DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread two. Join us in a friendly supportive thread.

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@BeyondMyWits how did the lunch go? Dementia is so cruel, sending you support 💐my DGM is living with the early stages and she loves to play and fuss with the baby but can't remember who the baby is. So she can turn from happy to distressed quite quickly.

Thank you for the good wishes @lisalou1401. I got through the week! Couple of stressful things still to sort out but feeling more capable than I was a few months ago when I was really struggling with anxiety. NSV - I managed to head off a panic attack today by recognising the red flags and early signs.

The other usual effect of anxiety on me is eating sweet things. They say in Harry Potter that the best way to recover from being attacked by a Dementor is eat chocolate... and I agree! So I've been trying to limit the amount that I stress-eat by doing something productive... eg "I will come back to the chocolate in 10 mins after I've done the dishwasher" and then I might still eat half of it but at least the dishes are done and my hands and mind have been busy.

Pleasant surprise on weigh in today of 66.15kg so about 10st 6. Roll on August goals, everyone. Keep walking & talking...

@triplecheeese the day went fine thank you. We just ate food and watched films which was interesting as MIL falls asleep every half an hour then wakes up asking what happened. It was the Da Vinci code , so a fair bit happens... still, she seemed happy. She still knows who we are, but when my youngest is here she thinks she is her little sister (who died 20 years ago)

Hi everyone
Weighed in yesterday at 72.7
Loss of 100gms over the week but considering the dinners and alcohol it wasn't so bad.
Away again now but managed to not go out for dinner last night.
Tonight might be harder but no alcohol and the rest of the week to be good at home.
2.7 kgs to lose in 3 weeks... Mmmm
For everyone a bit up and down.. Stick at it

Hi everyone

@Theredjellybean You sound as if you are coping with being away very well (much better than I would do). As for the August target I think I will really struggle to meet my target too. I am working on getting as close to it as I can but I think it's too low a target to meet this month, perhaps in September.

In other news I went to Asda yesterday afternoon. I suddenly remembered something that wasn't on my list and walked up the aisle towards where it was. I stood there and I hadn't a clue what I had remembered earlier. It was literally two or three seconds later and I couldn't remember which is very very worrying. It's taken until this morning, so a long time later, to realise it was stain remover for the washing machine. At this rate I'm going to be fat and lose my mind.

I did better yesterday than the weekend, I always seem to do quite well on a Monday as if it's the beginning of the week and I'll make a good start but by Friday it all goes to dust. I wonder if I could kid myself that there are seven Mondays in a week 🤭

It's gorgeous here again this morning. I did a late dog walk last night and it was as hot as it was in the afternoon. I met a few people who just wanted the rain because they couldn't cope with the heat anymore. I just want it to stay like this forever.

I hope everyone is marching towards their goal this month and if not there's still enough time left to correct some damage. Stay positive everyone.

Hiya all... I am one of those who hate the heat... menopausal hot flushes and night sweats combined with this heat are really not much fun.

I need to stop snacking again... it creeps back in with the heat especially as I don't fancy a big meal, but instead of taking the weightloss from that I get hungry and fill in with crap.

Working today so I've had a decent breakfast, and should not be so hard as work is air conditioned.

@BeyondMyWits i know how you feel, I’m not menopausal but definitely prefer the cooler months. Today is a new day, hope you have a good one

weighed myself today and I have dropped 1lb taking me to 158lbs. I’m happy that I’ve dropped but definitely feel like it could have been more if I hadn’t binged on snacks. I always find it hard after finishing work as I’m always starving when I finish (after 10pm).
another late shift tonight so will go for a walk before work and have got some yummy dinner to take with me that my SO kindly made.
satay chicken and rice! Yum. Have a good day all!

Hi everyone...I'm struggling in the heat too although I know it's cooler up here in Scotland but we're still not used to it 😂😂

Trying to hold onto my 4lbs loss, I'm definitely back in the right mindset and hoping for another good loss on Friday. Getting over 10k every day cause I don't want to lose my streak now, so I think that's definitely helping.

Hope you're all ok!

Morning

How's everyone doing?

