30kg to lose. Who else is in this ballpark?

[trytopullyoursocksup]

That's ambitions - I am 51 and it's taking me to my 21 year old weight. (On the other hand, when I weighed that - or anything lower - I was never ever satisfied)

Is there anyone else in that kind of region? I am seeing a lot of threads from the people with around a stone, or a stone and a half to lose

I just wanted to wish you guys well. I’ve lost 4 stone over the last couple of years. Diet and willpower is massively important but it was when I introduced lane swimming the weight finally started shifting. The exercise was also amazing for my mental health and it’s lovely meeting other people with the same goal in real life. Also if you exercise you can have the odd cheat moment which keeps you going long term. Good luck all ♥️

I’m keen to find a small group in a similar situation so happy to stay here and keep you company @trytopullyoursocksup I can’t relate to people who have out a few pounds on and want to lose it, or want to go from a 12 to an 8. I used to be able to say “I’ve put a few pounds on, need to rein it in”
but I have so much more of a problem
now.

I weigh 16st1 (102kg). About 10 years ago I was 12st7 (80kg) and was happy then, a size 12-14, a runner and lifting heavy weights. I kept most of this off until I had my 3rd child in 2014. I had a lot of damage from tha bjrgh and I didn’t manage to lose the weight so was 13 1/2 to 14st and then had to have a pelvic floor repair, had to stop the weights and the long runs and TBH have never managed to find a way of getting back. I hit 16st just before the first covid lockdown. A combo of not finding the right exercise, eating too much, lack of control around chocolate, and a stressful job with significant anxiety as a result.

The good news is, I’ve never gone above 16st3 and have managed to hold my weight between 15 1/2 and 16ish since then. Lockdown was good for me, focused on sleep, and getting more exercise in. Things got a bit rubbish again late 2021 and hit rock bottom this time last year (though held my weight) I then finally persuaded the GP that my anxiety etc were a symptom of perimenopause rather than just anxiety and I started HRT last spring and the difference has been unbelievable.

I now average 10k steps a day, was exercising well last year but then sort of lost it after the summer holidays, so I can maintain an exercise regime but also know that I can easily lose track. I have made big strides on my sleep, and on my boundaries around many things, and am now in a place where I can contemplate the big shift I need.

It’s not going to be easy, I need to watch for the signs of giving up (eg holidays make me stop eating well and exercising, need to acknowledge this and work out how I get straight back onto it after, need to cope with work stress) but I feel in best frame of mind I have for several years now. So here goes!

In terms of today, walked my littlest to school and then to my Pilates class.

Havent eaten since 7.30 last night. About to make scrambled egg and smoked salmon then got work to do.

Going to try Fast 800 5:2 approach so today is an 800 calorie day. Have my food ready for today so going to try not to think much and just follow the plan I’ve written up for today.

One of my big downfalls is my enormous morning appetite. So instead of eating the previous night's leftovers (which I now freeze straightaway) and also snacks, bread and even chocolate, I'm now alternating between porridge with berries, kefir with berries or eggs with smoked salmon. I've stopped buying as much bread and snacks but buying a lot more salad veg and a wider range of veg instead.

Making better use of the freezer is helping me too especially in order to cut out refined carbs. Always found brown rice a faff because it takes ages to cook but recently found out that it freezes really, really well! So I make a big batch and freeze into portions so when I get in from work I can just microwave it with some kind of protein like salmon or poultry (I love turkey meatballs and been keeping batches of frozen ratatouille on hand). I work long hours so don't have much time for cooking mid-week. So having a lot of cooked-from-scratch portions in the freezer that are all good to go seems to prevent me stuffing my face with crap after work.

Snacking in the evening - trying to just have a small bowl of muesli or cup a soup instead of biscuits, crisps and chocolate!

Another issue I've had is that I do hybrid working. So my days in the workplace I easily get 10,000 steps in, but when I'm WFH I can go days without leaving the house! The bad weather isn't helping either. I need to get a grip of this because whenever I've lost weight in the past (like considerable amounts) it's when I've been doing loads of walking.

I tend not to feel hungry until after lunch - at which point the floodgates open. So although I’m already doing 18:6 by lifestyle rather than design - what I’m shoving in my gob isn’t working. So I’m going to have to make an effort to eat BEFORE I hit that point of must. Eat. Now.

I’ve had lunch and have a portion for tomorrow (batch cooking stops me hoovering).

Exercise is tricky right now as I’m walking with a stick so it may mean that I need to go to the gym and swim or use the stationary bike.

