I have been trying to lose weight for 20 years and yet today I am the biggest I have ever been. Anyone want to join me in a last ditch attempt to make this elusive lifestyle change?

[Believeinyou]

I'm really really trying not to be self critical and get into self hatred as I do believe the latest science e.g. the obesity code etc

i also know how to do it and what works for me (in the short term). But yet i take an age to get started....false starts and then get into a flow and lose a significant amount of weight....3-5 stones usually. Then slip, slip abit more, fall entirely off the wagon. Put even more weight on and then take a year to get back into the right frame of mind to start again.

I'm approaching the right mindset again but I really think I'm going to have to consider surgery if I can't do it this time. I know it's a lifestyle choice etc etc but as of yet I haven't had the mental fortitude to do it and keep
doing it. I have some barriers (excuses) to overcome but I am so sick of this weight - more mentally to be honest than physically.

For once I am starting right now - weighed myself in prep for starting after my birthday but I'm so scared by the current number that I have started right now. Skipped dinner and having a black coffee. Normally I spend a few weeks eating like shit because so know I am starting a diet (which is soooo messed up and disordered).

so have a goal to lose 5lbs (5 stone feels too much right now) which will bring me below my highest weight ever and will take it from there.

Anyone else want to join?

I will join you. I'm on week two of my kickstarter. Fell off over the weekend but back on it today

Have you read/listened to 'Why We Eat (too much)' yet?

If not do that before starting any new diet. It will explain to why what you have just written about the last 20 years has happened to you.

Hi, I would like to join.
I had 12 kilos to lose 10 years ago. After various diets I now need to lose 20 kilos.

I too know what to do but can't stick with it. I am 50 now so it's kind of "now or never" for me.

I'll join you.
Will weigh in tomorrow 🙌

Hi @IncessantNameChanger thank you for joining me and well done for getting back on it after a weekend off. I struggle with that being all in or all out

@pastabest yes I have ordered it and arriving tomorrow. Suspect it's going to be a bit like the obesity code which struck a cord and I thought at the time - yes- this is it. And I still believe the science there but I just can't bloody stop eating sugary crap which then makes me crave other fast food type stuff and carbs and gorge myself.

I don't actually enjoy food really now - so
sick of eating grease and sugar and processed carbs - yet craving it so much - sick of needing to feel full to bursting all the time but not able to allow proper hunger to develop. Sick of thinking about food

Sounds interesting pastabest - will read it too

I know that I need to fill up and feel satisfied - so I have what I call my "frozen vegetables diet" - loading my meals with frozen vegetables. Let's see how it works.

@VegetablesAreMyFriends hi! blooming annoying isn't it ....looking at my previous unsuccessful attempts i try not to get too disheartened. But even if i had just maintained and not lost a 1lb more i'd still be 3 stone lighter than i am now

@SmiledWtherisingsun welcome and thank you for joining

Off the point about joining you but does that book explain why I eat the wrong thing, stomach lining feels like it’s on fire, promise myself that’s it and while it’s still healing I’m eating the stomach burning irritants. And no I’m not a self loather. Sigh

It really is and it's very anti diet - diets make you fatter basically.

I'm joining you.
I started fresh this morning and could have failed immediately after missing breakfast but I kept to it for the rest if the day and came to bed early to avoid eating.
Been saying I was unhappy with my weight since about 2012, seriously unhappy since 2013. 10lb under my highest ever since my last attempt to lose this time last year but I have a long way to go.
I hurt so much. I dislike myself so much.
First goal is to lose 8lb which will take me under to the next stone bracket.

Yes please. Have put on more than 2 stone since having a baby last year, and it needs to go! I've gone from a size 14 to an 18

I'm horrified by what I weigh. 10lbs is my first target to lose. Plan is to eat lunch, dinner and some fruit each day, adding up to around 1200kcals. Then move onto the 5:2, 800kcals 2 days.

I think I've realised that eating well and looking after myself has to be my number 1 priority from now on, it's something I've got to work at.

Always, always look to your childhood to why your relationship with food is problematic. Maybe it was your comfort, maybe it was a 'sin' to waste food, maybe it filled a hole that should have been filled with attention or love. We all know how to lose weight but the child doesn't see the value.

This is very interesting

OP, I started a similar thread on Saturday asking how people made their brain click into finally losing weight because I'm struggling. Those who've shared their stories have given some great tips that might help you too!

