DIET FAILED AGAIN? Me too. Join me in a friendly, easy going diet thread where we can take our time and see results no matter how long it takes with positive encouragement along the way.

[poorpaws]

My story so far:
I started a thread “Lockdown stones to lose” in early June last year. I had nearly 3 stones to lose and was very determined. At times I did very well and at one point had lost over 1.5 stones.

Loads of people joined and then left and I think only four of us remained at the end. I kept plodding on. Just after Christmas I became ill for seven weeks (Covid related). I couldn’t do much or go out so my weight ballooned. I still kept plodding on. Then one of my dogs suffered an horrendous attack and whilst nursing her I just about lived on chocolate.

So here I am nearly 11 months later, most likely very nearly back to square one. I keep reminding myself that last time I said I would not give up no matter what! Will you join me tomorrow morning? I would love some company.

Morning all!

I was ok yesterday I think. A couple of DP's birthday chocs, but that's ok I reckon! They are now gone, so no more temptation.

It's beautiful here today. It's DS2's sports day this afternoon. He usually does very well as he's one of those little powerhouse types who just goes for it and REALLY likes to win! DS1 is more like me. He likes to be active, but isn't keen on anything competitive.

Anyway, hope everyone is having a good day. Am off to practice my cheerleading🤣🤣

175 today, about the same as usual.

Yesterday, I was chatting with a neighbour on her porch, and caught sight of my reflection in her glass storm door. Ye gods, what a horrible sight. I look like something that lives under a bridge.

I should

1. pluck out my eyeballs by the roots
2. burn down her house
3. go on a diet

What do you think?

@Theredjellybean - thank you for your response, I absolutely agree that calorie counting/eating (a lot) less is the way to do it for people like us!
Yesterday, I started my Intermittent Fasting challenge, and whilst I managed to fast for 16 hours and do a bit of exercise, I just could not keep my calories to below 1,000, which I know is what works for me to lose a lot of weight consistently. I'll just keep trying!
I had the most horrendous experience today, went to buy a new bra and came face to breast with myself in the changing-room mirror. Not a pretty sight, I screamed and ran away! Not wanting to look at my whole body in the mirror is a bit part of how I got here in the first place, though, so in a funny way, I'm inspired to keep going. It would help if I could lose enough weight to fit into my new size 40E bra without the saleslady doing it up for me!

@Theredjellybean and @Jconnais1chansonquivavsenerver I think she sad truth is I just need to eat a lot less! There’s no secret trick. It’s just burn more than you eat! But I love eating :-(

@CanadianJohn i sometimes think the only way I’ll lose weight it to chop my leg off!

@poorpaws sorry to hear about your dog’s experience. We have a really elderly cat who always looks like he’s on his last legs but who is happy, eats and sleeps and still (mostly) goes out the cat flap. We also have two younger ones who are a total pain in the butt.

This made me chuckle!

@Bigbus that cartoon is definitely me

We've been away for half term (last week for us) so I'm catching up on everyone's posts now!

@Bigbus, I completely empathise with wanting to lose weight for your DC. I'm 46 now and think, how many years have I lost being fat and unhealthy and unhappy?! Plus DP is morbidly obese and I worry what would happen to the DC if we both had health problems.

I'm utterly exhausted from some sort of bug too @BeyondMyWits , DTS1 had a horrible cough a couple of weeks ago, I've had it for two weeks now too and am so sore and achey just cannot shake it off. Plus going on holiday with my DC is not exactly relaxing

Did you find the hypnotherapist useful (apart from the unsuitable diet!) @Jconnais1chansonquivavsenerver? I'm always tempted to pay someone a chunk of money to convince me not to eat so much because of course that will definitely work

Well done with your buggy running @NatMoz - I wanted to start it but couldn't find any affordable twin running buggies, and now of course my DC have long grown out of the buggy! Did your GP/ midwife/ health visitor give you any advice after the C section? I had a horrendous C section (and birth in general) and even the specialised exercises don't seem to have helped as much as I'd hoped - but please do them if you need to, as they're useful for helping the abdominal muscles.

@ClinkeyMonkey DTS1 is such a beige eater, I could cry at the number of times he only wants chicken nuggets I honestly thought I'd make healthy meals for the DC, we could all share meals etc... but there's just no point with him, he's borderline ASD and I don't want to force him to eat foods he's not comfortable with. Plus DP is always on some fad diet or another, although mysteriously he never stops eating the DC's leftovers

@triplecheeese your DM sounds very similar to mine with the comments! I think I mentioned before how prickly she can be - it's a shame as I know she's always struggled with her weight too and we could support each other, but she'd rather pick at me and make pointed comments. Maybe it makes her feel better? I'm not sure - we went to visit her over half term (not easy as we're a good 3 hours drive away) and took her a birthday present, it isn't her birthday till August but I don't think we can visit again before then. She was really pleased with it and said how much she likes it; there was no mention of my (three week overdue!) birthday present though and I don't dare to ask, I'll have to save up and buy my own trainers instead.

I'm so sorry to hear about your poor dog @poorpaws, what a terrible thing to happen - I do hope she recovers soon and that you're feeling ok now too. Thank you for proposing a June challenge too; I'm not sure that my head is in quite the right place yet but I'm thinking about it!

