10st plus to lose - part 2

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A really unimaginative title but the old thread is almost full and we don't want to lose people who have joined us already.

Anyone else with a large amount to lose is more than welcome to join us, we're a friendly bunch and whatever way you're trying, that doesn't matter to us. It's about the results and more importantly the support.

Thanks @Sunshineandrainbow i will take a look at that thread. I am struggling. I am obsessed with food. The less I eat the more I want to eat. I have stuck to 1200 to 1300 calories a day but hope it becomes easier in time.
I haven’t plucked up the courage to weigh at the doctors yet. I drive past it on my way home from work but the car park is always full which equals a full waiting room. Maybe I can buy some industrial strength scales 😂

Edited to add - yes you can! They are now in my Amazon basket.

Ok - heading to my meal out and will be restrained. And then as of tomorrow I'm ON IT!

Does anyone have those fancy scales that measure other things in addition to just weight? And an app? Considering!!

@Sammysees
I too. Am obsessed with food so I feel your pain.
Have you worked out how many calories you should be eating. 1300 may be too low for your weight but it would give you a quick instant boost if you want that but you don't want it too restrictive you give up.
I put everything I eat into my app called fat secret.

Enjoy your meal @chalkyc2 and like you say back on it tomorrow!

I’ve just downloaded the Nutracheck calorie counter app. I’ve put in all my stats with an estimate of my weight (new scales arriving Saturday!) and it tells me I should be having 1800 calories a day. That seems awfully high? But it does mean I won’t beat myself up for going over my calories occasionally.
The app is great by the way. Easy to find everything I’m eating and logging it each day. It also tells you your sugar intake, salt, carbs etc so would recommend it to anyone looking to track their calories.

Haven't posted in a while. So I'm back up to 13st 4lbs over a stone over my lowest 12st 3lbs. Getting back on batch cooking and got low calorie ready meals in the freezer. Takeaways and meals our are banned for both my waist line and my bank balance 😂
So just under 3 stone to get to goal weight, I'm annoyed I let myself slip, but only way to lose weight again is not to dwell and give up

Sw- 17st 3lbs
Gw - 10st 6lbs
Cw- 13st 4lbs

A bit gutted. I received my new scales yesterday. Got on them this morning and cried. How did I get this big? Ok here goes ……
SW - 295lbs/133kgs
Wish me luck 😭

Well done @Sammysees ! It might feel like a shock now, but you were braver than I was sooner. You’ve drawn the line in the sand. Those tears are what happens when you force yourself to confront a difficult truth. It’s completely normal. You should also feel a real sense of achievement, because this is a big step towards taking control. 💪

Thank you @PreesHeath
How is everyone else getting on? Any tips on how to stay motivated long term?

Hey @Sammysees - ok so now you know what the task is. It's fine.

I started nearly a year ago on 118kg. I didn't want to ever see that number again. I'm hovering round 68-70kg just now. You need a plan and need to be super determined. I'm an all or nothing person so I looked at fast 800 and decided that could be a good start for 12 weeks. And went for it.

I'm trying to lose another 8-10kg. It's proving hard and I need to take some of my own advice!!

I’d add unpicking what’s going on mentally and physically when you overeat so you recognise the psychology and physiology of your habits, the feedback loops etc. Why does one e.g. biscuit lead to another? How does overeating make you feel while you are doing it? How do you feel when you’ve stopped? What does a good day feel like? What is the difference between good days and bad days? What needs to change to help you have more good days? (Sleep and cutting out alcohol for me!). I think you also mentioned PTSD, so how does that fit into the picture? Not in the sense of blame or causes, but what is the mechanism? Is there anything you can do to disrupt or reset these feedback loops? I’ve mentioned before that I think Andrew Jenkinson is really helpful in understanding what’s going on in your body when you overeat and are obese, and how this affects behaviour. He doesn’t really address the mental side though which sounds like an important factor for you.

I think it’s also really important to really work at visualising what being a healthy weight will be like for you. How life will be different? What will you be able to do that you can’t do now? What are you looking forward to? What good things will come your way? And then keep picturing it until you believe it. I’ve given up so many times before because I didn’t really believe in my heart of hearts that it was possible for me to lose weight, and it seemed futile. You need to push back against those voices in your head. That takes practice.

And then breaking down the task is important too. Set yourself small, achievable goals. 10 stone to lose is overwhelming for all of us, but I bet you can get below 20 stone (280lbs) sooner than you think, and seeing a 19 rather than a 21 will feel amazing.