Hi everyone. I think many of us have similar downfalls:

• working from home cuts out active transport opportunities;
• a genuine lack of time means using that time for something else that "has" to be done that is not exercise (not making excuses, just worth pointing out that we're not all lazy slobs but people under pressure);
• I may be projecting here so tell me if this is just me, but failure to make my concerns a priority in the kitchen / dining room - so fitting in with family life and doing stuff for everyone else's convenience can mean I am eating too much of the wrong things at the wrong times;
• Health and wellness issues impeding exercise (like I said, we're not in the business of making excuses but identifying obstacles honestly and then deciding what to do about them)

I may be projecting here so tell me if this is just me, but failure to make my concerns a priority in the kitchen / dining room - so fitting in with family life and doing stuff for everyone else's convenience can mean I am eating too much of the wrong things at the wrong times

Yes to this, I have a very skinny family so they can, and do, eat anything and don't like too much "rabbit food" (their words). I pick at other people's leftovers because I hate food waste but there's a downside..

I'm the family chef and I have young adult children who are all fit and healthy and need different/ more food than me.
I also have a daughter that I'm trying not to pass my food issues on to.
I don't want her to notice I'm dieting.

I've had a good day so far. No junk at all.

I don't want her to notice I'm dieting.

This has been a real thing for me and I find it hard to know how to deal with it. I know DD16 dislikes diets and she has a friend with a significant ED so has good reason to. Both my kids tell me they don't want me to diet (eg in response to me turning down a slice of cake- I don't talk about diets). But I am 30kg overweight, which is incredibly unhealthy, and I won't lose it without taking proper steps to do so- just eating like the rest of the family will not cut it- in fact, that's what got me here in the first place.

I find myself cooking meals to fit everybody else's food needs and likes, while trying to fulfil my own needs (to eat healthily and cut calories) in secret, hoping no one will notice I've taken extra cabbage and no potatoes etc.

It isn’t what got you there. What got you there was you been in a calorie surplus while they are in calorie maintenance. You are better off being honest about your diet issues instead of hiding and pretending about not being on a diet to your kids.

You can still have cake etc. The main thing is can you stop at one or do you need to eat the whole lot. Also little bubbles and left overs all add up if you are eating them. You coffee at Starbucks adds up. Everything does. Also if you have one “bad” day. Get back on the saddle / horse next day. Don’t let one bad day put you off everyone has them.

Me! Mind if I join you all? Probably need to lose more like 40 but I’d be happy with 30… started 2 weeks ago, doing 16:8 and calorie counting, using my fitness pal - I’m currently using their free month of premium to see if it’s worth it, I haven’t decided yet if I’m keeping it. I know I should exercise too but haven’t been to the gym yet 🫣 maybe this thread will give me the kick up the arse that I need

Are people doing weekly weigh-in type of posts? My weigh in day is tomorrow, I’m a bit worried as had a bit of a bad week last week, with less sleep than I would have liked - back to school hit me like a ton of bricks! - and lack of sleep makes me hungry.

I’m currently using their free month of premium to see if it’s worth it

Ooh, I've been thinking about this- how do you find it?

I’m not convinced to be honest. It’s good to see the breakdowns, I like the dashboard and the intermittent fasting tracker - and no adverts! But not sure it’s worth £15 a month. There are other features I haven’t tried yet, maybe I should explore them before the trial runs out.

Thank you. The free app is so good, it must be hard for them to think of extras to get people to pay!

18 stones 9 pounds.

Unbelievable

Does the free app let you scan barcodes as well for food ? If not might only be available on premium version. I would say MFP and some food weighing scales as well as body weight scales are the 3 main tools you need. MFP was a massive help for me so I wouldn’t dismiss it. Weighing scales allow you to dial in your food portions and be more accurate with calories and macros counting. It is easy after a while.

@S70V12 Please don't come on here and start telling people what they are doing wrong, what they need to do, what they need, what they don't need, and especially "what got them here" in that judgemental way. You have no idea about anyone else's metabolism or circumstances and I for one have absolutely had it with bossy bullshit merchants like you. I specifically started this thread for a friendly positive weight loss chat which DOES NOT get prescriptive about what other people need to do; and which DOES allow us to be honest about obstacles, with a view to fixing them. Prioritising your family's food needs and desires over one's own is ABSOLUTELY what got some of us here and ties into a whole load of social and psychological stuff which you clearly do not understand. Please go away. I would like to be ruder.

do we feel like we want a weekly weigh in? I weighed myself on Sunday morning. I guess we don't all have to do the same day. justasoul, what kind of exercise do you like?

Sorry if you taken constructive advice the wrong way. You posted on a forum and wanted advice and support. If you don’t want any don’t post.

Sorry if you taken constructive advice the wrong way. You posted on a forum and wanted advice and support. If you don’t want any don’t post.

Nope sorry that wasn't constructive advice, that was crap. you're just bossing people around without knowing what you're talking about. I don't need advice, I need companionship. At no point on this thread have I said "look I just can't understand why I am overweight or what to do about it". I have so had it up to here with people like you, issuing snide orders with absolutely no right whatsoever. I would absolutely love to say this a different way, but I am going to say again: go away

May I kindly suggest that you not post, actually. why don't you try that. why don't you try a nice big MFP calorie counted big shitty diet shake of shut the fuck up.

You obviously got issues.