Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

[Manchesterhistorygirl]

I blame you lot. Thanks.

Last night dh's friend was telling him all about his recent visit to a lap dancing bar. I told him he and his mates were a bunch of twats and I was disgusted at them all, especially since they all have partners.

I also told dh if I ever found out he'd done the same it'd be the absolute last thing he ever did.

So my nest of vipers, thank you for giving me the confidence to handle a situation I've always found disgusting, but wouldn't have ever spoken out about until I joined here.

Wow, not checked for most of the day and now see there are nearly 300 replies on this thread!

I wish I could like a lot of the responses on here. When my ex boyfriend went to a strip club I didn't have the guts to speak out. We did argue about it later. There's no way I would put up with it now and I would always challenge someone for going now. I think it is a form of cheating because most people wouldn't put up with their partner paying an 18 year old to rub themselves naked on their lap at home. And most men are very hypocritical and would hate it if it was their sister/daughter doing it. So ok to degrade someone else's sister/daughter but not their own. I hate it that some men divide women into two groups - one group they can respect and another group they don't have to. Hypocrisy IMHO.

That's nice Registary.

"little morals" yes registry. That's right. Women's feelings are all "little" and "inconsequential" aren't they? Hope you enjoy your limited time on MN - or that inventing new e-mail addresses is a particular hobby of yours

Jess, I know exactly what you mean.

It actually is quite nice.

It would make it slightly socially easier for OP & her dh to chuck the wanky little grub out of their home, rather than feeling a bit guilty because he's a family friend, who hadn't hitherto revealed himself as quite such a wanky little grub.

He could do that. If he was a misogynist twat, who hadn't actually realised that women are equals.

Who says that registary? No one I know that's for sure. Sure you're not falling back on the MRA straw man there?

It was yougotbale.

"It was yougotbale" ha ha.

That was me knobber and I apologised first. It was a bit tongue in cheek lol

Registry - have you heard what your uncle and dad get up to on 4*?

Curiouser and curiouser.

The trolls are actually fighting each other

Sab - I'm not a troll. You are a wind up

Quiet night on pistonheads, obv.

I know. Strangely pleasing.

Several people think you are on this thread baley- incessantly and groundlessly calling the op an abuser is a personal attack, and against forum guidelines.

Sab - so is troll hunting. I've let that name calling go a few times. Just give it a rest.

What are the names of the other users?

Everyone can see you for what you are bakey - someone that wants to call a woman standing up for herself an 'abuser'. That's all you're doing here. Everything else is just smokescreen.

Not at all. You know the reason I said it was abusive. It wasn't related to the standing up for herself part.
It was how I perceived the OP was reinforcing her relationship boundaries.

Anyway, you already new that

No, you didn't properly explain yourself bale. Are you now saying you don't think the op was abusive?