This board is the most frightening .

[fangbanger]

Apparently.

I am a little saddened that a forum mostly used by women, has decided that the feminist boards are the most frightening of the forum.

Why do we feel that is? What can be done to prevent people from feeling so intimidated that they are too scared t post?

Did not mean to derail this into talk of bank accounts. It was just something that was mentioned and I genuinely did not see how your domestic set up could be unfeminist if it suits for practical reasons, and is not forced upon you. I was just gathering thoughts. Sorry.

Oh my feminist credentials were questioned as I am (currently) a SAHM. On this board. By Xenia (obviously)and by a few others too.
Actually it's happened a few times. Once on a thread about feminist choices and one which explicitly asked whether you can be a feminist and a SAHM.

It's a good point - how can you be a feminist and financially dependent on a man for your copies of The Second Sex or whatever.

Anyway I just thought fuck the lot of yew and pissed off to celeb twaddle.

good plan, NT

Someone definitely said you can't be a feminist and a SAHM, possibly a couple of people did on one recent thread I was on. Neither of whom were regular posters in this topic.

I am so fed up with the way 'feminists' or 'the feminist topic' gets held responsible for random shit posted by random posters who have either never been seen on here before or since, or who come on regularly but don't actually call themselves feminists anyway.

Marantha was very vocal about Feminism and SAHM not being compatible, if I remember rightly

she has been known to be a bit "random" that is for sure

FWIW I wonder what the value of a 'feminist' section is... do you think that feminist perspectives are kind of ghettoised in this section and are then more easily dismissed as 'this is what a few feminists think' rather than offering a feminist perspective on the many other issues talked about on mumsnet (although many people do that too)and having people who do not self identify as feminists considering these views without feeling they are being pushed into some ideology.

You said what I was thinking Seth, and that's my recollection.

Personally I would feel less able to go and be feminist elsewhere, if I didn't know that I had the support back here and it wasn't going to just be me against a tide. As someone said, we can radiate from here.

when the topic was first mooted there were worries about whether it would ghettoise feminism and mean there would end up being less of it elsewhere on MN, but it doesn't seem to have happened that way; if anything there seem to be more threads elsewhere about what might be called feminist subjects.

no, Engel, she didn't

I like Men's Health.

What I particularly like is that I can discuss current issues with other women who share my broad outlook. I'm a member of another board which is unisex (and male dominated) and although it's political, gender politic discussions there are really difficult. So now I don't have to engage there, I can have those discussions here instead :)

The solution is to close this board down and for everyone to decamp into style and beauty. Nobody will be afraid to post them and it can be feminism by stelth and hopefully some of us will find some natty dungarees