I have found the last few days challenging and the craving for crisps and chocolate have got the better of me.

Need to stay focused hoping for a good day today.

Hiya all @endlesswashing I have found it hard this week too. Dehydration from the heat doesn't help, just feel uncomfortably bloated and my body wants to eat things that are not good for it!

Still, at least we are having a summer.

Hi all.

Back on track finally touch wood. 30 mins on the pedal exerciser and an early night helping.

New colleague who has a bit of a sweet tooth, but managing to resist any offers so far.

Doing well here
72.2 today.
Stayed off alcohol while away on work.

I keep forgetting about alcohol 😳

Does anyone else find others a bit unsupportive for dieting when they learn you are on a diet? People I know don't seem to be supportive and seem to find it funny or odd or think I'm a bit boring.

I understand drinking soup over and over is a bit dull, but it's the only thing that works for me and keeping me on track touch wood. I may try some healthy recipes though when I can be bothered. 😊

I'm doing very badly. Had the family over for a cream tea; sandwiches lovely, scones overcooked (dire oven) so had to mask the taste with lots of jam and oodles of clotted cream. Helped the kids eat the popcorn and homemade ice cream was ok but nothing special (took me ages making lemon curd and lemon ice cream but the taste wasn't worth it). The whole day was fraught, the kids were loud and naughty and it was very hot and we only had one parasol for shade.

I hate it when I try so hard to make a lovely day and it's at best average. I was so frustrated in the evening I just ate the entire fridge and cupboard contents. This morning I feel shellshocked and want to spend the entire day in peace.

Diet ruined for another week and I just feel weary with it all. I could climb back into bed, put the pillow over my head and stay there all day.

@poorpaws wow that is an incredible amount of work I'm sorry that you were disappointed with some of the results. Entertaining can definitely be a strain.
Relax and enjoy the peace today. Yesterday cannot be undone but you can make good choices today. Sending Mr W Power your way and plenty of Oomph.

@TalkToTheHand123 yes I try not to mention it really as I've had colleagues trying to derail me in the past (Previous work place).

@Theredjellybean and @TalkToTheHand123 well done.

I think I'm over it now nearly and just accept people go on the way they do.

Made some brown rice and mixed with apple sauce. It won't win any recipe or taste awards but it seems to settle the tummy. Had a spicy pot thing yesterday. I only really got it for the tub to use for soup 😂.

Drank coke at the pub when popped in for a quick drink on the way home yesterday.

I seem to have got in the habit of drinking a big drink of water after I've been to the toilet, which is good as I usually forget to drink much.

Park on the agenda later for a bit of exercise and if there's any left a bit of house tidying at the hoarder's paradise.

Does anyone eat round the table anymore? I hung on at the parents as my mam makes nice dinners but they go mad at my dd6 for not staying at the table. I'd like it if she would behave and stay but I know it's a waste of time. It's a bit my fault for not being strict but it doesn't really bother me.

Nice salad though and have managed to avoid the usual pudding 😇

@TalkToTheHand123 I like us all to eat round the table but DTS1 is such an utter pain, I can understand why people don't do it! He's almost 7 now but still no fun at mealtimes; he wriggles constantly and is such a 'beige eater' that he'll look horrified if you offer him anything other than chips, chicken nuggets etc. For years DP told me that when he took the DC to PIL for a big 'family dinner' they were all eating round the table and I thought, that's nice - but no, it turns out that he parks the DC in front of the TV in a separate room and gets them to eat there, so he doesn't have the hassle of helping/ supervising them

@poorpaws we have been in Swanage for a few days, if I remember correctly that's not too far from you?

I don't know about everyone else but this heat has utterly wiped me out I have no energy for anything apart from scraping through the day (and wishing I was several stone lighter, of course). I have great plans for when this finally breaks and I can breathe again...

We have always eaten round the table. Still do when the "kids" are home from uni and for big meals just the 2 of us. Just feels easier, but we have the space for a dining table, so it is nice to be able to use it.

