Frugaleers- Weightloss Chat - last of 2020

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I hope everything is ok mrs, no stranger to a comfort eating. You'll find your way back to what suits. You can always change it to suit your life more if fasting all day doesn't work for now, doing something positive is better than waiting for normal service to resume. I think we can all agree that's unlikely for the foreseeable.
Down a fraction. Did 9,000 on the treadmill in just over an hour. Only 6,000 to go.
The exercise endorphins might help you life, I used to find weights lifted my spirits greatly, felt like a warrior! We all need to feel like a warrior from time to time

mrs hope you’re okay.
About to go on the bike for 30 mins of spin. Don’t want to but it’s better to get it out of the way. I have a lot of work to do to prepare online teaching, which will be sedentary.
Going to make a parsnip soup for lunch. Dinner today is satay aubergine with real rice for DH and cauliflower rice for me.

ended up on 11334 steps yesterday.

today so far am 1464 but haven't been for my run as cleaner was coming this morning so had to so a speed tidy!

10,635 steps today. Spin class this morning. Food so far:
Egg frittata with Kale and potato.
2 Giulian sea shell chocs
Parsnip soup with walnuts and watercress on top
Dinner will be a Hello Fresh aubergine thing.

I am fine now, thank you all so much
I will unburden myself to you all if you don't mind, if you do l don't mind you scrolling by honestly but it's no wonder l am comfort eating
My sister's husband has been drawing my mum's pensions and benefits out every week since my Dad couldn't do it anymore since October 2018 using my Mum's post office account card , he pays Mum's papers at the same time . Mum had a letter to say the contract between the DWP & the Post office was ending and asked me to arrange to pay the post office account payments into her bank account which l did for her of course in early December. My sister has 32k of my Mum's money in her house now . My Mum has been using her bank account and the amount has been going down naturally. My Mum won't ask my sister for any money because she is questioned by my sister about what & who she is spending it on & why she needs it . She makes my Mom feel bad for asking , my Mother doesn't like upsetting her. Prior to this in Dec , my Mum was stressing over her bank account getting low telling me she was worried and wanted me to get money out of her insurance savings account to bulk it up . So l explained l wouldn't need to do that because the pensions going in would bulk it up now. I was showering my Mum yesterday morning, as l do everyday. My Mum says ' sister phoned and said l had jumped the gun changing the account over it didn't need to be done until next Nov & could l leave Mum's bank card every Monday for them to get the money out of her bank account to pay the papers £8 and to put the rest in with the 32k . This would mean my Mum's bank account would be depleting all the time therefore stopping Mum from having herown money yet again. I went absolutely ballistic . I told Mum that if she did that then l will walk out of the door and she will never see me again. I am not proud of myself but this took the biscuit. I was trying to defend my mother and stop the financial abuse from my sister and my mother was shooting me, her advocate , the best person to her, in the back. I was so betrayed. I went nuts and l had to apologize for my behaviour three times. I really could not believe my sister would stoop so low to regain control. I could also kick myself for feeling sorry for my sister because she must be desperate for the control. I could bang my own head on a brick wall . After all she has done to me the way she has treated me l feel sorry for her!! Instead of my Mum saying how bad it was for my sister to want this to go on , she says l spoke really badly to her and l have had the most awful temper since l was little. Where the hell do l go from here ? I have cancelled the papers today so they have no excuse to need the card . My sister has been on to my Mother for the bank card for 10 months , l use Mum's bank card to buy her incontinence pads and wipes and PPE and toiletries and everything she ever needs. If the card is gone l don't know when it will be replaced for me to buy Mum her things. It is a pathetic excuse anway!

Omg mrs, that is utterly disgraceful - if I'm to understand it completely (forgive me if I've picked it up wrong) your sister & bil have had control of your mums money with the excuse of needing to pay for newspapers? I don't know if you've ever ventured into the elderly parents thread but there's some people there who may be able to help advise you.
Personally I'd like to go around and head butt your sister, it sounds like she's robbing your mum blind while you're Cinderella doing all the graft. I'd be apologising to no one

Again sorry if I've read wrong! My own parent is late 80's and I help with things, the thoughts of someone taking a vulnerable persons money and leaving them worried really troubles me.

I read it like that not but as they also have £32k stashes while DM runsa out of money.
It will cause a shit storm but I would report the bank card missing and take hold of the replacement.
DM needs to ask for her money back off her daughter (not that she will) to live off.
You don't have to apologise to us. Not even your DM but is she angry that you are calling all of this out. Isn't sister golden child.

