Red: Who said he's going to schools? His website's main traffic are those groups, young people who know nothing googling for answers. The only talks he's done is TED talks to adults well after his website gained mass following. He's not talking to kids directly, he didn't set it up originally for young people, but his website gets a lot of traffic from them so he designed it so even they could access the information. It's quite common for website creators to notice demographics who come through search engines and change accordingly.
About being oppressed and immune at the same time: People have lots of different identities, some are in power groups and some aren't. A White man who is poor still has more social power in many areas than a Black men with wealth, that doesn't mean the White man's lack of funds in a capitalists society doesn't oppress him. In the judicial system, White women are more likely to believed than a Black or Asian man and White women earn a lot more than Black men. I have a lot of negatives to my list, but I'm light skinned and will be taken more seriously than another Metis with dark skin. A ciswoman will have violence against her because of her sex and gender, but you will have a lower risk of bladder issues than any trans people from not having held it for hours in a public setting due to fears about using any restroom, people won't ask you your "real" name or about your anatomy upon meeting you, your inclusion in the media will not involve those either, you do not have to reveal your medical history for your marriage or civil partnership to be valid. There is not academia or popular articles about whether your identity exists or just another type of oppression. Here's a list other things you benefit from that trans people are not immune from.
Many deaths of trans* women that have been actively at the hands of ciswomen. Also support of a system that dehumanizes people is supporting those people being killed - the steps of genocide. And while your feminism may be focused on a fight against men, most other groups aren't, it's about trying to rebuild community equally. Because when we hurt, we turn to our communities, people of all genders - men included - because I'm far more likely to be hurt White ciswoman, and our men have their own issues but they're more likely to understand (as shown in the recent internationally shown row on the current American big brother with a White woman tearing apart the WOC, and the Black woman gets comfort from the Black man, not the other women, that's pretty much how we react in real life). I fear White ciswomen way more than I fear cisMOC, they've done me far more harm.
Flora - Most in my social that I discuss this are other women and genderqueer and class doesn't really come into it much. Even in my academic days, it's more the problems and oppression in the current economic systems across intersections than class. For us, it's intersectionality or it's bust. I've only heard it's all about class from fedora MRAs types.
And I never said anything about taking away what they did, just that they didn't do the grand things that their followers claim, that much of that effort for equality wasn't them at all but other whom they took the credit for, and it needs to be recognized that they hurt their own cause by their hatred of others. They harmed women's rights by tearing down others to boost themselves, by refusing to join with other oppressed groups against the systems. And those weren't women aiding the patriarchal system as they saw themselves, they were White women fighting for White feminism while having other women that they deemed not worthy do work. And it's still happening.
You may think I have no reason for those lines, but imperialism still kills people, still destroys lives (most of the anti-LGBT laws spreading across Africa right now are funded by American and British groups, people outside of the binary still killed for the ideal of the binary through these laws, people outside the binary in Native areas have a high rate of having their children taken away and more likely to be killed). Rigidly holding to the binary is part that, it's part of imperialism, it's part of patriarchy.
Your quotes are a bit purposefully selective - the one on your learning is about where I challenged you on your assertion that third gender/gender neutrality/genderqueerness was rare and down to hatred of women, and you still don't seem to see how saying that is foul ethnocentric imperialist bullshit. Many areas had more women's rights before European colonization, many cultures could teach radfems a thing or two about equality, but no, you dismissed other cultures as being less equal that you for having more than two recognised genders when you know nothing about them.
