As GothAG suggests, Southall Black Sisters use the term "honour based crimes" and they are one of the leading organisations that supports women and campaigns to address the problem. Even if I feel uneasy with the term because of the "lens" through which I view it, I think we have to accept it and not get too hung up on the word at the risk of losing sight of the problem behind it.
Perhaps there is a similarity with the term "Domestic Violence/Abuse." I despise the fact that phrases like "just a domestic" or "having a domestic" belittle the reality of what is systemic gender-based violence against women by a partner. Also, it doesn't have to happen in a home or even between people who co-habit. However, I accept that it is the term in general use and most widely understood, so I am happy to go with it.
AyeBelieveInTheHumanityOfMen refers to that sobering thread that lists all the women who have been killed by partners or other significant men in their lives. The majority of these are white European women. I firmly disagree with therugratref that these crimes are all that different from honour killings.
In nearly every case, there are suggestions that the woman was somehow at least partly responsible for her own demise. She had an affair, he feared she was having an affair, she was going to leave him, she was denying him access to his kids, she laughed at and taunted him, etc. etc. To me, that suggests the perpetrator killed because he felt she had dishonoured him.
I wonder if cases of men killing or trying to kill their partners or ex's is so commonplace that society almost views it as "normal" behaviour. We almost take for granted that a man who feels dishonoured by his woman (even if we don't use the word dishonoured) can "snap" and kill her, (AKA Deliliah, Hey Joe, that sort of thing,) or even that he could have been justified because of what she did (or the papers tell you she did.)
But, when a South Asian or Middle Eastern woman is killed by a partner, father, brother, etc., we see this as something totally different, somehow more deserving of our contempt. We're quick to link "defects" in their culture, traditions or faith to these actions while we ignore the factors in our own culture that imho, are just as much at play in the deaths of women on the Victims of Violence thread.