Porn

[msrisotto]

Tentative!

Um, the way I see it is that a lot of porn (I have heard) is appallingly violent and degrading for women. This stuff, ideally wouldn't exist and should be banned (how, I don't know, but ideally).

However, the porn that I have seen or enjoyed is not. I wouldn't enjoy porn that is degrading.

So, why is all porn bad? (in some people's opinions?) If it isn't degrading and is equal in its approach, for the entertainment of others, then I don't see any harm.

Is the argument that you don't get the 'good' porn without the bad?

Don't flame me please, I really want this to be a considered conversation.

What a horrible thing for you to have to see crunchyrog and that poor girl :( At 16 I don't think I would have been able to say anything either.

have just read most of this thread and TBH feel a bit ill. I've always disliked porn (after being asked to watch it a few times - mostly with my first boyfriend when I was a teenager, he was in his 20s). I think for a time I thought that saying I didn't mind watching it (I was never, ever turned on by it) made me seem sexually liberated in some way. Over time I've found myself feeling more strongly anti it but I hadn't really thought through how many of my sexual experiences have been influenced by porn (the men I've been wanting, on some level, to re-enact it IYSWIM). So depressing. Can't believe it's never dawned on me before. I perhaps need to have a bit of a conversation with DH... Anyway, think this thread is probably long dead now but it's been something of a revelation

A banal point, but I'll make it anyway. This contract issue raised by Carmen is a red herring. The standard remedy for breach of contract is monetary payment (there are various others, such as cancellation and so on).

There are situations where a contracting party might be ordered to perform what (s)he promised, but they don't include personal services (e.g. painting, performing music, and other things that require the personal skill of a person).

There is simply no way that a court would order a person to have sex to fulfil a contract, even in countries where contracts requiring sexual acts to be performed are legal.