said something about our 9 week old daughter being able to manipulate us, you know, being a girl and all. Ffs. I wish they would FROTTFSOF.