Fucking hell, Nigella picture, WTF? [includes links to upsetting images]

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twitter.com/suttonnick/status/346017840106704898/photo/1

Tomorrow's Sunday People cover. Where do we even start with this?

DM comments are not so bad these days. It's often The Telegraph ones that are loop the loop.

I think it is police advice not to intervene in a domestic?

I am a bit in two minds.
I think, if you do, sometimes and often both people round on the one intervening.
Plus, as someone said, it is dangerous.
You could be an additional casualty.
Plus, as someone else says, the person invariably goes back home with the abuser, at least for a while.

Yes to ringing the police as soon as possible.

The DM are quoting that in the past Nigella has said -

'I'll go quiet when he explodes, and then I am a nest of horrible festeringness.'

It depends on the situation as to the method of intervention. In a restaurant though I would have to say something if no-one else appeared to be doing anything.

Poor Nigella. How sad. I always got the impression that she and John Diamond were really happy together. And now this - awful.

I hope she is getting the help she needs.

Poppy, I agree that it's not good to keep it "in the family" but I also know that if photos taken of me after I had experienced abuse then I'd have been mortified. I guess I have a different POV which I need to resolve.

Sorry, that didn't read right - "had appeared publically then I'd have been mortified" was what I should have said.

If the DM photos are correct, they've both left the marital home. Hopefully it isn't too long before he feels the full weight of the law. That man should be hanging his head in shame - odious cretin.

Why the hell did no-one call the police when they witnessed it though??

"BoreOfWhabylon* - THANK YOU for doing that. I really hope it means something will be done and also through calling the police you have been able to let us know that other people have called.

Aitch and Arisbottle - I had read that JD knew how CS felt about Nigella and had given his blessing to them being together.

I think I should just point out that EleanorFarjeon is not the same poster as EleanorHandbasket. Just in case anyone was wondering why she'd had a personality transplant.

Ha. I did have to look twice at that actually.

Very fair point about the DM comments, I have now read some.

Actually the article is pretty damning of him too, though it does focus on her behaviour rather than his. MrsDV makes a very good point on the other thread about us not focusing on the behaviour of the only actual (alleged) criminal in the equation.

yup, but it struck me that he was sending a message that it was a bit farking uncool for him to do this before he had popped his clogs.

BOF. Yes, I did for a time.
I think one of them needs to name change, as they sure dont agree with each other.
Up to them of course.

I was here first

That's my feeling, for all it counts. And Handbasket has been here a fair old time. Still, derail over. It just made me go to think that people might get the wrong end of the stick. I know I wouldn't want to be confused with somebody who had views on this kind of thing which were so different to my own.

X post . It took me so long to type because I was trying to be diplomatic.

I'm not diplomatic.

I'm also not a DV apologist so wouldn't like to be confused with EleanorF.

Although I am often a bit of a cunt....

ah yes, i thought eleanorfarjeon was handbasket as well.

I could tell - I'm sure most people could tell! It's clearly not you x

Handbasket - please don't change your name, it's one of my favourites. (I change mine all the time, but I've been here years)

oh, you can tell here... but not necessarily on less contentious subjects.

Maybe not - but I know Eleanor Farjeon as an author so it stands out as not being in the same vein, iyswim? Like, funny name, bookish name sorta thing.

John Diamond wrote about how he would want Nigella to be having sex again asap after he'd gone, or equally crass words to that effect. He is said to have if not explicitly approved then turned a blind eye to her and CS.
She's also said he agreed to have the TV documentary made about his illness without consulting her. And she's dropped hints about how angry he was when he was ill. So it might have been a case of out of the frying pan...

Oh god Nigella. Get out. You know in your very soul this man is a total and utter cunt. Stop tryi f to appear him. Nothing you do / don't do will ever change him. It's not you. It's him.

Do not let your children see this any more. Nigella, he's scum.

Get yourself onto the relationship board. Mumsnet is here for you.

That should be:

Stop trying to appease him