Defeated by fatness no more

[BreathingDeep]

Happy Monday!

Following my thread last week about how I, and so many of us, are feeling like we're defeated by our weight, here's a support thread for those of us who don't want stop ourselves from living the lives we want any more.

There were some amazing stories shared and so much honesty about how this is a struggle for so many of us. Here's the thread for anyone wanting to read:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4225173-Defeated-by-my-fatness-am-I-alone

I know that I am sick of feeling ashamed of myself. Sick of hiding away. Sick of feeling that I'm judged for my weight. Sick of feeling that I'm letting myself and my family down. Sick of feeling that my inside doesn't match the outside. Sick of living in the same few outfits because everything else is too tight or looks terrible. Sick of seeking solace in food that doesn't nourish me. Sick of treating myself badly.

If you feel the same, come and join us! Everyone will have their own journey, their own approach and that's fine - please, no criticism or judgement of anyone's plan. The main aim is that we all take steps, every single day, to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.

For me, that means today will include drinking water, taking a long lunch and having a dog walk with a friend (this NEVER happens because work always comes first) and sticking with my Cambridge plan.

How about you?

Hi there

I have just over 3 stone to lose and I feel horrendous at just 5ft 2. I have some events in June and July and I can't bear my friends to see me this way

I can't help but see from your posts that the Fast800 gives fantastic results. As a complete novice can I ask whether you follow the Michael Moseley book or is there an app to follow? What would be the best way?
I'm nervous about having low carbs but nothing else seems to work. Can you exercise with it?

I've tried slimming world and gained weight and with WW nothing really happened and was disheartening.

Thanks xx

The best thing is to buy the Fast800 book and read it cover to cover (quite easy to read and interesting) and maybe get one or both of the recipe books. There is a good, supportive group on Facebook as well called Fast 800 UK Community. I'd recommend joining after reading the book.

I use the Nutracheck app for calorie counting (plus I check my protein and carbs on it. It has a very good UK food/supermarket database. It's not especially set up for Fast800 (it can be for 5:2) but it's very clear and easy to use.

Had a rather chaotic day of eating yesterday with biscuits that became lunch and way too many chocolate raisins late afternoon that I was literally shovelling in whilst thinking ' why are you doing this ? ' . Pulled it back somewhat with chicken salad for dinner.
I should just not buy anything that is going to tempt me and that is so difficult when food has been my go to reward my whole life. Losing weight is achievable, keeping it off and retraining bad habits is proving the bigger challenge by far.
I have an event in just under 7 weeks so I am aiming for a minimum of 7 lbs off before then. First target. Fingers crossed.

Morning everyone,

I had a good day yesterday - walked the dog, had some headspace (which ALWAYS helps) and made the best choices. But today, I'm wobbling - this is my classic danger zone where I tell myself 'sod it, I'll eat X or Y and start again tomorrow' but this thread is holding me accountable and so my resolve is strong even though my jeans are tight.

I don't know about you but I have a handful of clothes on rotation that fit and I can bear to leave the house in. These are making me feel decidedly meh as I look and feel dull, drab and like all my colour has faded in the sun. I've looked online to see if there's anything I can buy to give me a lift while I do the hard work, and there is NOTHING that made me click 'add to basket' as I know they won't look the way I want, and I begrudge buying anything in THAT size. But then I have nothing to wear...

So for today, I'm focussing on putting the work in to get results. I've also ordered the Fast800 book, and also the Why We Eat (Too Much) book too, so I'm arming myself with the weapons I need.

Morning Breathing

I'm struggling today a bit too.... I ran number 3 on week 1 of C5K, and I found it really hard. Harder than the first run. No idea why, I slept well, I feel fine, just struggled running.

However, I found a low calorie recipe to cook tonight and happen to have all the ingredients (30 minute chicken and cauliflower curry) so doing my best to keep on track.

Hi all,
Had a bad day yesterday but I'm back on track today. I've decided calories might best for me because with kids to look after I don't have the time to be planning the slimming world way.
No chance to go running yet but oh well.

@Roussette I often found a run would catch me out for no reason at all. It is disheartening but don't let it put you off, your next one will be better 💪 Well done you for even going!

Thanks for starting this thread @BreathingDeep. I'm in. I really relate to the the inside and outside not matching. I've got to sort my shit out ASAP and am going to use this thread as motivation. I'm going to up my water intake and get an early night in today and continue with my C25k the rest of the week.

@Cowbells

Hi *@BreathingDeep*.

Thank you for starting this. I was just smelling my DH's morning toast and thinking"Oh I might, just this once" even though I know toast makes me binge all day long. But then I saw your thread and it gave me a nudge to make a healthier choice.

Today I will:
eat 8 portions of veg and drink 2l of water/herb tea
go to bootcamp

Eight portions is amazing xx

Hello, please can I join? I put on lots of weight with agorophobia and dromophobia (fear of crossing roads after a friend was killed by a drink driver - yes I know it's illogical but it's like there is a forcefield or glass I cannot walk through.)

I'm going to go to my co-working place this afternoon though (2.5 miles) as it's mostly cycle parts and beach. If I end up hyperventilating on a curb I will ask a stranger if I can cross with them. It was this fear which led to weight gain, mixed with mental illness and bereavement and miscarriage. It's so hard as I had anorexia as a teenager and as an adult always has a no dieting rule, instead walking everywhere. Then my brain confiscated that and I was lost...I feel like it's like pilots who suddenly get too scared to fly you know? Anyway I'm going to go out and try to relearn how to walk places.

Also, I'm doing the Tim Spector thing of eating as many different foods as possible.