Weigh in this morning 15st 10... feel like I've been here before 😏

we wat at table for all meals, except maybe lunch when we drift in and out.
some of this is just a hangover from my up bringing which was pretty formal and mealtimes were very much about manners etc, then boarding school reinforced this.
My parents liked to talk to us though and would expect us to talk about our day/current affairs etc .
i followed this with my DC and then when my DP 'blended' our families i was a bit horrified at his 16 dd taking meals i had cooked and plated and disappearing to her room...er.....no
surprisingly she didn't object to at our house she sat with us and ate and chatted and put her phone away etc.
My dsd2 then developed severe anorexia and after a very long stint in a specialist hospital came home to live with us fulltime, and had to be supported for 6 meals a day, which meant everyone sitting together .
we did 3 meals and 3 snacks and everyone used to do this ....so it is habit now really...i sit and drink coffee while dsd2 ( and any other of the 4 girls who is here) eats breakfast , then at around 11 am i will drift into kitchen and sit at table for second breakfast , then lunch etc...
my dsd2 is in strong recovery now and doesn't need this but it just seems nice that we still do it.
her dad is busier at work and is half here at home and half in London so he is not always available for every meal.
If he and i are both in London then dsd2 has either had to come with us or her older sister or my older dd has come home to be with her.

weigh in today 72.1 kgs...so a bit more off.
got just under 2 weeks until holiday, and 3 big meals out ( one is an afternoon tea ..aghhhh...) but in between going to be sooooo good and no alcohol.
would love to hit 70 kgs ...but might be a stretch.
this time last yr i got to 70.9 before going on holiday, if i can get back to that i will actually be happy as it means another yr, and full menopause and i am the same weight !
after the holiday though it will all have gone to pot again :)

hope everyone else s plodding on...

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Hi everyone

I am also one that was brought up to sit at a table and still do. I have a small table in the kitchen with just two chairs which I sit at for every meal even when eating alone. I sold my big dining table and chairs when I moved to my smaller home. I had a very strict father who was very keen on table manners and I just can't eat any other way. I'm probably far too old-fashioned but I can't bear seeing children these days wandering around eating food on the go. My father would be turning in his grave.

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl No im not in Dorset (my geographical knowledge is nil so I googled it). This is very outing (don't care because I've never been mean on mumsnet) but I live near Paignton zoo (near enough to hear the lions roaring in the evening). When I moved here Paignton was quite a nice place but it's a real dump now and I've still no idea why people holiday here.

I think I'm trying to delay talking about dieting because it's going so badly. I'm trying to start again today because it's just that little bit cooler. I absolutely love the heat but it does wear me out. I think we're going to have a hosepipe ban so I've been watering plants this afternoon and now I'm shattered and too tired to do my exercises, well that's my excuse. It won't be easy for me in the next couple of weeks because I've got one or two meals out planned, the first of which is on Sunday but I'll do what I can.

I hope everyone is doing okay, well better than me but at least I haven't given up. Maybe a better result next week🤞🏻

I think the heat has just messed everybody up.
I have a meal out tonight, tgi so it's not going to be "lite", but it is one meal (and I already weighed in for the week☺️)

embarrassing really, thinking of pointless fiddles around eating... I'm a proper grown up at 58, I know how to lose weight... I do... honest...

@BeyondMyWits me too ... honest ... (no one who knows me would believe it though)

Apologies @poorpaws , I was mixing up my holiday destinations in fact I went to Paignton zoo many years ago (probably about 40 ) and remember it as being lovely!

It's just far too bloody hot for me - I can't think of anything except being slightly cooler and not a hot, sweaty blob - the heat was supposed to break here today but sadly not. We're now due for storms tomorrow evening so fingers crossed...

I think that's a lovely routine to have @Theredjellybean and very supportive of your DSD we very rarely ate at the table together as a family when I was young, which makes me quite sad to think about now. It really irritates me when DP finally makes the effort to sit with us for a meal and then clearly can't wait to whip out his phone rather than talk to us

I probably wouldn't have minded as much but my parents are very critical so I don't talk much.

I like to watch tv when I eat. I let DD6 play or watch her dvd player while she eats.😮