30kg to lose. Who else is in this ballpark?

[trytopullyoursocksup]

That's ambitions - I am 51 and it's taking me to my 21 year old weight. (On the other hand, when I weighed that - or anything lower - I was never ever satisfied)

Is there anyone else in that kind of region? I am seeing a lot of threads from the people with around a stone, or a stone and a half to lose

Morning!

Well done to everyone who’s down a bit on the scales (and a big FUCK OFF to the water weight miseries, if we’re not carrying it about any more, that’s fine by me!).

Lego I’ll watch out for what I’m feeling when I get the urge to snack, maybe there’s a pattern, it definitely is afternoon time too I think and when I’m worried about something. Thanks for the tip.

Yes to breaking it down into goals, we’ve booked a holiday in the summer and I’d love not to be hot and sweaty on the beach because I’m dragging around a third more of a person than I need to be.

I probably had a bit too much of the family dinner last night (pasta) - how are you all managing balancing eating with family? I can’t be doing with cooking two meals or eating salad all the time and I have ravenous thin teens and husband who are super active

Whats Saxenda like? Do you feel sick all the time??

Just coffee so far this morning, better get back to work!

Roughly this but set a goal of 20kg and then will go more to break it up a little! Good luck!

I’m using saxenda in conjunction with low-carb @MrsDMrsI - when you go up a dose it can make you feel nauseous. I just want to use it to get through the first couple of months of humps, until those lower numbers spur me on and I stop gannetting (it’s a word!).

Ive written monthly goals in my kitchen calendar and I’ve got a summer holiday coming up. Do not want to be a red, sweaty mess and/or be on the receiving end of snide comments!

Well I'm still fighting the fight.
Heaviest weight was 15st in 2017.
Currently at 12st 4
I try not to think about losing more than a stone at a time. And that takes as long as it takes. I don't mind plateaus, so long as it doesn't creep back up.
When I get to 12 2 that's the milestone of what I weighed after DD2 was born.

10st would be amazing - I'd be so slim, but at currently 58 years old, I wonder if it's even achievable without looking a really odd shape. I will have to wait and see.

That gives me hope that it's possible, Crotchetyquaver so thank you!

Good morning. After the afternoon walk I decided I was a bit peckish but not starving. I was on an 800cal day yesterday (5:2) and had had breakfast at about 10.45 (also doing 14:10!). Realised I wasn't in need of a full meal so just had miso soup and a mandarin. Then used the calories i'd "saved"
for a bit of pudding with my dinner (greek yog and raspberries).

I need to start doing that more. Acknowledging the hunger, sitting with it, seeing if I'm still hungry after a while and eat then not as soon as the first thought of hunger crosses my mind.

I'm down 0.7kg since Monday but have done the two fast days. I am aiming for 1-2lbs per week, slow steady rewiring of my diet and attitude is needed now, not fast results without forming lifelong habits.

Hi everyone. Hope things are going well.
Well I'm on the third day of intermittent fasting. While it's obviously too early for any physical changes, I'm finding it much easier not to overeat and to tolerate hunger. I'm feeling quite hopeful today.
I've also started carrying a 5kg weight round in my rucksack! An easy way of doing weight bearing exercise plus I find it calming/grounding.
My greatest achievement thus far is I went in M and S changing rooms to try on bras, and managed not to die when faced with the 360° mirrors!

Hi everyone. Interesting that so many struggle with afternoon snacking - I have often done so too - thought it was boredom or unhappiness at work or tiredness as much as hunger, but I think it is actually blood sugar related physical "hunger" related to too carby a lunch.

I also read this thing about emotional eating which said: emotional eating is not always emotional eating. Sometimes you feel sad or lonely or anxious, and notice yourself craving chocolate or bread or something, or eating bread or chocolate or biscuits. So you think: I am trying to solve my negative emotions with eating. BUT some people say that the blood sugar crash causes both the negative feelings and the food cravings. so if you sort your blood sugar out, you can solve both.

It can't be as simple as all that - but I do find myself driven to food when trying to solve all manner of low energy problems, including lack of sleep, including the low energy that is actually caused by having eaten too much unhealthy food. No excuses now: no small children, enough work from home days to meal plan healthily, and to exercise.

Right. Office day today so: 2 boiled eggs, salad with cold roast beef, some almonds to get me through a school meeting, and then grilled fish and peppers for dinner. I am ok with that. I have homemade cake in the house, loads of crisps, cold beers, some rather exquisite French chocolate, and somehow my brain has just switched into "not relevant to me". how does that happen? And why can't I do that all the time?

WFH tomorrow so I want to try to do a run first. It will be C25K W4 D2

Good luck everyone!

