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Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

Just checking in. Things went sideways this weekend a long weekend of dining out and big family meals plus snapping off of Easter egg shells when available.
EvangelineFox, I know what you mean about your SIL. At a big family lunch, with lots of desserts a family member who has lost a considerable amount of weight just didn't have any! I thought they might, because it was Easter but I noticed they just didn't indulge after dinner.
I did get back to the gym last night and plan to go today and tomorrow to try and reverse things a bit.

Hope everyone okay.

Hi @EvangelineFox it's interesting how different people react to a fatty / sugary food environment. I'm not great faced with those kinds of items unless I'm not hungry and feel 'up'. If I eat food like that once, I'll soon do it again.

it's hard having a life and being social but also dieting @CakeFace1234 . I'd say my biggest stumbles occur when I'm socialising and not in control of my food. Someone I know who used to have a drink problem got up and walked out of a fancy restaurant mid-meal when alcohol was served. She put cash on the table and went home on the train. Sometimes I think this is the level of commitment needed!

Did aquafit today and happily report the Yours shorts and Calypsa tunic worked really well. Waiting for the Bon Marche swimsuit. Waiting to see whether I've pulled back on track with weight - managed to turn the tanker round at the weekend but will have to lose what I gained on holiday and after.

Hey all, been reading all through the thread! Hope it’s ok to join? I have been calorie counting and mainly walking. Started 10/2 at 17st 12 (I’m 5ft 4) so not a good look on me! Over the last 10 weeks I’ve lost 2 stone. So heading in the right direction. Now I’ve lost a bit I have been brave and started yoga (which I love) and Pilates (which feels like torture)! Still a huge mountain to climb but I feel like it’s possible! Ultimately id love to get down to 12 stone and then see how I feel! Onwards and upwards!

Welcome @Powerupsglad to have you on board.

been couple weeks here of relaxing the rules after a holiday and then Easter but in between treats have been pretty good with choices. Not lost or gained properly back on it after this weekend. This is life after all, can’t be strict all the time or it’s impossible to maintain so I’m ok with that. Lost 3 stone now 1 more to go to goal. It won’t be quick with it being the last one, a good few months I think.

Welcome @Powerups can I ask if you're doing yoga at a class or online? I'd love to start to try to sort out my creaky bones but have no idea how - and I can't afford to join a gym just at the moment!

@CakeFace1234 and @Fattitude yes, it was really interesting for me to observe naturally slim SIL, did make me wonder if I'm genetically predisposed to loving sweet carbs (DM no sooner arrives at a venue than she's sniffing out any cake on offer!) or if it's just force of habit. I had to take the DC to a sports tournament today but took loads of snacks for them and more or less forced myself to stay away from the cake stall no idea if that will ever get easier...!

@Powerups wow! You've made a fantastic start! Well done!

I'm wide awake - my head is just very busy tonight so I've given up on sleep for a while and have come downstairs for a cup of tea and a quick google of dresses I may be able to wear for ds's wedding - just over 2 months now..

Since I've done a bit more (well, some) exercise I've been sleeping better but have done very little today. Zumba Aqua tomorrow - definitely my favourite exercise class.

I'd love to have online yoga recommendations too - have followed some Yoga with Adrienne before way back in lockdown. I want to be better at getting up off the floor elegantly before I join a class!!

Good morning everyone. I started Saturday off well with gym but went to a bakery for someone's birthday brunch and the French toast felt soaked in honey, delicious but I was mindful of it being laden with calories. Definitely will be at the gym later. I haven't seen much change in my body but my exercise tolerance has increased. Climbing stairs at work is so much easier.

Fattitude, well done on the aquafit - hope the cossie fits - I know what you mean though, often, socialising is centred around food and drink. Alcohol can be an addiction for some and the advice is to give up completely and be tee-total for fear of relapse. With food, however, you have to eat to live, so continue with your addiction but then limit it, which is hard. Other addictions can be hidden but if food becomes an addiction, it is on display for others to judge.