Morning all

thanks for joining me. Starting the day with a black coffee. Plan for now is to do 16:8, low carb, healthy fats, lots of vegetables, milk, no processed food, drink water, walk 10,000 steps and think about more exercise ina. week or so once i've sorted diet out

i read an absolutely horrifying statistic on here - if you are an obese woman by the time you get to that point, the chances of you reaching a healthy weight and maintaining it (without surgery) are 1:1200 - I've tried to fact check this but not got anywhere. Surely this isn't true? Funnily enough it's this statistic coupled with the horrific weigh in that have spurred me on to start immediately and not after my birthday in a few weeks.

Goal 1 - lose 5 lbs - under next highest weight and stone bracket

weigh in monday morning

I saw that statistic too and was similarly horrified! I found this news report about it.

I have just started again. I tend to do well for a while, can maintain ok for months but then I’ll slip and put it back on.

I am currently just under the obese line on BMI, like just under. It would only be a couple of lb to push me well into it.

Ive put on just shy of 2 stone since November and it’s all down to just eating way too much. Mindless snacking, mindlessly eating chocolate - the other day I ate 2 of those duo bars in the car driving home. So about 700 calories, for no reason. One regular size bar would have been enough.

Ive gained and lost this 2-2.5 stone my entire adult life (actually gained / lost 4.5 stone with each DC too). I’m not the heaviest I’ve ever been but I’m only 7lbs off.

Started yesterday, sensible food choices, low carb (not no carb because I am active), low calorie. Had planned on going for a run but weather did not permit, did some basic yoga.

I have no clothes which fit, my face is puffy, my stomach looks painfully bloated most of the time and my thighs rub and chaff when I run. I’m honestly sick of this.

That statistic is scary and I can well believe it, it is so hard to achieve and maintain significant weight loss. Getting a stone off isn’t too hard but it’s the consistency for months and months that is the challenge.
I binge eat and use food as an emotional crutch, I’m trying to challenge and work on those thought patterns.

sigh :(

Just seen this and will join you too. I need to lose a good 5 stone too, but even 3 stone would be a massive improvement. I've steadily put on weight over the past 20 years, and having now gone through menopause I think it's going to be harder than ever to lose it. A dodgy knee doesn't help either.

I'm doing this for me primarily, but also for my 22 year old daughter who has piled on a lot of weight in the past year or so. She wants to lose it, but needs a buddy to join her on her journey.

I'll join you. This will be about the 30th thread I've joined for losing weight and still haven't managed it! I need to lose 6 stone which seems like a mountain to climb. I started on Saturday and have lost 3lbs so far. My goal is to lose 7lbs a month which sounds achievable. Good luck everyone.

Can I join? I have just weighed myself for the first time in years & nearly died when it said 207lbs!

First goal is to get below 200lbs.

I used to walk 5 miles a day & have a healthy diet & lifestyle but over the past 3 years I've just got lazy so need to sort myself out.

I've joined many weight loss threads but I'll give it another bash as I'm also sick of feeling like shit. I've put on 2 stone since lockdown (can't use that as an excuse anymore).

None of my clothes fit, my stomach is permanently bloated and sore and I just look puffy all round. I love clothes and have so many that even losing a stone will see me fitting into them hopefully. I'm only 5'3.

Main things for me are - using food an emotional crutch. Using wine for same reason and boredom. I'm single and live alone and bizarre as it sounds, it's like I have no one to answer to so I can bash on as I please.

I'm going to try and not do a 'diet' as it just sets me up to fail. Just log everything on my app, cut the amount right down and less carbs as they don't suit my stomach.

Good luck everyone!

How is everyone doing today?

I have counted my cals for 3 days now, feeling good. Have been for a run and done 2 basic yoga practices - literally 15 mins beginner YouTube vids.

Ive gone lower carb, not carb free but filling up on protein and veggies first.

hello everyone - glad there's more people joining and sorry everyone is having same difficulties as me

i am on day 2 - eating is ok but snacking crept in (but on the right things not crap so am ok with that just to get through the tough first few days).

been on a walk both days too - is tough cos I have a sedentary and very busy job and tend to just sit and work so takes a concerted effort just to do the walk. Now need to work out how to do some proper exercise - where do people fit it in? i used to do it early morning but DD gets up at 5:30 so i don't have that window anymore and am too knackered to do in the evening.

salmon stir fry for dinner which I'm looking forward to

Well done on the walks OP!
I’d like to (and need to) join too. I like your idea of a mini goal to start with because I can’t see how I can get to where I need to. I think it’s probably 3.5 stone and even then I’d still be overweight. I have ‘Why we eat too much’ open next to me, but realistically I know the theory I just need to do something about it. I did read that other thread about it clicking and felt inspired but then still ate 2 Kit Kat chunkys and a twirl yesterday. Am embarrassed even writing that down, no self control at all.