@trytopullyoursocksup I think you're right about the eating being an attempt to control low energy.
Enjoy the C25K, I used to do it and loved it!

I lost 30kg in 30 weeks with Weightwatchers when I was 50. I was so strict though, pretty much cut out bread/pasta/rice although my one small glass of wine nightly was my treat. Four years later I had put 10kg back on but that was still not bad. Unfortunately after a year of aggressive cancer treatment, ongoing medication that makes it practically impossible to lose any weight you put on and a “life is too short not to eat the pasta” I am back where I started aged 60. I just can’t get into the mindset to do it again which is really depressing. I know I need to lose some but just can’t get started.

Good morning, how is everyone today?
I am tearfully anxious this morning (about something specific) and I couldn't face the run. I swapped it for a yoga with adriene video (for mornings) which turned out to include lots of setting intentions. So I was able to pep talk myself as well as do something very calming. C25k tomorrow instead. don't let me sack that off. Hold me to account!

Today is going to be a tough day but I am not going to make it worse by eating crap.

@Flatandhappy - why is the mind set so necessary and yet it can be so elusive? Do you want to make changes now, or are you ok with how things are? People who don't struggle with this - the mind set bit is the bit they just don't understand. I wish I could control what puts me in the positive space to do this and what sends me into "fuck it". Some of it I do think is related to blood sugar / easily accessible "normal" foods having negative effects.

@Strongboat are you thinking of getting back into c25k? Or are you still running but "graduated"?

@DressingForRevenge what do you think of saxenda? how does it make you feel and would you recommend?

So many people seem to be doing so well - have a good day everyone

Morning 👋.

Today will be a toughie battling the energy demons as I had an ill child in the night so have been up since 4 and have a long drive tonight.

The Saxenda is weird. It takes a few days to kick in… and then you literally just stop thinking about food all fucking day long.

@Flatandhappy 30kg in a short space is excellent. You’ve proved you can do it once. Welcome aboard.

I think of us struggle with “intentions” and/or self-sabotage. Were we not, then we wouldn’t be 50+ and 30kg overweight!

@DressingForRevenge hope your child is on the mend and today goes well. I know how low energy can make eating and exercising harder. Stick with your plan as much as you can today

@trytopullyoursocksup hope your stressful day is progressing ok. I am happy to be your accountability partner on running tomorrow if you would like. I usually run with a friend on Saturday mornings so will be out early (7.30-8ish). We have been doing this for a couple of years, to keep us both honest, got up to about 6k non stop, but have had a tough few months between us so currently do 30 mins, 5 min run, 1 min walk. We are not fast - this probably gets us to 4km if we are lucky! Do you want me to check in with you after my run tomorrow morning to give you a little push?

Mindset is the hardest thing for me. My husband has zero problems sticking to his goals, is slim, fit, healthy, eats what he wants but knows when he isn't hungry so doesn't eat mindlessly like me, and I have always felt inferior to him: "it's clearly easy, why isn't it for me?". A couple of summers ago we both read The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin and suddenly it all makes more sense. He is an Upholder (the rarest one of the 4 types she describes) who has no problem keeping commitments to himself and to others. I am an Obliger - able to commit to others but not to myself. It was a bit of a light bulb moment - he understands that he is a bit unusual and why I can't stick to my goals easily like him so is much more understanding of me. I now understand that I need a LOT of external accountability if there is any hope of sticking with something.

Anyway I have very recently realised that I need to be hyper-accountable. So looking back over previous attempts to lose weight, when I track my weight every day I do better at sticking to healthy eating and exercise because I can't ignore it or trick myself or gloss over a bad day. The minute I stop recording my weight, I lose focus. And I am finding that if I write my food plan into My Fitness Pal each day, then I stick to that rather than go off piste. So I need all these little external accountabilities to keep on the straight and narrow. This feels like a bit of a breakthrough for me in understanding what I need. I hope it sticks. My hardest thing will be keeping this tracking going when I have a bad day I think, not hiding from it or trying to gloss over it, and making the time to plan my week and then my days beforehand.

I worked late last night so having a slower start to the day workwise (work for myself so can be flexible). So this morning I did a 30 min kettlebell workout, a bit of admin - laundry, boring paperwork etc - and am now going to have breakfast. Then work after that.

Just a quickie - @Blacktreacle ’s book she mentions is only 99p on kindle. I’m hoping the book reveals me to be just one small fix away from achieving everything. 😉

Oh god I don't think it will do that! 😂Both DH and I found it really interesting though, and it's an easy read.