Powerups hi, welcome, what a huge achievement and motivation!

EvangelineFox, I definitely have a sweet tooth. I was watching Kingsmen last night and there was a scene where a character asks for sugar and is told sugar is 5 times more addictive than cocaine and 8 times more likely to cause death-related diseases. Unsure if this is true but it has re-framed it a bit for me now.

Thanks for all the love guys!
@EvangelineFox i go to a local yoga and Pilates studio, I’ve not tried online. The classes are really friendly and all shapes and sizes!
Been a bit of a busy weekend with friends over for dinner and far too many glasses of wine consumed but I’m hoping that it won’t have derailed my weight loss too much! I did ensure all the food I cooked was healthy to try and counteract the wine! I have not been drinking at all since I started in Feb so it was nice to let my hair down and enjoy myself but straight back to healthy eating and exercising now!

Hi all,
Glad to hear you are all doing so well. And keeping up the exercise routines!

I'm back from a 14-day cruise and I daren't get on the scales.
I tried to ring fence my weight loss but it was very difficult. There were 3-course breakfasts, lunches, room service, 5-course dinners ... not to mention all the cocktails and wine.
But I enjoyed it.
On the upside I was walking loads (4-5 miles a day) because of on-shore trips and also walking circuits around all the decks as I loved the classic ocean liner (Queen Mary 2).

I hope it's possible to get back on track and lose what I've gained in the same amount of time -- 14 days!
Will bite the bullet and weigh myself on Friday to survey the damage ...

Have a good week all x

Lost 2 lb. So am back where I'd have been without the holiday. A bit of a long way round. I'm just adding exercise as I go along and staying with my eating routine but the hardest bit is having life (and lunch out!) as well.

I went to Mancheter for a long weekend for a wedding and ate and drank loads and put on 6lbs!

I suspect a lot of it is fluid from more salt than I am used to because I am down 2lbs already since yesterday morning.

Hi @FriendofDorothy - I can totally relate!
I stupidly weighed myself this morning (after 2 week binge on a cruise) and I've put on 4.5 lbs!!
😢😩
All my dedication and denial since Christmas has been for nothing. All the weight I'd lost has gone back on ...
I wish I'd used more self-restraint.
Still. Am trying to move on from being disgusted by myself. I have to remember it was a 'once in a lifetime' holiday and I relaxed and enjoyed myself.
Just want to lose that 4lbs in 2 weeks if possible (!) so I can be back on track for my next BP/GP check up in June.
GAAAAAAH.
I was so close to being 11 stone something rather than 12 stone-plus.
Feeling low.

@Jaq27 it's a long term thing - please don't be down on yourself. You had a fantastic holiday and enjoyed yourself. Now's a time to re-start with renewed energy. You can't do anything about the fact you put some weight back on - just think that next week you'll be lighter than you are today.

We're very good at beating ourselves up and we should celebrate the fun stuff instead.

Thanks @Mumwithbaggage x

Jaq27, so glad you enjoyed your holiday. I think 4.5 lbs after the trip of a lifetime is not too bad!! - I can put that on over a weekend without half of the excitement of a cruise! Your walking probably offset a lot of calories - walking around the decks in the fresh air sounds exhilarating, so pat yourself on the back for the exercise.

Well done Fattitude 2 off sounds good.

FriendofDorothy, I can put on weight like those numbers. I used to be able to lose it quickly too but the menopause has really changed things.

I am off to the gym tonight. At the pre-diabetic club, we have to give our weight and waist measurement. Determined to see it go down each time.

Morning all, it was as I feared…didn’t lose any weight last week however on the upside I also didn’t put any on, so I’m taking that as a win! I’ve lost 3 pounds this week so feel like it’s coming off slowly but surely. Hope everyone has been enjoying the bank holiday, been spending time with family and lots of lovely dog walks.

Thanks @CakeFace1234 . I used to be able to drop weight quickly but now I'm in my late 50s it stays stuck to me like glue.