Btw well done for getting back on it @Echoes89 I am a serial restarter. You sound really determined. We can do this!

Also I have an NSV to report. I need some new sports bras, because the ones I have no longer fit tightly enough to do the job they need to do.

Thank you for your wise words. I am having counselling (privately) to address the PTSD but unfortunately it is an ongoing situation so not an easy fix. However, on my side I have grim determination and stubborness. I am 57 years old and if I carry on I will be dead before I’m 60. I still have goals and I’m not ready to die yet!!

Too right! I’m approaching my 50th in August, and my original goal 18 months ago was to be a healthy weight by then. I’ve reconciled myself to the fact that that’s not going to happen (too much time off plan) but I can still get into the merely overweight rather than obese zone if I keep pushing on. And I reckon if I manage to keep going, I could be at the top end of the healthy weight range by Christmas.

I felt my life was over at one point, and that I was trapped in a prison of my own making. I have so many hang ups and shame about my weight that I’ve cut myself off from family and friends for years without ever intending to distance myself for so long. But there is still so much I want to do, and connections I want to attempt to rebuild. I know it will be harder the closer I get to goal, but I have the idea it will be completely liberating. I think I probably need to be more realistic about my expectations though.

You are doing amazing! It’s not an easy road to travel but you have started. So have I. Yes there will be blips along the way but we can do this 💪🏼

Well done for getting your start weight @Sammysees at least you will know how well you are doing. But remember it is just a number, don't let it define you.
I try and turn my food obsession into a calorie app obsession!

How are you feeling on the slightly higher calories count, I hope it is working for you.

I am 50 in 2026 like you want to be healthier. We will get there!

I am off work today so going to make big pot of lentil and veg soup for me to have for lunches this week.

This is a great post @PreesHeath
I have spoken before about the domestic violence I sustained when I was 21 and the life changing injuries it left me with. I defo need to address this. Each time after I was attacked food was my comfort and I am sure that's where it started. I really need to look into free counselling through work as a starting block.

I need to read the full thread but it looks very supportive.
I started a weight loss routine (refuse to say diet 🤣) in November. I started very very heavy. So far I’ve lost 2 stone 7 pounds.
i am embarrassed to say my weight but will read the thread later and see if there are others of my size

Lentil and veg soup sounds like a plan - I'm on leek and celeriac this week. Hope the counselling helps @Sunshineandrainbow .

Welcome @namechangeididtoo Sounds like you made some effective changes already. Keep on keeping on.

Monday weigh in for me. 3lbs off.

SW 20 st 2
mini GW1 16 st 10 (<BMI 40)✅
mini GW2 15 st 10 (<100kgs)✅
mini GW3 14 st 8 (<BMI 35) ✅
CW 14 st 2
mini GW4 13 st 2 (7 stones off)
GW 10 st 6 BMI 25

Amazing @PreesHeath 👏
Welcome @namechangeididtoo . You don’t have to share your weight if you aren’t comfortable. As the title suggests, we all have/had a lot of weight to lose. I am a new comer to the thread and everyone has been so nice and welcoming. I am at the beginning of a very long journey. Having some support along the way will be brilliant for the off days I am bound to have.
It sounds like a lot of us are eating for comfort/mh issues. The first big hurdle I need to conquer is to only eat when I’m hungry. It’s harder than I thought!

Can I ask which calorie counting app you use? I downloaded Nutracheck but have just realised it is only free for 7 days. I’d rather not pay if there are any decent free apps out there.

My fitness pal is a popular one.

I use fat secret and it works for me.

Hi everyone! Seeing @Echoes89 here has inspired me to come back.

I've been back in track for a couple of weeks now, and I have an event next month that's inspiring me. I've gained a bit since the last time I was here, but I'm still about 6 stone down in my highest weight so I need to get things under control before I lose all my progress.

I've joined before under different user name ,so it might use my current user name or the one I joined before on.
I'm an utter failure..my weight is out of control
Currently trying to calorie count ,but I feel I should be on weight loss shakes ,and every time I eat something I feel horrendous mentally,
I'm stuck in a vicious circle,some kind of adaptation of binge starve cycle .
I'm going to read through this thread ,hope thats ok ..to try to see what is working for other people

@DuckWithOneWing welcome back, it is so frustrating to put anything back on again and you have to relose the weight again but hopefully we'll be on a downwards trajectory again soon. I guess it's just a case of clocking it before you get back to square 1. I need to stop getting annoyed with myself thinking if I'd lost another stone instead of putting it back on id be so close to my goal now,😂 but that's life