Thinking about going swimming tomorrow.
Haven't been since I was 3 stone lighter but if I can find and fit into my costume then I think it will do me a bit of good.

Oooh you just reminded me that I need a new swimsuit, mine is really tatty now - a swim sounds like a brilliant idea.

99p! I will have a look at that book!

@Blacktreacle I didn't see any messages yesterday - part of my general trying to buck up is that I've set a timer on recreational web browsing so I was thrown out before I could get here. thanks for the offer to be my virtual running buddy - I did go! and I bet you did too. It was so pretty and frosty when I went out, my kids and apparently everyone still asleep - a lovely feeling. That was Week 4 day 2.

I had an absolute pants of a day yesterday with some bad news I was dreading but hoping might not happen. anyway it did, so here we are. I treated myself to a glass of red wine, and some raspberries and cream. And an early night. that's ok. I refuse to throw everything away just because some things insist on going wrong. I am backing myself.

I really think that when you get to this age (assuming that many of you are around the same age as me) you do need to get a bit strategic about what works for you and what doesn't. Just "I will work harder" isn't it. It's about how to push the levers that get you in the place that you need to be. I feel like lots of us on here are thinking very clearly in those terms and it's really inspiring.

@RedDoughnut - have a lovely swim! I love a swim, might see if my kids fancy it today.

How is everyone else?

@trytopullyoursocksup I hope you’re ok. 💐 Life is a bit of a twat really - and then we die. But with any luck and if we support each other, we won’t need to indignity of the paramedics phoning for a glazier to help remove the body. 😉

Im impressed with all the swimmers. I would require some serious deforestation were I to attend the pool. I do swim in the sea (with knee length shorts) but I don’t like doing it alone - you want someone to be able to tell the coastguard which way the tide took you.

I’m still eating “to plan” and seem to be passing the “hump” of cutting out sweet stuff without too much drama. I’m already noticing a difference in the way my clothes fit which is very encouraging.

I boiled eggs yesterday for snacks. Not very exciting, but nobody’s ever binged on boiled eggs! 💨

@trytopullyoursocksup well done on your run, particularly after your day yesterday! Raspberries and cream sounds like a very sensible treat actually - unprocessed food, that also tastes more delicious and indulgent than any chocolate bar.

And yes I did go for my run with my friend and I feel really good for it. It was cold - my hair froze! - but beautiful. I used to run a lot, always always slow never really got beyond 5-10k. I would like to get back to that distance a couple of times a week. Once you get over getting your trainers on and opening the door (and this is hard, often really really hard, the hardest bit apart from maybe the first 5 minutes) I don't think you ever regret it. Doing it with a friend - similar age, weight and story - means I also get a good natter and moan and we let the working week go. It's medicine in many ways!

Having a bit of bacon with my egg this morning, but having mushrooms instead of loads of bread.

Off to a friends for drinks and dinner tonight. Have already factored into my MFP plan for the day how much I think I will drink so I have something I have to stick to. Not sure what there is for dinner but think it will be reasonably healthy knowing friend. So got to try and navigate all of that mindfully.

Hope everybody's Saturdays go well.

you must be fit if you can run and natter! I can't

(not that I am any standard)

We aren't fit, we just go very slow (8-9 min per km)!

@trytopullyoursocksup

@DressingForRevenge I wear a boy-short swimsuit to avoid that exact issue

I swam a bit.
I'm so very, very, very unfit.
I did like the jacuzzi afterwards.

I need a plan to get fitter quickly. I have been doing a few stretches in the kitchen this week. So I'm further ahead than I was a week ago.

Anyone with any vegetarian high fibre , low carb meal ideas please?

High fibre low carb is a bit of a puzzler for me (not a nutritional expert) as most of the foods we are told are high fibre contain starch, like whole grains. I suppose all vegetables and leaves must contain fibre? when I googled it, this came up - I think Rose Elliot is very good so this may be your answer?

www.wob.com/en-gb/books/rose-elliot/vegetarian-low-carb-diet/9780749926496?gclid=Cj0KCQiAt66eBhCnARIsAKf3ZNGv0NgEz0qgamxH_LcgCpMal5JeC2Up3IizCtlpW1QBETdBLbR_9yEaAtJ1EALw_wcB#GOR001256301

@DressingForRevenge thanks for checking if I am ok. My bad news yesterday wasn't like an awful diagnosis or something, it's work / career related and has thrown me into a sticky position but you know what, I feel a lot better about it having started trying to do something for my health than I would have done a month ago. People have money troubles, people have difficulties at work, it's the human condition, one way or another we will muddle through. There is only one irreplaceable machine in my life and I am living in it. yes life is a bit of a twat. Why not have a good time while we're here?