Great news @Powerups ! And glad you had a lovely bank holiday.

I weighed myself again on Friday and have managed to put on half a pound (LOL) even though I was back into my regime.
I'm now wondering if it's cruise food back-up (sorry if TMI) and I need a couple of weeks of clean eating, lots of water and less alcohol before I see some weight come off again.
I did some walking and cooking over the Bank Holiday. Had a fire pit for May Day.
Looking forward to a week of clean living and hope to drop at least a 1 lb.

Hi all. Hope you had a good week.
Weighed myself ... I've not shifted a pound.

I guess I'll have to starve myself and go on 10 mile route marches to start losing the 5lbs cruise weight I put on.

It all seems so pointless some weeks.
Watching my DH and DS eat burgers and chips and pizzas, biscuits etc while I eat a vegetable stir fry and maintain the same weight.

They don't even go out for an hour's walk every day like me.

Fed up with it.

Hi everyone, I haven't posted in ages as was going through a sad breakup. As a result, I've just been eating bread in the morning as a comfort food. My weight is the same as its always been, so 97kg so i must be on maintenance levels somehow. I walk 15k steps a day. I have a friend slightly shorter who is around 77kg and I just cant believe there is a 20kg difference in us (shes always been amazing at losing weight plus now doing injections). Just feeling despondent again in all aspects of my life but a decent weight loss would certainly make me feel happier.

@Petra42 im so sorry to hear about your break up, so hard to deal with but amazing you have maintained even when things are rough, keep going you got this!

@Jaq27 totally get feeling you’re the one putting in the effort whilst those around you eat what they like, so difficult! I read somewhere it’s about reframing your mindset, think about it that you’re the one looking after you, and consistency is the key, it will come off!

I’ve had a good week this week, lots of yoga, lots of dog walking and even though I had a couple of glasses of wine at the weekend still managed to loose 4lbs, which I’m so pleased with. Onwards and upwards

Thanks @Powerups
I am feeling sorry for myself this week as I have a sinus infection and don’t feel great.

Like you say - onwards (slowly) and upwards.

Well done for your loss! Fantastic Xx

@Petra42 sounds like you're doing a great job keeping those steps going. If I could ban one thing it would be bread! Just had a crust with butter because... well, for no real reason.

Keeping the steps going and if I can hit 3 classes a week at the gym that's good for now.

This is a long term lifestyle change for fitness and strength. Yes I'd love to look better in clothes but it's all good, yes??

@Mumwithbaggage thank you, i just pass the supermarket and get a fresh roll at times so will stop all that!

I feel really despondent because my ex used to always think i looked fantastic at this weight and now im looking at the scales and seeing this and thinking how can I look great at 97kg (strange i know but ive lost confidence after our split). I am scared thinking WLI are the only way to go. If it moved even 1kg, id think great but the scales never move.

@Petra42 I'm not weighing myself at the moment. If I'm fitting into clothes better etc and feeling better that's good. I'm using my inhaler less. Weight fluctuates so much and I know I'd start to get obsessed with weighing myself and get quite despondent quickly. No-one else knows that number on the scales.

Hi all

It's good to read everyone's stories, thank you, it's a difficult journey.

I think you did well to only put on 4.5lb @Jaq27 on the cruise of a lifetime!

This is the hardest thing for me: I need to live a normal life, otherwise I'll end up not conforming with any diet. I last lost substantial weight in lockdown 1: it was an utterly controlled environment, but now is different.

I'm finding that calorie-counting is not the useful tool it was last time, it feels controlling. On the plus side, I'm really enjoying the council sports centre I joined. I got the full membership so it incentivises me to do as many things as I like: so far aquafit, lengths swimming, a gym class and someone's going to do me a personal gym programme after I check with a physio.

My weight is currently static and my BMI is 39 but I'll be exploring all pathways to weight loss before I contemplate WLI.

I hope everyone has some positive experiences, whatever your weight loss.