Fucking hell, Nigella picture, WTF? [includes links to upsetting images]

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Tomorrow's Sunday People cover. Where do we even start with this?

Hopkinette was on a "kill yourself" binge last night.

Is standard troll language.

Ignore.

The Fail article was produced in Dec of last year, so it seems that it could be seen as evidence of escalating behaviour by one party. Also, the article of dec is like a social acceptance of female subjection.(shes in love, hes controlling, its all about the superficial). So we shouldn't be surprised that the paps didn't step in.
The DM article is disgraceful.
Whatever NL thinks she is doing to protect her marriage, she needs to look at these latest pictures and see what everyone else can see, and look out for herself.
Maybe, the good that might come, is that we are reminded of the "everyday sexism" that we should stand up against.

I should say TIPICALLY disgraceful.

He's got no respect for her. None at all. She's a toy to him. It's like watching a cat killing a bird.

I am glad - though it isn't my place to be glad - that the photographs were taken.

They are if nothing else proof that could be used in a legal case against the bastard.

I don't know what she will do. I am sure she is in bits. But I wish her all the love and support she might need.

So lets get this straight. There is a picture of a man with his hands round a woman's throat. Another photo of him on another occasion with his hand over her mouth. There is eye witness testimony to say he was being aggressive and she was upset. Added to that it is on the front pages of the newspapers after the Leveson enquiry. Yet people are still trying to minimise his behaviour. Misogyny alive and kicking I see. What exactly does he have to do? Wear a neon sign round his neck saying "I am a violent abusive fucker"?

Oh and the "she wasn't screaming for help" nonsense is just victim blaming shit.

Awful photos. I suspect as someone else said that its been known about for a while and the press have just been waiting to get the shot.

I just hope she is OK and so are her children. It must be awful to see pictures of your mother being attacked liked that

AlbertaCampion

I have reported the post asking for a trigger warning, hope they see it soon!

Just goes to show doesn't it, you can be a Domestic Goddess and it doesn't make any difference. A man who wants to be an abuser will do it no matter how much a woman twists herself in knots to be perfect for him.

The clothes are the same in the crying pictures- she is wearing a spotty top in the photos at the table

These pictures have really hit home with me.

I am on the relationships ea thread. Am currently in what I think is an abusive marriage of 20 plus years.

My H does the nose thing. He flicks it and holds my nostrils up. He also pinches my nose as im going to sleep so I gasp for a breath. And rubs my face with his bare hand. He always laughs and makes a joke out of it.

The reason I havnt reacted is the confusion it creates in me. my feelings are trying to tell me this is wrong but then you have a man in front of you laughing saying cant you take a joke. Its horrible. Her face in these pictures I think tells the story of how she feels. Its how I feel.

Seeing these pictues and reading all your responses to these pictures has given me more determination to get out of this life. When you are in it your tolerance bar is so high you dont see it. Really hope she is ok.

Hope you are OK theboiledfrog

Sorry what are you suggesting Natural?

Sorry, not really sure what I'm saying. Just thinking out loud-the pictures tell me all I need to know.
Just seem like quite a lot of flags over the years. I've asked for my post to be removed.

Theboiledfrog - I hope you're ok too. I understand your username, as I have a friend just escaping an abusive relationship, and she says the 'boiled frog' describes exactly how he systematically wore down her self-esteem.

I feel so bad for Nigella, those photos will haunt me. The look on her face is pleading, placatory, 'please don't do this.' I'd bet my last £ that it's not the first time it's happened. I thought the nose thing was disturbing too, strange when you think he's choking her in all the others. But there's something just so disdainful about the nose flicking thing. I can't put it into words.

yes, she looks resigned. Here we go again.

How many women are putting up with this sort of thing behind closed doors? No man has ever, ever put his hands around my throat, or flicked my face like that. I just can't believe he can treat lovely Nigella like that. I'm so for her.

I don't think you can read anything in to the swimming costume other than the effects of somebody with alabaster skin swimming in Australia.
Everything else - well it's a matter of record that they started their relationship and married when she was hugely vulnerable.

I agree with the other posters who have suggested that there is an element of the tip off to these pictures. I HOPE there is somebody in Nigella's corner who is round at her home this morning saying 'come on, lets get you out'.

I think that if I'd been there btw I would have at least asked her if she was ok. Bollocks to all the 'domestic' stuff. That's abuse and when you see abuse you try and do something.

scallop sabrina thanks yes im ok. Dont want to de rail the thread, just put another perpective over.
My counsellor describes my relationshipr as emotionally abusive and physically intrusive. Its the physically intrusive bit that is hard to get you head round I think. Like the nose thing.
Just hope by seeing the pictures as if looking at someone else Nigella realises what is really happening.

I would be really surprised if not one of the witnesses called the police about this today, given the fact it's in the papers etc.

Nobody wants to wade in when they are not sure of the facts, especially when a physically massive rich guy is involved, and it's taking place in a posh restaurant, but witnesses have a responsibility to report a crime ASAP afterwards if they have seen one.

Is there any chance he was just demonstrating something to her?????

I hope she can find the courage to leave.

She's financially independent, they don't have kids together. I know its easy for me to say but she should pack her bags and go.