DIET FAILED AGAIN - it’s thread 8 (the one where we all lose weight) - all welcome

[thenewaveragebear1983]

New thread for the new year 2026! Everyone welcome to join us for motivation and encouragement, without judgement.

@thenewaveragebear1983 don’t beat yourself up, sometimes this just happens 🤷‍♀️

Better day today, I’m sticking to three meals and trying to make them bigger and more filling and then having no snacks. I’m hormonal today and really really tired. I know I’m due on because I’m having dreadful palpitations and they leave me feeling exhausted.

still not negotiated my exit from work, today the CEO (we are quite small!) called me to ask me to stay. I have still said no, hopefully now my leaving settlement will be agreed tomorrow so I can get some closure. I am so sad, and I am so tired of being emotionally wrung out all the time.

I did well on my meals today but then dh bought me a cherry magnum which was absolutely delicious and so that’s skewed the figures a little 🤣 although I did go to bootcamp- first time it’s been light all the way through, beautiful sunset 🌅

@thenewaveragebear1983 you are doing well so no negatives, we will all get there.

my sleep is still awful and i also have, tmi, chronic constipation. I have spent most of the day doubled up on pain and I’ve overdosed on medication because nothing seems to work.

on the plus side I haven’t felt like snacking although managed a large dinner. I didn’t fancy lunch so just had an apple around 2.30.

i am in a foul mood, absolutely vile, but luckily haven’t seen many people today. DP is texting (don’t see him on Wednesday) panicking and wanting me to seek medical intervention as this has been going on for a long time. I’ve been researching and will cut red meat out of my diet now but everything else is very healthy. Strange that surgery products and alcohol can really affect this condition and I haven’t had either this year.

ah well onwards and upwards.

That doesn’t sound good @poorpaws, maybe your dp is right and you should try to see the dr. Did you ever get your painful hand sorted?

I am trying, I always keep on. I totalled up my calories and I have reached around 1800 today, I do wonder how I would ever be able to undercut that by 500 every single day for weeks and weeks and weeks- it feels impossible. But I do keep trying

I am seeing a consultant hand specialist in Exeter on Tuesday. I’ve had to wait over five weeks for a private appointment. When I saw the NHS consultant I only had to wait two weeks.

it’s getting worse and I tried to drive on Sunday and it was painful and I didn’t feel in full control of the car so I have to give that up until my hand is operated on. I just hope this consultant is sympathetic.

im hoping he agees the surgery and can do it quickly but I doubt it.

I hope your consultation goes well, this has been dragging on for a long time for you now. Chronic pain is so debilitating, that sounds really awful.

I tossed and turned all night last night dreaming about work and my conversation with the boss yesterday. I hope today I will finally get my confirmation of my leaving date and settlement figure so I can start looking forward to my new job.

my leg hurts again after bootcamp last night and I did really want a run today so will have to see now whether that’s a good idea or not. I am going Nordic walking on Saturday in the Malvern hills so I don’t want to be injured for that. 😢

food today: I’m sticking with my 3 meals plan and trying not to snack.
b- rice cakes, peanut butter, fruit
L- frozen portion of a meal with lots of veg
d- I think I have a chicken which needs cooked so I might do that with a load of spice on it like a tandoori, with some veg and rice.

Oh my goodness, what a day I’ve had. It started with the news that a lovely lady who I’ve known for a long time and who was bravely fighting cancer, died at the weekend. She was mid 40s and I’m so upset she’s gone.

my tummy pain was still acute today but DP wanted to go to our cafe so we did go but I just couldn’t face any food so I just had coffee.

i got home to a parcel containing a pair of shoes that I’m not sure will be comfortable and may have to go back. Then I opened a letter confirming my appointment at Plymouth Hospital (should be Exeter) with a consultant I’ve never heard of. Over one and a half hours later and at least six phone calls it was a mistake, shouldn’t have been sent and my original appointment was confirmed by two different departments. Phew!

because of the quite traumatic day I’ve not eaten as much as normal so I might eat a little more this evening.

im hoping for an exceptionally quiet day tomorrow. It’s going to be cold here, so a dog walk and then a day indoors.

i hope everyone is doing ok. I did walk around the garden and was so pleased to see quite a few bulbs beginning to flower 😀

Ah @poorpawsi am sorry you have had a difficult day. I hope you get your quiet uneventful day tomorrow.

I’ve also been enjoying watching the garden, I planted over 100 bulbs last year and a few are poking through, I am especially excited for my frilly tulips! I have had a very emotional day today, it finally hit me that I am leaving my lovely job and all the hard work I have done is coming to an end. I cried a lot today but I think I am all cried out now.

my food has been good though and I am coming in under budget today for the first time in ages.

