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This board is the most frightening .

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fangbanger · 25/02/2011 23:25

Apparently.

I am a little saddened that a forum mostly used by women, has decided that the feminist boards are the most frightening of the forum.

Why do we feel that is? What can be done to prevent people from feeling so intimidated that they are too scared t post?

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Goblinchild · 26/02/2011 00:47

' you don't want to have to think of the audience and tone it down but rather just say what you want to say. '

I see your point, but I post a lot on the SN boards. We regularly get people arriving who want to know more about some aspect of SN, education, legal stuff, rights or just how to survive. We try and be patient and give calm and simple explanations, even when it's basic stuff that should be obvious and is asked over and over again by different posters.
Some are in denial, or angry about the cards they've got, some want to know how to change things. We want them to stay and find the SN boards a source of support and strength, not a scary place full of experts with sharp teeth and an unwelcoming attitude.

I have no idea if that made any sense at all, or if I've just annoyed you all again.

BooyFuckingHoo · 26/02/2011 00:47

how about "feminism: step 1" or chapter 1 or something or tell me to shut up! Grin

Hullygully · 26/02/2011 00:48

It is very important that no one worry about being "annoying."

JaneS · 26/02/2011 00:49

Goblin, I may be wrong, but wasn't SN initially set up so people could have a place to talk where they weren't expected to be simultaneously explaining themselves?

Hullygully · 26/02/2011 00:49

Feminism: A beginning?

PeterAndreForPM · 26/02/2011 00:49

GC, making points like that in a non-confrontational way (just like you did) should not annoy anyone

lemonsquish · 26/02/2011 00:50

SeeJaneKick- I also have daughters and have the battle of trying to instill in them the thoughts that they are not inferior to men/boys.

I've ordered a book for my eldest today (as well as the book club one)

Sorry if I'm not making too much sense-have had some alcohol!Smile

PeterAndreForPM · 26/02/2011 00:50

hully...let your Fem-Lite baby go

Hullygully · 26/02/2011 00:51

I have to go to bed now (pj-less but still)

We are all daughters of Earth and we must love and help each other without fear or faltering.

SeeJaneKick · 26/02/2011 00:51

I like the idea of a feminist book club...even if I dont post I will have a reason to read good literature and then a place to hear more about it than perhaps I took in....or if I am brave a place to share my thoughts.

Hullygully · 26/02/2011 00:51

I'm taking pore little unwanted fem-lite with me

MogadoredMemoo · 26/02/2011 00:53

"Feminism: A beginning" I like that!

I have to warn you though I have hundreds of questions, I am making notes as we speak in between rocking a very restless toddler to sleep

PeterAndreForPM · 26/02/2011 00:53

have to go bo-bies too

am glad someone started this thread though

Goblinchild · 26/02/2011 00:54

LRD, you are right, it was set up to avoid people leaping in with comments relevant to children without SN.
But we get a lot of people wanting to find out more about the topic, parents, relatives of children with SN, people who work in the field and the all the rest.
Rather like the protofeminists you get here, wandering in with a naive question, asking what's wrong with X or Y as a genuine enquiry, wondering if they are feminists or not.
The response they get often determines whether they come back or not.

MogadoredMemoo · 26/02/2011 00:54

ah, bye bye little lost fem-lite

dittany · 26/02/2011 00:57

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JaneS · 26/02/2011 00:59

Makes sense goblin. But you also see people come on here deliberately to stir - if someone starts a thread on something like changing one's name at marriage, or using ms, or similar, you can bet someone will be along shortly to take the piss. It's sometimes someone who hasn't seen the thread was in feminism, but there's a few regulars who just like to repeat the same opinions over and again, just to remind us that they can.

I think that's when people get a negative response mostly.

JaneS · 26/02/2011 01:02

hully, just for you:

www.thc-seed.com/product/41/202/Strawberry-Dlite-Fem.html

It does seem we've been mistaken about what fem lite might be - first result from google. Grin

SeeJaneKick · 26/02/2011 01:02

No LittleRedDragon...not always...I got HAMMERED on here once when I asked a "naieve" question which was coming from a good and genuine place. I was in shock afterwards. That was under my old name.

Goblinchild · 26/02/2011 01:04

I've been squished a couple of times on here, but not nastily. Just thoroughly. Grin
SGM is the reason I keep coming back.

dittany · 26/02/2011 01:05

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Goblinchild · 26/02/2011 01:07

Umm, SGM's the one whose posts persuade me back because they are interesting and I can't resist a well-formed argument.
She's not a squisher.
Just wanted to clear that one up.

dittany · 26/02/2011 01:08

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Goblinchild · 26/02/2011 01:10

We used to get trolls on SN, some of them very nasty. Now they tend to post their DLA and blue badge rants on the main boards, along with some of the more eugenics-based arguments.
So some of us take the fight to them.
Leaving the harbour.

JaneS · 26/02/2011 01:12

Oh, that is horrible Goblin. Sad

Sorry to have brought that up.