Would you like to play "It's like Feminisim never happened" with me?

[Marchpane]

I have a gem: I'm sorting out the home insurance renewal but since the last policy I have taken redundancy and I'm going back to do a postgraduate course. Which I told them.

They now have my occupation listed as "housewife" which is pretty yuk, but under employer's business it say "domestic service".

Presumably my husband is my employer and I spend my time in servitude to him?

Any one more?

My MIL assumed I would sell my car once we moved in together and that DH would take me where I needed to go - presumably I would ask "would you mind taking me to town/supermarket etc darling".

I joined the caravan club, completed the application form and paid the fee and added DH to the membership - they put his name first on the membership cards.

We once looked at a large, fast car at a garage, the salesman asked DH if he wanted a test drive, he said it might be better if I did it as the car was for me, the salesman looked down at me and said "Are you sure you'll be OK driving a big car like this", DH took a step back and braced himself - needless to say we didn't buy it.

My MIL ( I could do an hours stand up routine on the MIL), often tells me FIL has "done the hoovering/dusting etc for me", he's retired, she hasn't.

ooh I am first on our account - was mine firt and I added DH - good for Natwest :)

These things are so obvious and numerous, it mystifies me when people insist that feminism is irrelevant. It's so strange. I mean if you talk about rape, they're all "that's a bit dark and extreme" and if you talk about people addressing the financial paperwork to the man they're all "yes, but that's just what they do, it doesn't mean anything". So if it's big and violent it doesn't count and if it's little and mildly insulting it doesn't count. What is the sort of thing that does count? Is there an optimum scale of an example of patriarchy that is neither too big nor too small to fit in your glasses?

Sorry, not relevant, just an involuntary squawk

lol at you selling your car! Even if yu did, presumably your DH's would become your joint car??

Umami chose him for you, on the end of the last thread. We all have one.

I will have a look.
BTW We need a new thread HullyGirl...I am waiting....

( I am a bit pissed. Took DD out for lunch in a 'thank god, you made it to your birthday and didn't die' styleee' She is 8 today )

There is one...

Is she pissed too?

YY to a bit pissed. Just found it ....

Sorry all, will stop this convo now.

SHE IS?????????

waits for threads on: AIBU to get my dd a bit pissed of a lunchtime?

vezzie, could I please drag you over here for a minute?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1032691-to-think-that-civil-partnerships-for-heterosexuals-are-a-good?pg=10

My parents do this lovely thing where the phone conversation goes like this:

Me: Have to go now, DH is just dishing up dinner.
Mum/Dad: Yes, you go and cook him dinner now.

I know exactly what you mean vezzie. I'm squawking in agreement.

tsk. X-posted. DD not pissed. I am pissed in charge of a DD

Sorry for hijack peeps... going now

At the bank sorting out a few bits like "where's my money now you've merged" and get asked about what I do.

Reply I am not working due to redundancy. To which personal banker replies "So you'll be living off the baby then?"

I think it's a new low when the man you are living off is not even two years old.

I replied "no. I will not be living off anybody. I'm independently wealthy".

We were looking for my ISA with about 3 years of contributions ffs

I mean if you talk about rape, they're all "that's a bit dark and extreme"

hehehe so true

'living off the baby' conjures up rather a disturbing image.

Vezzie I want to frame your post and hang it on the wall. Presumably there's some kind of objective feminism Goldilocks in the sky.

Apparently DP got a few phone calls about double glazing/insurance/etc where they said her husband had made some enquiry and they were following it up.

Interesting, she said, as I'm a raving lesbian. Now fuck off.

Makes a note of "I'm a raving lesbian. Now fuck off." for future use

Also, on at least one insurance site where I've tried to do car insurance, once you put that you are female it automatically defaults to partner being male and it can't be changed.

Needless to say they do not get my money, but a complaint letter referring to equality and diversity legislation.

It's a handy phrase and adaptable for many situations - please feel free to use it!

Lolol at "Im a raving lesbian now fuck off!"

I sat next to a temp at the office who seemed to want to "open up" to me about how she felt English women asked to be raped by all the short skirts and tight tops they wore.
Also she said when your husband leaves you for another woman you should pray as her friend did and he came back to his wife and kids after 2 years.

I was so shocked I didn't say anything. We were both about 23 and she was from Paris. Never forgot it.

One more from me:

DH's step sister and sister recently had babies. Each time FIL sent an email with photo... but not to dh or his brother. No the email went to me, my SIL (Dh's sister) and dh's SIL (dh's brother's wife). I hadn't even met dh's step-sister more than once, but as fil says "ladies love babies".

I later found out it wasn't actually fil emailing but step-mil using her husband's account