@thenewaveragebear1983. Bless you, it must be so difficult to leave a job that you love and have worked so hard in. I am sure as you move forward you’ll equally love and work hard in your new position. Perhaps all the tears were needed so now you can shake them off and enjoy the future. I’m sorry it’s not been a good day for you.

I’m very glad it’s Friday! It’s been a long week.

foods been ok today although I have gone over my calories. I made a really nice steak stir fry with rice noodles and teriyaki, I just needed something sticky and tasty. But that tipped my calories over. Still, 3 straight meals today, that’s been a good strategy for me this week, I haven’t had anywhere near as many snacks this week.

tomorrow I am going Nordic walking, I am really looking forward to it, plus going with my friend who I am getting to know really well now. I don’t have many friends and I met her on a meet up group on Facebook, we get on great and it’s nice to have someone to do outdoorsy stuff with.

I’m not drinking this weekend, the last few weekends have ended up drinking too much and feeling crap. I have a long weekend next week to use il my holiday allowance so will have a 5 day weekend and I’d like to feel a bit more lively and less tired.

It’s been so cold here today, more like dec/jan.

i decided last night that i am no longer eating after 8 pm and will try to have breakfast after 8 am so a decent window of no snacking.

im also reviewing my diet since the agonising stomach pain two days ago. I googled everything I eat on a regular basis and im cutting down dramatically on red meat, white bread, raw carrot and doubling my fruit consumption. I still find it strange that all the things I’ve given up this year and alcohol are the main culprits and I’ve not had any.
I think I’ve learned a hard lesson from all the pain and I don’t want to ever suffer like that again. At least my jacket potatoes are ok because I live on those.

im also considering continuing with the no sugar for at least another month when March is over but that will include Easter. I haven't even had a hot cross bun yet this year and I do love them.

i feel optimistic about losing a pound this week because of my stomach pain lack of appetite but we’ll see on Sunday.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I don’t have many friends either because I’ve moved areas so many times but I have a lot of acquaintances and one good neighbour and I don’t really have hobbies that friends could join in with. It’s really DP and the dogs and I don’t even see him as much as he’d like because I like my own space and I love silent solitude. 😀

Happy weekend.

Good morning, another wet vile day here

Weigh-in went well, I’ve lost 1 1/2 pounds this week. I’m pleased with this week’s result because surely I’m going to have a gain soon, I keep waiting. I don’t think I’ve ever gone as long without a tiny gain. It just goes to show that the chocolate, cake, biscuits, sweets were the culprit. I’ve got three weeks and two days left of my no sugar challenge And I’m very proud of myself that I’ve actually kept to it and not cheated and it’s proved successful for me.

It’s so nasty here again I think I’ll have a quiet day. I don’t fancy going out in this and the dogs had a very long walk yesterday so I might just chill all day.

i hope everyone is doing well and it’s a bit warmer where you are.

I had to start the pill for ivf and its making me feel very overwhelmed, very tired, very hungry, giving me the shakes, headaches and back to gaining weight. Why is it the easiest thing in the world to gain weight no matter what your doing but it doesn't come off at all.

I'm 12 stone 9ish at the moment. I've lost about half a stone on intermittent fasting and having stopped drinking alcohol as well. I was at 10 stone at my lightest. It's good to be finally losing something but I have a long way to go.

I exercise pretty much daily and if anything is still a problem it's still comfort eating albeit I've cut out most added sugar and simple carbs in the last month as well which restricts it a bit. It's not quite so exciting to comfort eat a carrot.

Good evening all. I had a lovely weekend, thoroughly enjoyed Nordic walking but other than that I have had a lazy few days, a nice chicken dinner today, and my meals have been generally healthy. I feel tired, and I think I’m brewing a mild virus of some sort. I just couldn’t face a run in miserable grey weather, how cruel to show us lovely sunshine last week and then snatch it all away again.

i’ve planned my menu for the week, and shopping is coming tomorrow. Tried to do a few different things this week to mix it up, and I’m also going to delay my breakfast and try to have just 2 meals a day. My weight loss has absolutely ground to a halt this year, steady maintains all round. I need something to kick start me now back into losses!

I had a good day today. I ran and went to bootcamp and I never normally double up these days, so will probably feel tired tomorrow. Food has been good as well, for dinner I made a huge spicy egg fried rice with loads of veg, peppers, peas, mushrooms, olives and chorizo, it wasn’t too bad on calories and I got 8 portions not 4 so it was a bargain both diet wise and cost wise. Highly recommend, even the dc ate it.

