If you could give ONE piece of advice to your daughter, what would it be?

[kickassangel]

If for some reason (e.g. this is your dying piece of wisdom) you could say just one thing to your daughter/niece etc, what would it be?

I am torn between 'never let a man talk over/down to you, your voice is just as valid and should be heard' and 'NEVER let anyone touch you in a way you don't like, except for medical necessity. If that happens, scream like fuck then run for it for fight like a demon'.

Really can't make up my mind. The first one more likely to be used (several times a day, maybe) but the second one could be life saving.

Any other thoughts?

Do not believe in any -isms hook, line and sinker. You should understand the issue before you leap to an answer. Think for yourself.

Don't start trouble,but always finish it.

This is in relation to bullying specifically....but works well in other situations.

You can say no to anyone at any time about anything (well almost) and generally without explanation.

That however strong you think you are, if you let your guard down, society is organised so that you as a female will be worse off. Be hyper-aware of this at all times and from as early an age as you can be.

How many younger women think the big battles have been won...it's lovely to stay at home for a few years while the little ones are little...It'll be fun to have a little job that fits around DH's Far More Important job...etc.

Trust your instincts. Just that - it is my biggest regret that I didn't.