"uni lad" and lad culture

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There was a big furore recently about the "uni lad" magazine advocating rape. They closed their website to "clean up their act" but their facebook page is still so misogynistic :(
This popped up in the activity feed on my facebook the other day. I got involved but ended up having more sexist comments fired at me and in the end deleted my comments to avoid becoming a target.
www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=381942055162193&set=a.352663588090040.76923.146505212039213&type=1&theater
Fortunately it never reached 15,000 likes but this type of behaviour is becoming more and more accepted.

No idea. Will get round to checking my e-mails later and see if there's anything from mnhq, but I doubt it. They don't normally bother, though, do they?

Unless uni-lad have worked out where the complaints are coming from and he realised what a twat he'd been. Or his wife did.

MN only read posts / threads that are reported though, so they must have had a report.

So

I can't imagine that if it was them, they'd be holding off posting stuff on here though

It was me. I did it because I wasn't comfortable with the guy's wife and child being brought into this. I KNOW none of us would do something like bombard him or spam him or threaten his family BUT this is an open forum and drawing attention to innocent parties who yes...have open profiles on FB isn't on dont think.

I know the profile was open....but nobody was pointing it out before your post madwoman...hope I haven't offended anyone.

I assume someone took exception to me posting the names on his behalf, then.

No skin off my nose, really. But I think I'd want to know if the father of my newborn daughter was spouting woman hating bollocks for all to see on tinternet. How odd that an mner would take exception to me repeating something that is open for all to see anyway? It was a one click to his fb page from his crap spouting on uni lad. I'm hardly a stalker.

I know if a regular on here posted something and had inadvertently left open her security settings into her private life, i'd be inclined to let her know that it might not be a good idea to out herself in that way, but I don't have a lot of sympathy for two faced idiots that post crap on uni lad and then go home to stroke their baby daughter's hair.

His problem, not mine. But I still feel sorry for his partner and child. And his lovely parents who are so proud of their grand-daughter.

Hopefully, he's worked out that he doesn't really agree with the lad culture after all, given his circumstances, and won't be posting on uni lad again. A smidge of shame would go a long way. I might see if he's tightened up his fb security settings.

Aha and Oho! A confession!

And I didn't even have to get the thumbscrews out

Not very likely that we will start doing anything iffy. That sort of behaviour seems to be reserved for men people who don't like what we are saying.

Like Oooh wouldn't it be nice if people treated each other in a reasonable manner

Oh, ok. Thanks, awkward. x post.

That's a bit of a shame, I was kinda hoping he'd realised what a donkey he was being. Ah well.

I know...it would have been good...but when I went in to have a nose I saw the pics of his family and my heart panged for them.

Some weirdos come on MN and check out posts...they could decide to attack him or any of the people on there and we're not up for personal attacks in that sense are we.

I'm all for chucking shit at the owners of the site and condeming the users as a whole though.

it just really made me think though. i mean, you saw the same normal loving family stuff i did, and it was the juxtaposition of his comments on uni lad and his proud family and wee baby girl that made my teeth itch. they clearly have no idea. frightening, really.

and if all that stuff on uni lad is just bravado and internet nonsense, and not how he acts with them, i just want to bop him on the head and tell him to grow up, and try and get him to understand how damaging this stuff is - for his own daughter as well as all the other women in the world.

I bet his wife knows....she's probably got an account too. Either she ignores what he writes or doesn't know it's wrong. Both sad possibilities.

His wife looked nice and seeing someone in that defenceless way....well it made me sad.

Don't know what it is with men with profile pictures of babies - another one commented on a photo of some girls in underwear & two guys with "dirty filthy whores lol hope u mashed them lmao x"

Nice.

yuck

I really wouldn't be comfortable with my dd studying in an atmosphere like that. I suppose in America it is similar?

Surely the university (even with hands tied to some degree) has a responsiblity to protect female students from this type of gender hatred. I should think if the punishment meant being kicked off your course and out of university, we would see a great reduction in this kind of ugly talk. It wouldn't change the way these young men think or talk in private but it could have some effect.

I was wondering what his university has to say about it too Zen.

I (amongst others I'm sure) reported the picture days ago. It's still there. How on earth do they get around to exterminate any breastfeeding pics asap, but the posting of a nude image of someone who has not consented to its being published alongside some pretty awful commentary is left up?

This thread is hilarious.

1. No women aren't covered by hate legislation because you're 50% of the population. Hate legislation is designed to protect the most vulnerable and I have to break it to you but that isn't women. This is why you get theories like Intersectionality which seek to connect feminist issues to race issues to elevate them to racial issues etc ... there's not nothing in this but the claim that it's "all one thing" is pushing it a bit. The problem is that if everyone is included in hate legislation (and even the Emos and Goths think they're a minority these days) then it isn't hate legislation any more it's just more legislation.

2. Banning things is counter productive. Trust me I have decades of experience in trying to ban absolutely everything. Beyond a certain point you just drive it underground and give it more credibility. I can't see how none of you can see that it is your university bans on lad mags and soft porn mags that have created the gap in the market that Uni Lad etc now inhabit. You haven't eliminated it you've just pushed it into another arena and made someone else rich and given something seedy glamour
   www.pearshapedcomedy.com/Lads.html

3. Maybe there is a point in some censorship. Personally I think if you want porn you should have to get it under the counter or use the internet, Burlesque nights can get stuffed or get a proper adult entertainment licence and children shouldn't be allowed into a 12A but honestly people will always find new ways of subverting censorship. It's constant and never ending. You literally can never win.

4. As to lad culture nothing's changed since I was at University except how much people pay to go there, everyone can see it because of the internet and anyone can promote whatever rubbish they like whereas in the old days there were less promoters because it was difficult. But it is progress and better than the old days when it took 2 years to publish a 40 line poem to 1000 readers.

mraemiller threads been dead for two years you knob

I know it's nearly Halloween, but joining a site just to ressurect zombie threads is a bit, well, weird, don't you think?

I know but it only started to interest me since I realised that a certain comedian who now inhabits ITV2 who I dont want to give any more publicity seems to have worked with Alex Partridge of Uni Lad and so I started to wonder this week about the deeper issues ... frankly you're very lucky that I can find a window at all. I suppose it has all passed me by because I dont have kids but I am trying to take the issues seriously ... I really am... honestly.

If you want to discuss this with feminists, you could start a new thread, instead of raising from the dead one which was started 2 years ago. Then you can tell us exactly how terribly lucky we all are to have been such a precious window in your life.

Bless...

Ikr?

So nice of the man to take some if his precious time to mansplain feminism to us silly ladies.

I have reported our new (and might I say, charming) arrival. Always (no really, not being tongue in cheek at all here) lovely to get a new perspective that we haven't come across here before ever. I mean, it's not like this is the sort of place where people come simply to stir up trouble. They've come for the lovely kittens. And goats. And canons. And goats wielding canons.