I had another good day today, especially considering I’m quite hormonal. I’ve been having 3 good filling meals each day, but no snacks. My dinner tonight was delicious- gnocchi with loads of mushrooms, tomatoes and spinach, with pesto and a salmon fillet. I went for a run because it was sunny but my legs were tired and it was really windy and cold, so wasn’t as nice as I hoped.

tomorrow, I am having my standard breakfast of overnight oats with Greek yog and berries , a frozen portion of the spicy rice for lunch, and for dinner I am doing these ‘smash wraps’ I have seen- seasoned mince sort of spread on a wrap, you pan fry it, then add cheese, salad etc then fold it over, and it’s supposed to be like a spicy burrito type thing 🤷‍♀️

@thenewaveragebear1983 love the look of that meal, looks very tasty.

i saw the hand consultant yesterday and he was so much better than the NHS consultant I saw in December. I had a few simple tests which were all good. I had to fill out a health form and I felt like a saint. No to smoking, drinking, Ozempic (apparently ozempic can affect the surgery) and although I am still overweight it’s not nearly as bad as it was. Hopefully I can have the surgery soon as the consultant saw the hand as very disabling and needing immediate action. I won’t bore you with all the details, but apparently there are two separate problems with my hand, One finger is duypytrens and the ring finger is a trigger finger and it’s rare to have both at the same time.

we were travelling and at the hospital for over four hours and when we got home, I was exhausted which is a time when I usually pick at various food and eat too much. I made myself make a salad because I want to carry on losing weight weekly.

I don’t usually see DP today but it’s going to be the nicest day of the week so we’re going to do a slow walk to our café and I’m going to have tomorrow off instead (when it’s going to rain all day). I have a lot of work to do before my right hand is either in a cast or in a splint. I would think I’ll be typing a lot less too.

have a great Wednesday.

I thought I’d send you a photo of lunch at our cafe. A bap with salad and a chicken breast, tortilla chips and relish (first photo as it was served) versus what I actually eat every week. So the tortillas, the top of the bap and the majority of the relish goes to DP and the second photo with the bottom of the bap, the salad and the chicken with a small amount of relish is what I actually eat. It’s damage limitation, what do you think?

I’m sure you could roughly calorie count that @poorpawsif you looked online for a similar shop bought option. I can’t imagine it’s crazy calories for a lunch. This week I have been trying to split my daily cals into 3 for each meal, and not managing a 500 cals breakfast, but having a bigger lunch had definitely helped me stave off the cravings and lurking about the fridge.

I hope they can get your hand sorted now, I am glad you have seen the consultant.

I finally got my letter of settlement for redundancy today, good grief I have been waiting a long time. So I will get a nice little payout of a few k and will be leaving on 27th march. Two weeks left.

we had a strange dinner, it was a recipe I saw in Tesco magazine, seasoned mince smashed into one side of a wrap and fried then filled with cheese and salad like a burrito/wrap. I thought it was average, kids thought they were amazing 🤩

I usually count about 400-500 calories but I wonder if that’s too many. The chicken breast is bigger than it looks and it is deep fried so 🤷‍♀️

I like the sound of your dinner.

Just put it into nutracheck and half a large white roll, a breaded chicken breast, and salsa come to round 480 calories so while it isn’t low calorie it is certainly not going to destroy your diet if you have it once a week

Aww thank you, I was about right then and it is only once a week. It’s very filling so I eat less in the evening.

Not sure if I'm right on this because I don't really count calories but when I've looked at fried chicken (and that will be deep fried rather than baked), the calories are always pretty high. If you can, boring as it is, grilled chicken would be better or a beef burger which won't then be deep fried (with some of the bread taken off).

But also there's the element of you do need some joy in your life.

It really does depend for me. Before perimenopause I could have eaten that as you have and lost weight. Now I just look at it and there's no way I'm getting through anything deep fried and bread and it not jumping like a magnet to my fat cells. It's a bit depressing. My idea of a treat nowadays is fresh or dried fruit (sugar, yes I know but this is my limited joy!)

@Lemonthyme I totally agree with you and at home I always cook chicken in the oven or air fryer, I don’t deep fry anything. But this is a very small cafe run by one lady and no other staff so the menu is very limited and deep fried is the only chicken option. Sadly she doesn’t even do salad apart from Caesar which I’m not a fan of, although I have thought of asking for it with no dressing or croutons, but I’d probably end up with just lettuce, tomato, cucumber and pepper which wouldn’t seem like a treat or any difference from what I eat at home. There is a beef burger on the menu but I eat a lot of burgers at home which I cook in the air fryer. My best option from the menu is omelette but although I enjoy eggs it doesn’t seem much of a treat. This meal is once a week but we found out yesterday she’s on holiday for two weeks so it will be closed. Thank you for taking the time to try and help.

a sneaky look on the scales this morning and I’ve sts. I suppose there is time left for a small loss by Sundays weigh-in but it’s not looking good. I think I am at the time into the diet that I’m due for a no loss week but it’s still depressing.

after a busy week so far, I’m home alone today. The weather is going to be foul again, strong winds and heavy rain so I doubt we’ll venture out. I really should starting sorting out my kitchen cupboards but I’ll most probably do a quick vacuum and call it a day. I’m still not sleeping well which doesn’t help my energy levels.