@Bigbus
You are right... I'm. Sorry there is no magic... You have to eat less.
As you age... A lot less...
I taught myself to use other things to self soothe my emotions, and distraction habits for those pinch point moments.
Even that hasn't stopped menopause changing my body shape... 😢

Well everyone, half term was hard work - are holidays ever properly relaxing with small DC?! And every time we go on holiday I'm reminded how flipping lazy DP is - I'm so jealous of people who have partners who help them out physically, I'm on my feet all day with the DC and then I have to do all the tidying/ cleaning/ sorting out in the evenings as well as DP is snoring by 9pm. Despite all the warnings from his GP he's still eating big portions of unhealthy food; he was actually quite ill towards the end of the holiday and we were very worried about him, but it turned out to be an infection causing other symptoms. I just don't know how to help though - if I suggest any exercise he'll moan because he 'can't' do it, if I don't serve enough food/ his preferred food he moans because I'm not helping him

(I did look at our local sports centre @endlesswashing, but they are quite expensive to join and there isn't much for small DC that's included in the cost, which is a shame!)

As I said before I'm just completely exhausted and feel like I have a mountain to climb to lose all the weight I need to (50lb ), I really don't see how I can do it at the moment. Maybe tomorrow I will have some inspiration...!

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl
That sounds tough... And I remember thinking the same about holidays when my girls were little... "same shit different kitchen"
Re:your weight loss... 50lbs is a large amount... But its 1lb a week for a year. Try to think how quickly a year goes by... This time next year you could be the weight you want to be, you could be buying new summer clothes to fit your new slimmer self, etc.
One single Yr is nothing in a lifetime.
But it may also be better to set mini goals.. Lots of us on here doing that.
50lbs is the mountain... To get to the summit think of it as 10x5 molehills.
Does it help to say to yourself "I'll lose 5lbs...just do 5lbs"
Cus then when you achieve that you will feel empowered to go for the next 5...
You can do this.... We believe in you

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl

Not really regarding c section after care info. They were pretty rubbish to be honest, i just got on with it and did what felt right for me.

This morning was my first weekly weigh in.

I was 12st 13 and 5/8ths (basically 13st) last wednesday and today I'm 12lb 12lb.

A loss yes but i am impatient and was hoping it would just drop off me. I must have walked/ran 40 miles in the last week 🤯.

Well on the plus side I'm in my exercise clothes ready to go out shortly so that's something.

Just feels like my goal of 11st 7lb (19lb from where i am) is a long way away.

@NatMoz
Thays great... 1.5 lbs off.
Like I said to @ClaraTheImpossibleGirl
1 lb a week and in 19 weeks (so before Christmas) you will be there.

@Theredjellybean i love the 1lb a week, 50lbs in a year thing - I feel like slow weight loss might stick more. I lost loads of weight quickly before then put half of it back in even more quickly!

@NatMoz well done!

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl When my kids were small I weighed nearly 18 stone. It was exhausting. I found that even losing a small amount made me feel better - small 5lb goals sounds like a good plan to me.

I’m back to 13st 12lbs today which is good but I seem to be stuck here.

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl If it weren't for the stupidity of the diet restrictions she imposed (which I objected to from the start but went along with out of desperation), I'd be going back to the hypnotherapist like a shot! I stopped drinking alcohol, which is obviously a good thing anyway, and also only ate the foods she deemed correct and in smaller quantities than my usual, for a long time and with no problem. It was only when I started getting fed up with the ridiculous restrictions and started having the odd bit of broccoli or some blueberries along with the massive amounts of protein that were almost the only thing allowed on the regime (along with fresh lemon juice half an hour before every meal) that the hypnosis wore off.
Good luck with finding some hypnotherapy to suit you. There's a lot on line if you look around! I would definitely recommend it, but you need to find the right approach and voice (in my case!) for your requirements.

Sorry everyone but I'm removing myself for a few days.

I've had some very sad news (not a death thank goodness) and I'm just crying and eating all day long (and not sleeping). I will be back soon but I need to get over this (it wouldn't be serious for most people). My June goal is cancelled but I will be back next week, I won't give up.

Good luck everyone, I'll see you soon.

Oh.... @poorpaws, hope you are OK xx (very unmumsnetty I know but have a hug)

We'll still be here, see you when you feel up to coming back.

Thinking of you @poorpaws ❤️

I'm still here, not weighed myself for a couple of weeks. I'm on steroids and hormones at the moment, so don't think it will be an advantage to me go do that right now. But I am walking everyday and I start the day with Greek yoghurt, fruit, buts and honey. And I'm enjoying it. It's keeping me full until lunchtime. So slowly I think I'm making some positive steps, even if I might not necessarily see them on the scales.

Hope everyone is getting on OK x

Take care of yourself @poorpaws x

Look after yourself @poorpaws x

Aw, sorry @poorpaws. Wishing you well.

Sorry to hear of your bad news @poorpaws

I’m joining this thread today. Day one for me today as I get started again after having regained all the weight I lost during lockdown. I was doing so well and then life got stressful - and a year later I’ve regained it all. I’ve got lots to lose sadly.

@poorpaws
Take the time you need and do come back, even if it's just to sit with us.
You were the inspiration to start for so many...

Hi everyone!

Welcome @LotsOfTrees. This is a lovely friendly group with plenty of support.

I'm trundling along here, trying to ignore the treats everyone else eats in our house. I would love to just clear the place of temptation, but it doesn't seem fair when they aren't the ones with a weight problem. I've been getting plenty of steps in and did a kettlebell workout on Monday. I decided to go to a local forest for my run this morning, but had a bit of a wobble about how dark and claustrophobic it was and didn't stay long. I was shocked at just how panicky I felt. Think I'll stick to wide open spaces in future!