To all those who say on threads 'I am too scared to go into feminism' - this topic isn't scary!

[GetOrfMoiLand]

I think it's a shame when I see threads where the OP says 'I am too scared to put this in feminism' or something.

I am certainly not knowledgeable about feminist theory, but have never felt that my opinion on this thread wasn't wanted or I was vilified for stating what I believed.

I think this topic is pretty inclusive - yes some people are forthright with their opinions, but nobody's word is god, and I would hate to think that mumsnetters were put off contributing to threads in this topic because they mistakenly think the posters on here are viragos.

SGM - I'm so sorry, you're quite right. I have derided and insulted the entire borg board and I must go and drink acid at once.

And btw I didn't ask you to change your blah blah, I was explaining (to getorf) my particular reasons for not often hanging out there. Which I think you'll find I am entitled to do.

I only lurk on this board and that's for a few reasons.

Some posters DO seem to suggest people should stay away from the board rather quickly, it's difficult to debate someting if you're just told to stay away repeatedly.
It is very heavy going at times (for good reason some of the time) and any attempt at humour is frowned upon.
I have also found that on this board any unfit or neglectful mothers from news stories/rteports are defended no matter what the circumstances. And god help the poster who turns around and says, well actually maybe she is a bit shit as a parent.

I would post but I'm not brave enough nor have enough energy for the backlash

TBH, Hully I'm not sure why are on this board

Quite early for that even by the usual standards.

SGM - No, i didn't realise that the majority were Sahm, most of them seemed to have fab careers.

Prolesworth - Yes, very i'm alright Jack. There are lots of other topics i don't venture onto because they actually aren't particularly relevant to my life either. Babynames for example :o Also the over analysis of everything i consider to be a waste of time.

LOOOK. LOOK at the EAGLE!!

There there....

Admit it Getorf, you wanted to start a mini riot row.

Fail.
Did not see the shit storm.....

Getorf loves people and wants the people she likes to engage in happy manner on feminism as she likes many of their discussion.
She is perturbed by the discord and wishes it could be resolved.

She can't.

hello IroningBoardForSurfBoard - welcome out of lurkdom - suspect SGM's response to Hullygully may be due to previous threads.... - not very likely to happen to a new poster fresh out of lurkdom!

btw I would have classified SGM's first response as sarcastic not humourless - indeed it is darkly humourous perhaps.

GetOrf - It's a shame when people feel the need to preface with that but it flags up a newbie and normally to me signals that people are interested in a feminist point of view but perhaps feel they don't know much about feminism.

IroningBoardForSurfBoard - which type of threads do you like to lurk on and what would you like to see more of? Sometimes these threads lead to a "flushing out" of lurkers and lead to lots of interesting new thread ideas which lurkers are too scared too post!

Have posted a couple of times recently....lots of very intelligent, passionate and opiniated women. Also a couple of complete skutterbuckets.

Just like the rest of MN, really.

Thanks alouyise re poster girl. Not sure I am though Just made the best of a bad job.

I think why keep banging the feminism drum is tgat I still encounter all sorts of shit at work (low level sexist behaviour) which makes me realise it generally is still a man's world. And I have my own personal axes to grind (such as abortion access and armed forces equality).

Alouise I think loads of people on here are SAHMs anyway. Plus you have worked in probably the most stressful work environments going, even if you don't consider yourself a feminist, you must have behaved in a boudicca-like way in order to have been successful.

But I haven't SGM. I am genuinely confused that you think I have..

I got very cross on the notorious Bristol Palin fandango (which crossed briefly onto the chat thing - but please let's not go there as it was resolved at the time by the lovely SAF), but them's my only dealings.

As I said earlier, despite being really quite hardcore, I'm no good at serious, so I stay away on the whole. I don't care if other people want to do serious, just not really for me.

at pagwatch

I know.

My plans for the afternoon are to start a thread in The Dog House saying 'I have just kicked a dog up the arse because it licked my baby' and see how that goes down.

Prolesworth, I would if they were musing why some people don't visit them.

I certainly don't go looking for particular topics but if they're in "most active" i might dive in. Hence my presence on this thread.

Pagwatch give her a hug, you know she wants one.

Boudicca :o

I don't want to fight with anyone.

I am tempted alouiseg.
I will wait until she has finished her whole dog kicking thread fuck.

Getorf.
I have a good dog thread!

Walking penis dog on Sunday a small west was sniffing penis dogs bum. Penis dog shat on his head!
You could do " should I punish penisdog"
"is this shit based abuse?" "when dogging goes wrong?"

I forgot to post it. But excellent dog house thread fodder.

westie

I have posted a couple of times on the feminist topic and have been insulted and told to get lost. I felt that maybe I was missing something so I started a thread asking questions about aspects of feminism I didn't understand and I was told that the feminist topic isn't for debate, that no one was going to explain anything to me and that I should go and read a book. One poster started out chatting to me and then decided I wasn't worth talking to any more and started insulting me. She later pmed me to apologise and admitted that it was uncalled for.

I find it very hard to write posts on the feminism board as often rather than engaging with the points I have made other posters have attacked me personally and called me names. I don't try to be offensive and I never even attempt humour so I can't understand it as my posts never provoke such a reaction on other topics. I do get the sense that there is a very strict line you have to toe within the topic and that if you question it, people won't correct you or engage in a debate with you, they'll just say something quite rude. Of course this is in general and some posters are very kind, but on the whole I haven't had good experiences on this topic.