I've already identified as Metis repeatedly, and identified as coming from a culture with more than two genders. That's my culture, my people you've just dismissed as being less civilized than you, who've spent the last 500 years being told they're uncivilized and having that beaten, starved and killed out of them, people who are still going through genocides, still having their children taken away at rates you can't imagine (more taken now than in boarding school days), still having their land and incomes denied to them even when the UN is shouting about it, having access to food denied them, having their image made by White people who excuse it as child's play (see the string of recent UK ads with them), "honour" (Lone Ranger) and use it excuse rape (3 times more likely than White women) while our people are still denied the right to wear our their cultural items in public unless it is to perform, people who just had their right to determine their own citizenship destroyed by the academics in government who destroyed it with the imperialistic rhetoric that they, not us, can decide who is and isn't one of us so a Native child can grow up with a nice binary perfect White couple rather than her own father, and we're the ones who are less equal, less civilized. Don't tell me there is it's uncalled for to challenge imperialistic mantra. Challenging imperialism is the least I can do - I got out, 80% in Native areas will drop out before finishing high school because of imperialism in schools. We challenge it by existing.
And women aren't always on bottom. As I've said, in the judicial system, White women are more believed than Black men. White women get more representation and have more control over their image than pretty much anyone other than White guys. In terms of pay, oh the cries for "equal pay with men", when White women earn more than almost everyone but White men (the usual stats are always White Women to White men). The ethnic wage gap is widening. You're making great gains on bridging the gap with White men, congrats, you're also making great gains on furthering how much more White women make than other men and women. That's been the core of Western feminism since it's inception though - White ciswomen getting equal with the one group always above them, White cismen, the elites of whom made the modern systems and violently imposed it through the White poor. Rather than joining with your fellow oppressed people, you dissect us and bluntly tell us it's not your fight while patting each other on the back about how "radical" you are, feeding and spewing out their divisiveness that the elite White cismen put into their system to keep them on top. You're spouting the same disapproval of us that they have for centuries, the same denials of doing any wrong or having any power, that you're being uncomfortable about being seen as an oppressor is our fault. What exactly makes you different from the system again? Because I can't see any, you just seem like another part.
I should have already given up on this, but I can't help but wonder everyone going on about the "intellectual" discussion of this - you do realize we are talking about real people's lives? That the ivory towers and governments you're clinging to as the ultimate definers bring just as much oppression to every day people as every other system? That this isn't just intellectual wankery for many but how to cope with the real world where the cisgender get to decide what the rest of us have to accept as good enough? Where we aren't allowed to define out own oppression for ourselves, cisgender people get to do it. That we don't define our lives by gender theory and most of us don't give a fuck about it we just want to feel right about ourselves and have that recognised as normal and wonderful? Many people get tired when their identity and experiences are denied over and over. I'm genderqueer, being told that I just like to have many hobbies and I've been socialized into it (having been raised in the Bible Belt) is a bit of a slap for the wrestling and questioning and pain I've gone, and continue to go though that many have already admitted you've never considered. But like I said, I've been in academics, I have plenty of stamina for BS, but then I also left it because many things more important than intellectual debates.
To put it as bluntly, I don't care if it makes you uncomfortable to know that other people see you in league with the systems as an oppressor - that's kinda been out there for decades with Alice Walker's Womanism and everyone else. We've been fighting for ourselves a long time and we don't need people who can't see and fight for us as equals. And Western Feminism has made it very clear that you don't want us. We're told we'll be gotten to later, but that has never happened. Never has western feminism won something for White ciswomen and they turned around and made sure all the other women got it too even when other women did most of the work. Doesn't happen, we only get there when we fight for it ourselves. It'd be nice if western feminism didn't step on our necks to get where their going while we're trying to fight our fight, but we've fought this far with it there, we'll take if off ourselves in time together with those in solidarity with us. Which is why we aren't taking your fight, Western feminism has already made it clear that your fight isn't for us, it might want to "save" and educate us poor uncivilized souls, but it's never seen us as equals. I can't trust or fight along someone who can't see all of me as worthy of the fight for equality. So, I really need to stop being bothered by it I guess, but it kinda hurts to know that the main group to represent the fight has never given us any recognition or wanted us around unless it's to watch their kids while they go out. That womanism and all the other branches are needed so that everyone can get there and get support because western feminism won't recognise the difference in our fight, that academia seems to trump personal lived experience in Western Feminism's eyes. In the end, it just looks like another system getting the results it was built to get for all the other systems the elite have put in.