Peak stress here = chocolate x 2 bars.

Line under and that's my fall off. Did weights this morning and have 10k steps

Thank you so much for your support l knew you would understand ❤️ and yes they have 32k in their house of my Mum's & were using the payment of the papers as an excuse to continue taking the money out and stashing it 🙄 l had to threaten Mum that l was going to leave and never See her again because she had betrayed me . I have Mum's bank card and have bought everything for her but because the money was not on the post office card anymore they wanted the bank card off me !! To continue getting the money out !!!
2 X choc bars is excellent you should see what l have packed away 🙄

Thank youNot l will go & see the elderly parents thread 💐👏😘

Do ask there if you feel able mrs, honestly those guys (look for the cockroach threads, I know it sounds mad but trust me) have experience no end in this area.
I've had best part of a bottle of wine and crisps and chocolate so I think we're all keeping each other company on food is comfort wagon (and drink in my case)

mrs what the...?! That’s awful. I guess if you did step away sis wouldn’t help your mum in the same way you are?

life stay positive xxx

Under 5000 steps today. And a glass of wine. Ds was spectacularly “three years old” this evening. And then Dd refused to sleep. Finally at 845 I got downstairs and had dinner with dh. I put both kids to bed as he is absolutely frazzled from work.

Wine was needed. Screw you dry veganuary.

I think you did well to have 1 glass, I had more...let's leave it there. Elderly parent over, we're their support bubble as far as the world is concerned. So wine is always mandatory. Over but did crazy steps today so let's just call it a neutral day. Stationery in diet terms. Could have been substantially worse, and that's the thinking I'm going with.

Dunno how but marginally down. Today is a new day

Sts as yesterday, having Chinese tonight so no doubt there'll be a jump tomorrow. Happy scales is much better at dealing with that so it won't be as devastating as the Fitbit apps average calculations.
Not a great nights sleep, I've a lot of walking to be done, hope it's not too icy as I've no choice.
Nice to have a drop on a Friday life

Mrs what on Earth!!!! There are no words. I’d be furious

I was up in the night with stomach pains - no other symptoms just pains, but it’s quite bad and hasn’t settled. Missed my spin class which was a live one at 7am because I was still in agony. Worried I’ve caught the cat’s illness as he has some sort of viral infection and has been sneezing for days (vet gave drugs and said just keep an eye on him)

Not sure I’ll get steps or spin today if I continue to feel this unwell.

I also had a G&T last night but I did stop at one so I’m taking that as a win!

If anyone is tempted to try the Jukes alcohol free wine, don’t. It is disgusting! Basically just red wine vinegar, reeks of vinegar when you’re drinking it and tastes sour and nasty.

You poor thing, rest until you feel better gen
I have given up on non alcoholic wine, waste of money/calories. Wine needs alcohol end of story.

Big walk in the cold/frosty/icy conditions this morning - no choice had to be done. Really hard work trying to negotiate paths & roads without falling on my ample ass. On the plus side I got over 8,500 and I have to go on another walk later so I should easily get my remaining 6,500.
Planning a light lunch to allow for takeaway dinner, I'll need to keep busy

Afternoon everyone 🤗
Don't blame any of you that are not feeling the healthy eating ATM 🙄
Thank you all so much you are brilliant!!
Em my a ster does nothing except criticise and find fault . I told my mother l would go and never return because l was in utter despair. I was trying to help her to be in control of her money again yet she was shooting me in the back!!

Sister! 🤗

Agree with not wine needs alcohol.

If you’re after nice non alcoholic other stuff though seedlip “gin” is nice. As is ginish.

I like a Heineken zero or a peroni zero too.

Also Koppaberg do an alcohol free cidre which tastes just like fizzy squash

Yeah alcohol free beer is acceptable but 2 is my limit - bit gassy?
Just shy of 14,000 and bloody frozen after 2 walks. Still icy in spots, I fear this is going to be a hard winter.
Please be good to yourself mrs, there's behaviour that isn't acceptable and you're not in the wrong to stand up for yourself. As a parent myself, I hope I don't end up behaving the way a lot of elderly parents do. They say teenagers are entitled, they should meet my octogenarian on a bad day! You matter, a lot

I drink alcohol free cider its like very fizzy pop

Snow day here. Had to drive through a blizzard to take DS to the dentist. No walk out due to said rush to dentist