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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Man cleared of rape because he was too drunk to realise which bed he was in.

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 26/02/2011 12:29

Sorry DM but here.

This guy's girlfriend refused sex, he stumbled into another room "by accident" and started having sex with the woman in the bed there.

He was cleared of rape.

There is so much wrong with this that I don't know where to start. I imagine he's been cleared because he didn't intend (apparently) to commit a crime. But the fact is that neither woman had consented to sex with him, so whoever he decided to penetrate it would have been rape. He seems to have been cleared on the grounds that if he had walked back into his (non-consenting) girlfriend's room and penetrated her without further ado, that would not have been rape. It obviously would have been.

:( scared and Angry all at once.

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EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 14:45

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:01

I will ask the lady that is coming to see me tomorrow. they said they can help move me away from here i already had to move from my last address because he found out where it was and paid someone to brick all my windows but my new house i made into a nice little home and just wanted justic and to move on i wanted him named and shamed women to see how much of a monster he is but for me there is no justice. So i think i will have to leave and try to start again somewhere eles. I cant stop thinking how did he walk away when my case was so strong and only should have went my way. I see him laughing right now. Im just so sad so low i wont keep going on sorry..

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 02/03/2011 15:06

I'm so so sorry, and so angry, about what happened to you BrokenGirl11.
Please talk about it as much as you want, we won't think you're going on.

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:30

Thankyou all so much if all us ladys that were raped and hurt so badly and had such a strong case and somehow the justice failed us if we all stuck together do you think there is something we can do i would give my last penny for the man who did this to me to pay. I just dont know if anyone can help

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:36

I dont feel brave right now i feel like i dont even want to open my blinds i really feel sad for my baby girl who i love with all my heart he has ruined my life but i cant let him do this to hers.
Just cant pull myself together.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 15:39

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:47

Stayfrosty reading your message made me cry i only wish he had pleaded guilty but even without they said my case was diffrent than a lot because i never froze i thought back till in the end he stop smacking me and starngled me after that i could not fight anymore when i came around i spat in his face and he still he just carried on making the noise of an animal. i had a book of injurys what was show in court and still they say i wanted ..NOT guilty how? he said he hit me once and pushed me and thats how i got some. my doctor said you can see my face was done from 2 blows or more and he still walked the photos of my neck ? still he walks
Im so sorry you was raped i trully am im cry now for us all x

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:49

I cant tell my family would hurt my dad to much and my sister knows but she just cant talk about it. she never comes over to see me.

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:50

Im not sure what i can maybe the lady coming to see me tomorrow might be able to help me

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:52

She is 14 months and full of life she is amazing

BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:55

Engelbert that is what its like every night i hate night times i get tearful just thinking about the night i struggle with flash backs dreams and my head is never at peace maybe i will look into that when i feel strong enough to leave my house.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 16:05

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 16:07

If it was not for my little girl being left in this evil world i would feel like making a stament ending my life leaving a note to the ones who let him walk free that word guilty ment so much and they even took that from me i think im due a big cry now just cant stop i have never been like this in my life im so weak now.

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