Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

[Manchesterhistorygirl]

I blame you lot. Thanks.

Last night dh's friend was telling him all about his recent visit to a lap dancing bar. I told him he and his mates were a bunch of twats and I was disgusted at them all, especially since they all have partners.

I also told dh if I ever found out he'd done the same it'd be the absolute last thing he ever did.

So my nest of vipers, thank you for giving me the confidence to handle a situation I've always found disgusting, but wouldn't have ever spoken out about until I joined here.

[Yougotbale]

He might but would it be the last thing you did? Why not express your view and let him decide. If he cares about you he won't go. Do you use this technique in other areas of life. He must be a nervous wreck.

[SabrinaMulhollandJjones]

You're a woman buffy aren't you? You can only have an opinion on the kittens, then. Just the kittens.

[Twiddlebum]

How would you feel if your husband had a go at your friends if they were talking about a male strip show?? I would be bloody livid! So I wouldn't do it to him in return!! I bet your DH was really embarrassed!

[Yougotbale]

Buffy - I suppose you can make selective observations to support an outcome.
Sorry, I thought you were analysing as a whole

[MinesAPintOfTea]

Good on you for calling him on it OP. However I wish you would have told your DH that you would be gone rather than implying he would be murdered. I know that partner-murder is usually committed by men, but making it unacceptable to joke about men killing women really requires women to stop joking about killing men.

[SabrinaMulhollandJjones]

I can detect something even worse than shrill, buffy.....we're talking about a man who has been embarrassed by his wife here! This is SERIOUS.

[morethanpotatoprints]

Whats wrong with them going, if their partners are fine about it?
I'm glad my dh doesn't want to go to these places, of course I am. However, I think if you have to threaten them not to go you've lost really. If a man is going to go he will threat or not, you just might never find out

[SabrinaMulhollandJjones]

How would you feel if your husband had a go at your friends if they were talking about a male strip show??

I wouldn't give a toss - he's free to voice an opinion to my friends

[Yougotbale]

I suppose. 'Ladyboy' clubs are more popular than men's strip clubs. Do you think a change from patriarchy would see a boom in male dancer clubs?

[reelingintheyears]

A man has been embarrassed in front of his mates because his wife has an opinion?
If my DP had been embarrassed every time I had an opinion he'd be a shrivelled wreck by now.

If my pals were bragging about going to a male strip club I would be embarrassed.
And if DP had an opinion (which he often does) I would expect him to voice it, why shouldn't he?

[Twiddlebum]

I'm leaving as I fear i might get pelted by burning bras or something!! seriously guys life is too short!!! Try enjoying it a bit more and chill out!

[LurcioLovesFrankie]

Don't let the door hit your arse on the way out.

[Yougotbale]

Are you saying women have fat arses or can't use doors?

[Twiddlebum]

Haha!!! One thing I like is you guys can't stand people having an opinion without getting your knickers in a twist when the thing you're arguing about is being allowed to have an opinion!!!

[reelingintheyears]

Pelted by burning bras?

Do you mean 'pelted with burning bras?

Either way, OP is allowed to state her point of view you know, life is certainly too short to stfu about things you don't agree with.

[Twiddlebum]

Doesn't sound like you're having much fun though tbh!

[Twiddlebum]

Sorry, am I supposed to get my grammar book out now??? So people that aren't good at English are looked down on by you??

[Yougotbale]

Every time I give an opinion I will start a thread about it.

[reelingintheyears]