Good to see a lovely supportive thread.

Hello, can I join you too?

I feel really crap about myself and need to sort the whole of me out.

Morning - I have been following but not posting so far but today I am really low.

I weigh 20st, I work from home all day and can barely manage to motivate myself to exercise.

Following an issue raised during my eye test last week, I think I have established that I have sleep apnoea and I feel absolutely shit. I am exhausted and tearful today.

I am using MFP and sticking to my daily calories but feeling really defeated today by the long road ahead. It just feels impossible.

I'm on hold waiting to speak to the GP about upping my ADs and seeing if the NHS is taking sleep disorder referrals so at least being proactive.

Sorry to be so negative - I had such a good day yesterday. Went for a walk, got a lot of chores done and felt fab when I went to bed.

@HUCKMUCK, don't apologise for being negative, we're here to listen and support each other. Feeling sad about your situation isn't what you want to feel. It sounds like you have a few things already happening. I have never used ADs but could they be contributing to your weight ? Could your GP refer you for some extra help or support with your weight loss ? I know some authorities offer things like discounted/free gym passes or at the very least a weight loss programme. I was most successful when I felt accountable to a monthly weigh in at the doctors. The sleep apnoea is also probably not helping your body to get sufficient rest so you are turning to food maybe as compensation ? How old are you ? could there be a hormonal element to this ?

@Onesmallstep67 thank you. Yes, hormonal issues are definitely a factor. I recently turned 50 and am hoping I am almost through the menopause but it has really affected me for the last 2-3 years.

I've been on these ADs for about 5 years but I've always had weight issues so I don't think they're a factor but I will definitely mention it when I speak to the Doctor.

The worst thing for me is that I lost close to 2 stone last year over the spring and summer and to be right back to where I was is so demoralising. I am trying to use it as a weird positive in that I know I can do it.

Thank you for being so kind

I just wanted to check in and say that I read the original thread last week and it helped me so much.

I downloaded the spreadsheet someone posted and have started with renewed determination, breaking it all down into smaller more manageable steps.

Going to try and check in regularly to see how everyone is doing.

Thanks @Treaclepie19

I'm going to go tomorrow, even though they say every other day. It's just that I really can't go on Thursday as my energy levels mean I have to go in the morning, and I'm out.
I don't ant to let it slip so will do two days running.

theotherfossilsister that sounds so hard for you. I hope you manage that walk

HUCKMUCK I know what's like to feel demoralised. I lost 5 stone 15 years ago and here I am back again after never imagining for one minute I would put anything back on. Sleep apnoea is awful from what I've heard, I hope you can get some help with it.
I think if we get our sleep in OK, everything is much easier to tackle.
When I'm tired I just drag myself around.

Hey all, just checking in really. I've had a bit of a crappy day but I managed to do a 20 second yoga video thing this morning. Not sure it has made much difference but I do feel better doing something slow, lots of breathing and stretching etc

Aiming for W1R2 tomorrow but I've eaten crap today and not feeling very motivated :(

I feel really grateful right now that this thread / group is here and so supportive x

20 minutes!! 20 seconds definitely wouldn't have done anything

I'm also not doing so well today. Busy day at work which always makes me forget to drink water and haven't had a chance to get out for a walk. Going to try and pull it back though, aiming for a quick HIIT workout once the kids are in bed and a carb free dinner 🤞

I forgot to say- I'm following the 'Never Binge Again' ethos and also sticking to 1800 cals per day and walking 15,000 steps.

@HUCKMUCK I know how it is to feel defeated like that. I've decided to break it down into small chunks and focus on each chunk rather than look at the whole 3.5 stone I need to lose!

@AnnieJ1985

Weightloss is not linear, there will be fluctuations. I tell myself as long as there is an overall decrease over time, that's fine. It has taken me YEARS to accept this!

I can gain 3lbs on my period, it is like I swell up like a balloon. It helps that I know this, but usually on my period I am in fierce bad humour, so sometimes it is very disappointing and a trigger to jack it all in.

Because I am tracking all this on my phone/fitbit, I can see the cycles, and as long as the "gain" has disappeared a day or so after my period, I try not to get too disheartened.

Oh gosh yes. One of the best moments on my weight loss journey was that the practice nurse noticed I'd lost 5kgs from my previous weight five years previously and was absolutely full of praise, saying that in your 40s most people are very much going the other way. I'm now 45 and the lightest I've been since before I had DD2 when I was 33. With a few more pounds I'll be the same weight I was when I was 16 (I was lighter though in my 20s after that).

Hello, I’ve found the team again.

I’ve done f* all in the last few days. Busy at work, the joys of dealing with senior managers who are squabbling like toddlers, I’ve had my best Patricia Carmichael face on for that one. Plus migraine/ pre-menstrual/ peri-menopausal, sometimes there’s not enough chocolate in the world. I’ve reading the Dr Rangan Chatterjee book, which is good overall, but he reminds me a little too much of a friend’s husband with his well meaning, patronising bollocks supportive chat. (Can you tell I’ve got PMT ?)

Anyway I’m following the advice and moving the dumbbells to the desk. I’ve been doing the Conqueror Challenges, which work well for me, although I’m currently 25k behind on Hadrians Wall, so need to catch up on that.

Great thread

Well I'm sat in my bum watching tv, and am showing no signs of doing my promised HIIT workout. But I am having a peppermint tea instead of wine - small victories!!

I've come to bed to stop me eating 🙈 I'm under calories to lose (though only to lose half a pound)
Our 7 month old has been grizzly all day so she's downstairs downstairs dh for now 😴